To still be hurt that my DSis stole my baby name?

Very shitty

I would have stuck with the name.

I wish you had used it anyway. When my sil was pregnant and saying she liked the girls name I had always picked out I made sure to say very clearly that I’d still use it so they’d be two little cousin Sandra’s (not the name), as I knew she’d be absolutely furious if she used it and I had just used it anyway, so I made sure she knew that’s what would happen, I have no issues with cousins having the same name so I could say it very calmly ‘That’d be cute’ as it didn’t bother me.

I would have named my child the exact same name.

I understand your upset but this is why you should have been petty.

Ouch.That was a very sneaky move from your sister.

That’s why you don’t share your possible name choices with anybody before your baby is born.

If you ever think about another child in the future think about some rare name that you’re not going to use and announce it while keeping your true choice to yourself,something along the lines ”we’re expecting a girl and she will be called Araminta Rose” while you chose Audrey Elena.

It's awful of her. I think it's very sad you didn't use the name anyway.
Names are so important and emotional and I never get people who say "it's just a name".

I'd have just named my child the same name.

I never understand these threads.

Why didn't you say "Oh goodness, how funny, that's the name we are using too!"

I have the same name as my cousin for this reason. I love it, I think we are closer because of it.

This is one of those situations I’d love to hear the other side of. Because if the name was also in either side of your sister’s family or one she also loved for years or her partner’s favourite then I think she was fair enough to use it. If she had never heard of it until you said that was what you liked and she’s done it solely to spite you (seems unlikely) then maybe she’s not reasonable.

Either way this is why I never discussed favourite baby names until they were born. You need to get over it though, it’s just a name you liked, she didn’t steal your child.

No horrible idea - not the child's fault.

This 💯 and agreed it was a nasty thing your sister did.

So when you mentioned the name she didn't say that she also loved it & had been thinking o using it?

So you think it was done deliberately to prevent you from using it?

I doubt she used the name to spite you, she loved it as much as you did. If you'd given birth first then you would have used it I presume...leaving her feeling the same way. The only fair agreement would have been for neither of you to use it.

All my life my aunt banged on about my name, as she wanted to use it, my Mum loved it so used it as I was born a month before my cousin. Honestly, get over it.

No, that was mean of her. Normally I'm team 'nobody owns a name' but when it's your sister and you were actually pregnant it's different. Out of pure kindness she should have chosen something else.

You're not but you should have had the balls to give your child the same name as you always wanted to.

I got my son's name in a dream; I didn't tell a soul ( not even my mum or Dh). Somethings you just have to keep to yourself!

Never discuss names.

Does it really matter if two cousins/friends have the same name?

I'm from an Irish background, I have a large extended family. Nearly every family has a Patrick, an Eileen and a Joseph/Josephine. It's traditional. Somehow we all manage to differentiate between the various difference Pats/Paddys/Patsys/Joes/Jos and Josies. No one has ever taken the wrong child home by mistake. I never mistook any of my 5 Aunty Eileens for my mum Eileen.

Really I think you need to forget about it and move on .If its a popular name and she liked it then thats Think how lovely your baby girls are and healthy .Life really is too short and all that .Hopefully they can be good friends in the future

As someone who was named the same as my cousin who is not much older, 4 decades later when we all get together we still take the piss out of my mother for her decision.

There are thousands of names, if you choose a top 100 name there is a reasonably high chance that someone else raised at the same time in the same cuture will like it too, choose a different one, get over it!

We have two males in the family with the same first name. But one goes by his middle name and always has done. It avoids confusion.
Your sister has done a Twat trick here. But it's done now.
I would be tempted to get a pet and name it after the original name 🐍 🐀 🐟 but I'm a bit petty 😆

We nearly had the same thing happen to us. I always wanted a certain name if we had a boy and my husbands friend and his wife declared they were using that name, as they liked the sound of it and their son was arriving before ours. I didnt stand for it, put my foot down and said no, that's always been our babys name, and you KNOW it. They didn't use my fave name as a first name, but instead they used it as a middle name. 🙌 we gave birth a liyyle while after them, and both boys suit their chosen names.
Your sister is a twat.

YWBU not to say something at the time.

She’s a dick but honestly if you loved the name I would have just used it. Yeah it might have been confusing but no more confusing than people who give their kids the name of one of their parents.

I think I'd have still used the name! But yes that is unreasonable of her!

I would still have used the name . I picked the name I wanted for my son, many years before I actually had him. I would still have named him that name regardless of who had used it before me.

Why didn’t you use the name? More than one person can have the same name you know, even in the same family🤷‍♂️