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Can a MIL who hates her DIL love her grandchildren?

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Cookiecrumblepie · 07/01/2026 13:30

AIBU to think this is not possible? So if MIL has always been nasty and hateful to DIL, she can’t genuinely love the DILs children and have a great relationship with them? Or is it possible for a MIL to separate the two?

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takealettermsjones · 07/01/2026 13:34

It is certainly possible, but it won't be pleasant or beneficial for those kids to witness someone being nasty to their mother.

LittleLapwing · 07/01/2026 13:32

Speaking personally, mine tolerated the ones who looked like DH but wanted nothing to do with the one who looked like me.
She now has nothing to do with any of them.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 07/01/2026 13:32

It's entirely possible to separate the two

The GC will be partly MIL's blood for a start