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The final straw…

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inthecornersofmymind · 07/01/2026 18:16

My husband and I have not been getting on as well as we should be, although we don’t argue or bicker.

This relationship is taking a toll on me, and I just can't handle it anymore.

This morning, our 10-year-old eldest son felt very excited about returning to school.

I had a phone call late morning, where they asked me to pick him up as he was not feeling well. As soon as we got into the car, he mentioned he wasn't feeling unwell. He apologised and explained that he lied because he knew I was upset, and he just wanted to return home to be with me.

I am good at masking my emotions around the children, but they claim that children can sense things.

At just 10 years old, he shouldn't have to think about me while at school; in fact, he should be free of any worries.

When we got back home, I phoned my husband, only for him to claim that this issue is something I've caused myself and that he is 'not trying to hear it.'

He displayed no concern whatsoever for our son being upset at school.

I am struggling to cope with this.

Recently, I have encouraged us to go to therapy because I am convinced it will help us work through our difficulties. He lacks any interest but tells me I should have it for my benefit.

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Avslighthead · 17/04/2026 18:54

I wonder how this family is going?

Thattimenow · 15/02/2026 07:35

Just seen your last thread about hitting your husband.

you need to tell your therapist @inthecornersofmymind

Lettsof · 24/01/2026 07:24

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inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 17:53

Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 17:14

So I am guessing he offered to drive as he was under the impression you wanted him to go. I don't understand why you didn't say to him earlier in the day you have your therapy session booked, you will be leaving at X time and back around Y time (and therefore drove yourself).

I doubted that he genuinely wanted to take me there, so I assumed he would be okay with me saying that he didn’t need to enter the room with me.

I feel sad because he was putting in the effort, bless him. He is still unhappy with me; last night, he slept with his back turned to me and hasn't really spoken since.

The moment I collect our 4-year-old from nursery, he has chosen to act like a little devil. I'm trying my hardest to avoid getting stressed out.

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Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 17:14

inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 09:53

We each have our own cars; he said that he would drive.

So I am guessing he offered to drive as he was under the impression you wanted him to go. I don't understand why you didn't say to him earlier in the day you have your therapy session booked, you will be leaving at X time and back around Y time (and therefore drove yourself).

inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 10:00

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I thought he would be okay; I didn't realise he was actually looking forward to it.

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inthecornersofmymind · 23/01/2026 09:53

Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 07:47

Do you drive? Is it that he is annoyed at having to give you a lift and for you to turn around and say he doesn't need to come in with you, making it seem like you have used him as a taxi service?

We each have our own cars; he said that he would drive.

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Moonnstarz · 23/01/2026 07:47

inthecornersofmymind · 22/01/2026 19:51

I had my first therapy session today, and I came away feeling good and hopeful.

Just before heading out, I told my husband he didn’t need to accompany me into the session since I'd feel more comfortable going in alone.

He claimed that every time he attempts to support me, I push him away, and that I am on my own from this point forward. During the drive there, he ignored me, failed to pick me up after my session, and chose not to respond to my calls.

He has been totally distant with me tonight, and I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong.

Do you drive? Is it that he is annoyed at having to give you a lift and for you to turn around and say he doesn't need to come in with you, making it seem like you have used him as a taxi service?

Pumpkinlit · 23/01/2026 07:04

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inthecornersofmymind · 22/01/2026 19:51

I had my first therapy session today, and I came away feeling good and hopeful.

Just before heading out, I told my husband he didn’t need to accompany me into the session since I'd feel more comfortable going in alone.

He claimed that every time he attempts to support me, I push him away, and that I am on my own from this point forward. During the drive there, he ignored me, failed to pick me up after my session, and chose not to respond to my calls.

He has been totally distant with me tonight, and I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong.

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inthecornersofmymind · 19/01/2026 10:06

Emilybemily8 · 19/01/2026 06:33

This sounds like a very unhappy home.

I hope therapy goes well for you @inthecornersofmymind

Thanks, I'm hoping for the best too.

I wouldn't describe it as an unhappy home; our kids are happy, and that's what matters most.

I plan to arrange therapy for our 4-year-old as I think it will benefit him. I aim to correct his behavior before he begins school in September.

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Emilybemily8 · 19/01/2026 06:33

This sounds like a very unhappy home.

I hope therapy goes well for you @inthecornersofmymind

inthecornersofmymind · 18/01/2026 19:10

I have no intention of apologising; it's really that simple.

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Rhaidimiddim · 18/01/2026 18:23

YourPoliteLeader · 17/01/2026 15:06

That poster was supporting you and you have got very cross and jumped on her.

Edited

Thank you.

harriethoyle · 17/01/2026 18:02

Just did an AS and read the other thread. Bonkers. Thanks for the heads up @YourPoliteLeader - I’m out!

inthecornersofmymind · 17/01/2026 17:50

YourPoliteLeader · 17/01/2026 17:35

I have to say, this has all become a little strange.

You sounded (and indeed on your other thread allude to being) very unhappy. But now… absolutely determined to try to convince us that all hunky dory.

Maybe go back and read your own Op.

Indeed the thread title is “final straw”!

It’s not all perfect, so I could never persuade anyone; I would just be lying to myself.

Yes, I am a stay-at-home mother with no intention of going back to work, and once again, I do not rely on my husband for financial support; I would never have had three children if that were the case.

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YourPoliteLeader · 17/01/2026 17:49

harriethoyle · 17/01/2026 17:44

The importance of a veneer of respectability? Who knows. But the thread has done a 180 since the start…

As does the other thread.
Her husband never takes the kids out at the weekends, ever.

All in all, it sounds very messed up.
The OP gets glimmers of that, hence starting the thread, but then back tracks when the consensus is - sweet Jesus this is not a happy home.

harriethoyle · 17/01/2026 17:44

YourPoliteLeader · 17/01/2026 17:40

But says not remotely dependent on him.

So must have family money

The importance of a veneer of respectability? Who knows. But the thread has done a 180 since the start…

YourPoliteLeader · 17/01/2026 17:40

harriethoyle · 17/01/2026 17:40

Bearing in mind OP is a SAHM with an avowed intention never to return to work @YourPoliteLeader I suspect she’s decided to put up and shut up 🤷🏻‍♀️

But says not remotely dependent on him.

So must have family money

harriethoyle · 17/01/2026 17:40

Bearing in mind OP is a SAHM with an avowed intention never to return to work @YourPoliteLeader I suspect she’s decided to put up and shut up 🤷🏻‍♀️

YourPoliteLeader · 17/01/2026 17:35

I have to say, this has all become a little strange.

You sounded (and indeed on your other thread allude to being) very unhappy. But now… absolutely determined to try to convince us that all hunky dory.

Maybe go back and read your own Op.

Indeed the thread title is “final straw”!

inthecornersofmymind · 17/01/2026 17:31

YourPoliteLeader · 17/01/2026 16:58

He doesn’t sound happy though
and because he’s not happy, he’s not caring, which is what you’re craving.
So really… this is just going to limp on and your younger sons will pick up on your unhappiness as your eldest did.

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If my husband were unhappy, he would certainly tell me.

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Createausername1970 · 17/01/2026 17:14

I thought you meant your husband would accompany you to and from the session, a bit of moral support, which is useful if you find a session draining and would be happier not having to concentrate on driving home. I didn't realise you meant actually being in the room. That is definitely inappropriate.

harriethoyle · 17/01/2026 17:00

Are you going to apologise to @Rhaidimiddim for being so rude @inthecornersofmymind ?