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To think being a reader doesn't make you better or smarter?

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OnceaReaderNeveraReader · 07/01/2026 16:25

Never been a reader. I have tried many times in my life and have enjoyed the odd book here and there but have never managed to actually become a regular reader and don't miss books ever. I was talking about this with some colleagues the other day and one of them made me feel a bit bad about this as if reading is a sign of better intellectual ability and superiority.
I am uni educated and enjoy a variety of other cultural hobbies such as art, theatre and dance but I just cannot understand what is so special about books!
How does one become a reader later in life and is it really that bad if I don't enjoy it?

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Dollyfloss · 07/01/2026 17:14

One thing I find (as a prolific reader) is that I’m just generally more intelligent and have a better vocabulary than most people I come across.

And I think that’s down to me reading a wide variety of books and also just being very curious about certain things and going down rabbit holes googling/researching stuff.

Not being a reader doesn’t mean you’re not intelligent or very capable of course not - but my own personal opinion is that I find it difficult to discuss a wide range of topics with people who don’t read.

One of the things that makes dh and compatible is that we both read a lot (we both read fiction and non fiction but totally different stuff) and like to keep abreast of what’s going on in the world so we can usually always find something interesting to talk about.

My best friends (whom I love) are not readers at all, are not interested in politics/art/literature etc. and whilst we never stop talking when we’re together it tends to be quite superficial stuff or talking about relationships. I have to use my hobby groups to discuss more intellectual things like at my book club.

I recently in my friendship group of 6 women mentioned the fact I read Jane Eyre once a year and none of them knew what I was talking about. A couple did say “is that a film?”! They are all intelligent women!

FerrisWheelsandLilacs · 07/01/2026 17:14

YouBelongHere · 07/01/2026 16:49

I'm an avid reader but I think it's unfair to say people can't learn from TV or movies - it's surprising how many times I've known the answer to a question and when my friends queried how I knew it and it's because it was in 'Family Guy' of all things 😂

I don't think reading makes you smarter but in answer to your question of how one becomes a reader later in life it's like most things - you find your genre. And your writing style. You find an author you like who's books you don't mind and maybe you read more of them.

And if you still don't like reading that doesn't matter either. My friends are always wanting to do arts and crafts which I don't really like because anything I make looks a bit rubbish anyway. We all have our hobbies!

DH doesn’t read, left school at 16. I’m a big reader, university educated, professional job, generally quite clever.

9/10 out of ten when DH says something educated or something I don’t know I’ll joke whether he knows that from Big Bang Theory (which he’s watched about a million times) and the answer is yes.

(also to defend DH, he’s incredibly practical and knows an impressive amount about electrics, plumbing, networking, pharmaceuticals and DIY despite that not being in any way related to his work. He is just clever in a different way to me, but does learn a lot from pop culture “low brow” TV!)

RescueMeFromThisSilliness · 07/01/2026 17:13

KindaExtraordinary · 07/01/2026 16:53

It depends what you read. I’m only an occasional pleasure reader these days as life is full on and I have reading to do for work so tend to concentrate on that.

I know lots of people however who are voracious readers but when you ask about it you find they read absolute nonsense chick lit brain rot type books aimed at a reading / emotional age of about 12. The literary equivalent of Love Island.

They are reading for their own personal enjoyment, and that is all that matters.

Greybutdontwanttodye · 07/01/2026 17:13

Now I think about it, in my totally non-scientific analysis, the only people who have told me they never read books have been significantly less smart/had less common sense than their peers. I’m talking 5 people over 20 years in a professional work setting…so not many…but it’s a 100% hit rate. (I’ve also worked with some hopeless avid readers for balance!)

UnusualOtter · 07/01/2026 17:11

I think it absolutely does make you more knowledgable. As a child I got shedloads of knowledge about other eras and other countries that I just would not have got by watching TV. Books tend to go into more detail. From Little Women alone I learned about the American Civil War, Pilgrim's Progress and what "muslin" was, among many other things, and was inspired to make my sister's contribute to a family newspaper (and eventually became a journalist).

At the moment I am reading a book which in just one aside told me something about Waterloo Bridge which I didn't know. The amount I have learned by reading, I just can't think how I would have gained that any other way. And of course it isn't just facts although those are the most obvious - it is getting a deeper understanding of humanity, different ways of thinking, different ways of reacting to things, finding out that you are not alone in what you think or feel or conversely that there are many different ways to think and feel. TV and movies do not take you inside people's heads.

usedtobeaylis · 07/01/2026 17:11

I don't think it makes anyone better or smarter by default but I do think it's something that is an important tool for improving a whole lot of skills related to improving intelligence. I don't think that's remotely controversial to say.

Christmaseree · 07/01/2026 17:10

MrsBunny2018 · 07/01/2026 17:03

I disagree. Reading broadens the mind and it shows in conversation. I bet if asked, the majority of people could name the last few winners of Love Island but very few could tell you the seven wonders of the ancient world, for example. It's quite depressing

Do you think that’s true of people of all ages?
I am mid 50’s and don’t know anyone who watches Love island.

Sundayevenings · 07/01/2026 17:10

EarringsandLipstick · 07/01/2026 17:00

Not so much. Of course it depends on what you consider the purpose of reading - if it is just to acquire knowledge, then what you read is important (quality, accuracy etc).

However, our brains respond exactly the same to any form of written material, in terms of engaging, cognitive response and so on.

People should read what they enjoy.

Well personally I read for fun, but the OP was asking if reading makes you smarter, so I was responding to that. Reading certain things can definitely make you more ignorant. I know someone who recently started reading all sorts of conspiracy theory books, and it has definitely made them much more ignorant.

CandlelitKitchen · 07/01/2026 17:09

@OnceaReaderNeveraReader you say you enjoy art, theatre and dance.

Are you never tempted to pick up a book on those subjects, to revel in the information there and research or learn more? When I see a play I want to know about the writer, the actors, the story behind it all. Does that not draw you in to reading?

OhFeyreDarling · 07/01/2026 17:09

OnceaReaderNeveraReader · 07/01/2026 16:49

What I am interested in (genuine question) is, how is that different from things like movies, tv series or a theatre show though? Why is that supposed to do it better than all these other things?

Reading isn't necessarily better at broadening knowledge than any of these IMO, it's just whatever works for you and whatever you enjoy.

I like reading books on my phone (Kindle) as when I read a word I don't know I'll highlight and look it up. I don't use this knowledge to feel superior I just enjoy knowing it, for myself. I'm not overly intelligent or academic, not studied at uni and would likely struggle to do a degree in anything.

Don't let anyone make you feel inferior OP, maybe they didn't mean it that way but still...don't feel bad

newornotnew · 07/01/2026 17:08

OnceaReaderNeveraReader · 07/01/2026 16:49

What I am interested in (genuine question) is, how is that different from things like movies, tv series or a theatre show though? Why is that supposed to do it better than all these other things?

Using your own imagination through reading is different and provides different benefits. You can read research on how this works.

It's not about intelligence, but it is different.

boxofbuttons · 07/01/2026 17:08

KindaExtraordinary · 07/01/2026 16:53

It depends what you read. I’m only an occasional pleasure reader these days as life is full on and I have reading to do for work so tend to concentrate on that.

I know lots of people however who are voracious readers but when you ask about it you find they read absolute nonsense chick lit brain rot type books aimed at a reading / emotional age of about 12. The literary equivalent of Love Island.

I hate this kind of book with a passion, but I still think there's value in them: practicing concentration, imagination, reading comprehension. People don't have to be reading litfic to benefit from reading as a whole! Maybe the ice hockey porn novels aren't expanding the vocabulary a lot but someone who reads at all is more likely to start expanding their horizons than someone who doesn't read at all.

Bellyblueboy · 07/01/2026 17:07

I am a reader - it’s a hobby that I enjoy. It certainly doesn’t make me smarter or better - but it has broadened my horizons a bit and it has helped broaden my vocabulary.

I don’t have any options on non- readers. My sister is smarter than me and she hates novels. Has done since childhood.

LittleBitofBread · 07/01/2026 17:07

I do think reading fiction broadens the mind and the intellect. Or, put another way, I'd say the people I know who don't read fiction are less well-informed, less imaginative (for want of a better word; maybe I mean something to do with 'inner life' and also empathy/imagining other people's lives) and think less well than people I know who are readers.
This is purely personal experience, I know.

ManyPigeons · 07/01/2026 17:06

Better? No.

Smarter? Absolutely…. Someone who reads is taking in more information, practicing creativity, imagination, neural pathways are strengthened and attention span is often better.

Reading is a documented mental workout… it literally rewires your brain enhancing crystallised and fluid intelligence.

GasPanic · 07/01/2026 17:06

Really depends what you read. And the difference between "reading" as a method of gaining information and "reading books" which is just one method of reading.

Some fiction books have interesting concepts and new ideas.

Some don't really contain much at all in terms of interesting like most romantic fiction which is little better than soap operas.

I don't think reading books is an exclusive way these days of getting useful information. But reading of some sort (such as web pages) is a necessary tool for gaining information, especially detailed and specific information which often won't have things like TV programs made about it.

The net in many forms, web pages, podcasts and TV can be just as good, and the best thing is it can be tailored to your level of expertise. Some of it involves reading and some watching and listening.

But the idea that you can only become or be an intellectual by reading loads of books is somewhat primitive compared to say 30 years ago where it was probably necessary to actually read lots of books to be an intellectual.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 07/01/2026 17:06

This weekend we went to the Charles Dickens museum. He wasn't educated beyond 11 or 12 years old but was a varacious reader. I think it certainly broadened his mind.

Christmaseree · 07/01/2026 17:06

OnceaReaderNeveraReader · 07/01/2026 16:49

What I am interested in (genuine question) is, how is that different from things like movies, tv series or a theatre show though? Why is that supposed to do it better than all these other things?

I don’t know but I’ve never met a really intelligent person who doesn’t like to read.

JohnTheRevelator · 07/01/2026 17:04

I don't think being a reader necessarily makes you smarter or more intelligent,but one thing I do know is that it definitely improves your spelling, grammar and vocabulary. I've loved reading from a very early age, and without wanting to boastful,I would say that my spelling, grammar and vocabulary is better than people I know who don't read much.

Amiunemployable · 07/01/2026 17:04

Amiunemployable · 07/01/2026 17:01

I agree, OP.

I'm a massive reader. I love it. Don't think my DH has ever read a novel. He is most definitely NOT a reader. He's smarter than I am in lots of ways.

I'm university educated. He isn't. He's generally smarter than me. And more successful.

And to add to this, DH is a crap speller. That's one of the things I'm actually good at. I attribute that to reading. But stand by my original point.

MrsBunny2018 · 07/01/2026 17:03

I disagree. Reading broadens the mind and it shows in conversation. I bet if asked, the majority of people could name the last few winners of Love Island but very few could tell you the seven wonders of the ancient world, for example. It's quite depressing

wonderstuff · 07/01/2026 17:03

Reading regularly gives you a better vocabulary, but that’s not the same as being smarter. I do think books have given me a greater understanding of lots of things, other media doesn’t have the depth and detail of a book, an adaptation in film is almost always a reduced version. That said if you don’t enjoy it, you don’t, there’s nothing wrong with not reading. I rarely get the chance these days.

X123x321X · 07/01/2026 17:03

OnceaReaderNeveraReader · 07/01/2026 16:49

What I am interested in (genuine question) is, how is that different from things like movies, tv series or a theatre show though? Why is that supposed to do it better than all these other things?

We all have different ways to feed our brains.

Amiunemployable · 07/01/2026 17:02

YouBelongHere · 07/01/2026 16:49

I'm an avid reader but I think it's unfair to say people can't learn from TV or movies - it's surprising how many times I've known the answer to a question and when my friends queried how I knew it and it's because it was in 'Family Guy' of all things 😂

I don't think reading makes you smarter but in answer to your question of how one becomes a reader later in life it's like most things - you find your genre. And your writing style. You find an author you like who's books you don't mind and maybe you read more of them.

And if you still don't like reading that doesn't matter either. My friends are always wanting to do arts and crafts which I don't really like because anything I make looks a bit rubbish anyway. We all have our hobbies!

Just wanted to say this is me with The Simpsons!

I'm a big reader too but loads of my knowledge which I learnt as a child came from The Simpsons!

boxofbuttons · 07/01/2026 17:02

Anecdotally, the clever people I know are all readers to some extent.

There's a reason that reading comprehension is part of most education systems: reading isn't just about taking in words on a page, it's about visualising them, understanding context and subtext, processing it, following plots etc. I stopped reading for pleasure for ages and I found when I got back into it again that it was like a muscle, and the more I did it the easier I found it to get into a book, so I do think there's something to be said for the mental workout of reading that must be doing something good for the brain. And it can be hard to get into if you're not used to it, especially nowadays where the requirement to sit and be still and concentrate feels harder than ever.

I'd say pick something you really like the sound of and give it a go, if you want to - if you like art/theatre/dance then there are countless non-fiction books about them if you're interested, or another tack is to pick something 'easy' and fun to get you into it. Audiobooks are great, too - my husband's dyslexic and he finds these mean he still gets to enjoy books without the struggle.

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