Dh has a drink every night. I don’t think it’s ok. AIBU?

It might be helpful to think with him how you can support him with the work stress. If there’s any changes that can be made to lessen this. As the wanting a drink, lack of socialising and motivation to exercise seem to be all symptoms of the stress.
Can he change his hours/ look for another job/can you adapt your job?

I don’t know anyone who regularly drinks during the week let alone everyday. It’s not normal but it’s very normal on Mumsnet.

@Chickenwing2 I don’t know of anyone who drinks daily.

I don’t know many people who don’t.

A slippery slope to what? He's a middle aged man. If he was on a slippery slope he would have slipped wherever he's slipping to by now.

It feels like a slippy slope to me. Could you start walking together? This may incentivise him to clean up his lifestyle.

Alcohol Is awful for disrupting sleep. It might assist is sending you to sleep but it doesn’t keep you asleep. Yes, one drink probably isn’t going to turn you into an alcoholic but it only exacerbates sleep problems. Now the one drink is a habit he needs to break and replace with something else.

That is exactly the justification people use to drink everyday. In reality, there are several mediating factors such as overall health, diet, lifestyle, climate, familial history of illness, that would determine to what extent drinking everyday is 'beneficial'. Because in reality, no amount of alcohol is good.

Yes I know. But if my loved one were trashing their body and wellbeing every night with alcohol, I wouldn't just stay quiet.

You say this so lightly and with an exclamation mark as though it is wryly amusing. Aren't you horrified and worried?

I was raised by alcoholic parents so one drink a night sounds fine to me

I actually can't believe how many posters are saying a drink every night is ok.
It is not ok to drink every night. Using alcohol to help relieve stress is a problem. Having a drink every night to help with that stress is alcohol dependency.

It's such a slippery slope, all non functioning alcoholics were once functioning alcoholics.

OP I would really try to get your DH to have some alcohol free evenings. And please don't let anyone tell you that you are controlling for worrying about your DH's alcohol consumption. You are not. Trust me, I have seen too many cases of "just one wee drink in the evening' become a serious problem.

One a night? Max 25 units per week? If you were to take him to a substance abuse service they’d laugh you out of the door.

This. Alcohol is an addictive substance, no matter how we like to dress it up. Drinking it every day is a slippery slope and addiction doesn’t discriminate.

It’s nothing! My DH has 7+ cans of beer and some vodka&coke every night!

Glad I gave you a good laugh, but I don’t feel like laughing when I see what alcohol has done to my dad. And he started off with just one glass of wine a night. I’m astonished at the number of people on this thread who think this is normal. It’s not. I think a lot of people are in denial.

But that's exactly what you are...a drinker!

The hypocrisy and denial of some people on here is truly outstanding.

I think you’re being very unreasonable. I have the equivalent of tha but spread over the weekend! You sound a bit controlling and as an adult able to make his own choices, I would let him decide.

Well good for you but my life turned into a living hell because one glass of wine a night escalated. My ex eventually went into recovery but twenty years later I can still feel ill with the memories of it.

No it’s not. My ex did this and ended up a raging alcoholic because one glass of wine turned into a bottle, which turned into two which turned into park bench territory. If he is relying on having a drink every night it’s not beyond the realms of possibility he could increase it. I’d be very wary and I’d be watching him like a hawk.

'Perfectly reasonable and normal'?!

I don't think it's normal to drink every single night, no matter how little.

Many adults drink alcohol, but daily drinking is a minority pattern, not the norm.
Most people who drink do so occasionally or a few times a week, not every day.
Regular nightly drinking is more common than people realise, but it’s still not what most people do.

The fact that his lifestyle is so unhealthy along with the drinking indicates a much deeper problem.

Don't try and normalise drinking!

Not a problem - may be if he was having three or four but one next to nothing. Wouldn’t give this another thought

Yes , but this is something you’ve always done , & I’m sure you’re in a good place .
OPS husband hasn’t always done this , he’s very stressed out with work , so this having one drink ( and bear in mind it’s a new habit ) could very easily escalate.

Oh for goodness sake. I've been having a glass of wine with my dinner for several decades. And my consumption hasn't crept up in the slightest.

If I go to the pub with friends, I still only have one alcoholic drink. I'm on orange juice or soda the rest of the time.

Totally unnecessary 😒