To still be hurt that my DSis stole my baby name?

Your Sister might have loved the name for a long time too but never mentioned it to you. Are you upset with everyone that has named their child that name? No, then why be upset with your Sister?
When my DS & DDIL had their first child they loved a name my DD has always loved & said many a time that she'd call her child it when the time comes. Anyway DS & DDIL couldn't agree on any other name so they spoke with DD & asked her how'd she'd feel if they used the name. My DD was so in love with her first Nephew that she said she be happy for them to name him her favourite name. We tell people now that she 'gifted' her Nephew his name.

She was definitely unreasonable. Could you give your DD an extra middle name of Alice? (I think it's relatively easy to add a name). There's a reasonable chance that she won't be close to her cousin in adulthood and may wish to have an alternative name later on (e.g. starting uni).

I thought I had the perfect name, thought it was just original enough, DS got to school and he was one of 4 and I’ve since kind of gone off the name. Now they’re giving him random nicknames I loathe. Maybe it didn’t work out for a reason! You can still go off the name after it’s decided. It was rude but I bet you’ll feel smug about it at some point over the next few years just you wait x

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. My husband has 7 first cousins with the same first name as him. Three of my MIL’s sisters-in-law had the same name as her. Organising the seating at the wedding was a challenge. Let them be. Just do what you want.

Me too! I would have been frothing with rage but I would have very determinedly used the name I was going to use, regardless. I feel angry on your behalf OP.

I think it’s just the fact that my cousin acted like it was her original thought in paying homage to my grandmother and she let everyone think that .

On the other side of my family there’s a few grandchildren boys with the same name , which is great , but no one stole an original idea about paying respect , paying homage and wanted everyone else to think it was their ideawithout even saying anything to the other family member who they got the idea from , and then went on to lap up all the praise for it.

This has gone on quite a bit with a boys name in my family . It’s celebrated that there are a few grandchildren called Daniel

happened to me . I told my ex sister in law and she said it was a horrible thing to do . was glad to get that validation as someone else said to me stop being jealous . I was hurt as my cousin stole my baby name after talking to me about not knowing what to call her child . My baby name at that time was our grandmothers name . I was in floods of tears but just let it go , I never said anything to her . I thought that I would have been lambasted for doing so by her and another dominant extended family member .She acted like nothing had happened and that she hadn’t stole my baby name, I never put it to her that she had. She got congratulated by my grandparents. After some years had passed , my Taid ( Taid is welsh for grandad ) congratulated my cousin again saying that she had been the only one to call her child after his wife or himself . ( there are many great grandchildren ). I kind of adored my Taid . My grandparents never knew , and I didn’t go on to have children . But there’s lots more that my grandparents didn’t know besides, how I wanted to pay homage to them - big time.

I reckon you should just let it go . ( I did)

The children who are cousins won’t have a life completely together so why does it matter ? You should have chosen the name you love . The Americans especially often have the same name even in the same family eg father John and son John junior . Your two are just cousins !

If my sister knew I had my heart set on a name there's no way she would use it. Not nice at all. Xxx

I wonder how many posters really would have still used the name just a month later?

Perhaps it might depend on how much time they were likely to spend together?

Sad David 😂😂😂

Yep, I would’ve done the exact same. I wouldn’t have given two fucks.

Yes, my cousin Small Tony is 6 ft 4". His father, Big Tony, is a mere 5 ft 10".

I was at university with a Sad David, because his girlfriend dumped him in the first term, and you would see him sinking pints and looking suicidal in the college bar. All the other Davids were (comparatively) happy.

Its total arse - you don't own a name. If you like it - then use it.

Your sister has not taken away this name for you. She just happens to also like it and has used it for her child. There was absolutely nothing to stop you using it for your child - nothing whatsoever. This is all complete nonsense.

No-one owns a name - anyone can use it.

Not for the mumsnet crowd. Someone daring to use the same name would be called a snake, a cow, spiteful and not to be trusted. And they are not the worst things I’ve seen on this thread. No wonder mumsnet is full of family fallouts and bad feeling.

Would it have been terrible to have used the name too? My husband's family use the same name repeatedly (Maria) for religious reasons.

Your feelings are completely valid. It’s such a bizarre thing to do. I can’t ever fathom doing that, no matter how much I loved the name. It just seems such a nasty, spiteful thing to do.

Your sister is rude and selfish. To those not getting the point the OP was going to name her baby that name. OP was pregnant too and had picked the name and her sister knew it. Her sister happened to have had her baby first and just took the name. A kind sister would have said I love it too, do you mind. She knew it would upset OP so she didn't tell her and acted like a snake. This isn't about loving the same name, it is about deceit.

My god some of you must treat your siblings appallingly to think this is okay. What is the point of family when they treat you like this? OP doesn't have to get over it. Her sister is completely in the wrong and being entitled about it now.

It would be different if you where planning to use the name for a hypothetical future child but you where using for the baby you have had and that’s really fucking low and mean of her I don’t know what her motive was behind doing it. But I agree with a previous poster if you ever get a pet in the future I strongly suggest you use the name.

I have a name which I love and would loved to have had a 2nd child (unfortunately never happened) and used it , can be either a boy or girls name.
Ive been a teacher for 16+yrs and have never known a child with it, think its more popular in USA.
I was talking to a pregnant colleague several yrs ago when she said she had a few names she loved and it was one of them.

More than 1 person can love a name and I know you told her but it could also have been her 1st choice but she kept hadn't voiced it.

Never trust your sister again.

Easy for your sister to say ‘get over it’ when she has used the name of your dreams. I’m so sorry and I would be super upset too - it’s hard enough when friends do it but your sister prioritised her desire for the name over your feelings and that makes her a selfish cow. I appreciate there are lots of names out there but if you had your heart set on this one I feel bad for you. Congratulations on your baby x

If you really liked the name you should’ve used it too. I know best friends who called their sons the same name because they both liked it.