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Am I being over sensitive?

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Bulldog01 · 06/01/2026 23:27

Back in June 2025,we were invited to my Husband's niece wedding reception.We declined as we live 130 miles from the reception.We sent a decent card with best wishes & a Cheque for £50.00 dated 11/06/25.We would normally send much more,but as we were not attending the reception & her behavior in the past was verging on very rude to our daughter at a previous wedding.We did not feel this was being mean.Today 6/1/26 a cheque was cleared on our bank account from my husband's niece six months after it was sent! I was really quite annoyed by this! Husband thought I was being overly sensitive. Lucky we had some money in the account to pay the cheque.What are your thoughts?

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Haggisfish3 · 06/01/2026 23:31

It’s quite cheeky but I wouldn’t be offended. TBH I find cheques a total pita so I would potentially take ages to cash one too. 😬

Butchyrestingface · 06/01/2026 23:30

Why was it rude to cash the check you sent her as a gift? Do you have some unwritten rule that cheques must be banked within 1 week or did you expect her to use it as a coffee mat?

She probably mislaid it or maybe the card with the envelope itself had got wedged in with another one so she was only opening it for the first time.

Littletinytarzanswingingfromanosehair · 06/01/2026 23:30

Did they send a thank you acknowledgement?
Maybe they were just saving for when they could really use it? Honeymoon later on etc?
What upset you? That is wasnt cashed ASAP?
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