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Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

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x2boys · 07/01/2026 13:05

CautiousLurker2 · 07/01/2026 13:00

Some of these replies are beyond medieval and almost dickensian. Next they’ll be saying that people should be institutionalised in Bedlams. A dear friend was a conjoined twin. Only part of her twin had withered and the midwife, recognising there would be years of surgeries ahead, and survival being iffy, suggested that her mother might want to pop her baby by an open Window and enjoy the cool December air…

60 years later, and yes most of her teens in and out of Great Ormand Street, she is in her 60s’ with 2 children. Missing some of her spine/coccyx has meant there are issues but she is still here, living a meaningful life. But I wonder how many PPs here would have happily popped her naked by the window to save the tax payer some money?

ETA just to add, she has never claimed benefits - even ran her own business for a long time, but I suspect the NHS funded operations (half a dozen with leading international specialists) that she received cost the tax payer a hell of a lot more than the average PIP claimant does in 10 years.

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There have been recent threads discussing Euthanasia of disabled children
And on any thread where a poster is struggling with caring for their disabled child, the knee jerk reaction from many poster ,s is to just send the child away to live in a mythical residential setting.

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 13:01

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 11:07

Maybe there should be a rule that if you are a busy body who reports disability fraud and it turns out that nothing is wrong you should be publicly named. People do all sorts of scummy stuff when they are anonymous.

DWP are actually moving towards this. They are phasing out anonymous reporting to eliminate malicious reports which waste time and andversely affect claimants. In the near future you will have to give personal details when you report, and will be held responsible if it turns out to be malicious.

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 13:01

ForWittyTealOP · 07/01/2026 12:47

If you can participate you can contribute.

There are two ways to view that sentence. The first is that you actually believe it, you think that if you want to participate in society you should make some sort of, presumably financial, contribution. In which case you're suggesting that disabled people who can't do that should be isolated, prevented from taking part in society.

The second is that you've not thought about what you're saying for a single second. Ever worked with profoundly disabled people? I have, and with support they could go out to restaurants, to social activities, to classes, on holiday. Could they have "contributed" by going to work or volunteering? Not at all. Their lives were still meaningful and valid, however much people like you would argue to the contrary.

People confuse participation in society with economic contribution. People who work in the tobacco industry might make an economic contribution but they have a negative impact on society. Just like people who run online porn businesses - lots of money, no social good.

CautiousLurker2 · 07/01/2026 13:00

ForWittyTealOP · 07/01/2026 12:47

If you can participate you can contribute.

There are two ways to view that sentence. The first is that you actually believe it, you think that if you want to participate in society you should make some sort of, presumably financial, contribution. In which case you're suggesting that disabled people who can't do that should be isolated, prevented from taking part in society.

The second is that you've not thought about what you're saying for a single second. Ever worked with profoundly disabled people? I have, and with support they could go out to restaurants, to social activities, to classes, on holiday. Could they have "contributed" by going to work or volunteering? Not at all. Their lives were still meaningful and valid, however much people like you would argue to the contrary.

Some of these replies are beyond medieval and almost dickensian. Next they’ll be saying that people should be institutionalised in Bedlams. A dear friend was a conjoined twin. Only part of her twin had withered and the midwife, recognising there would be years of surgeries ahead, and survival being iffy, suggested that her mother might want to pop her baby by an open Window and enjoy the cool December air…

60 years later, and yes most of her teens in and out of Great Ormand Street, she is in her 60s’ with 2 children. Missing some of her spine/coccyx has meant there are issues but she is still here, living a meaningful life. But I wonder how many PPs here would have happily popped her naked by the window to save the tax payer some money?

ETA just to add, she has never claimed benefits - even ran her own business for a long time, but I suspect the NHS funded operations (half a dozen with leading international specialists) that she received cost the tax payer a hell of a lot more than the average PIP claimant does in 10 years.

ShortColdandGrey · 07/01/2026 12:58

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

Bloody hell! My husband is disabled and struggles to walk, but he still does it as if he doesn't it makes his condition 10x worse. Do you want to grass on him as well because he does the school drop offs while I am at work?

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 12:58

ForWittyTealOP · 07/01/2026 12:47

If you can participate you can contribute.

There are two ways to view that sentence. The first is that you actually believe it, you think that if you want to participate in society you should make some sort of, presumably financial, contribution. In which case you're suggesting that disabled people who can't do that should be isolated, prevented from taking part in society.

The second is that you've not thought about what you're saying for a single second. Ever worked with profoundly disabled people? I have, and with support they could go out to restaurants, to social activities, to classes, on holiday. Could they have "contributed" by going to work or volunteering? Not at all. Their lives were still meaningful and valid, however much people like you would argue to the contrary.

This. Absolutely. Many posters missing the point here that this is exactly why PIP is paid. As I said upthread, the clue is in the name - personal independence payment.

The application of benefit is not decided on a black and white assessment of whether a claimant can participate or not, it’s the degree to which they can participate and whether they can do so better if supported by PIP.

As an example, someone upthread mentioned a claimant saving their benefit for holidays. This is a perfectly acceptable use of the benefit because someone with a significant mobility problem or even mental health issues would probably face increase costs in accessing holiday facilities because of access and accommodation suitability. Likewise many claimants save their benefit to be able to afford better personal care, better aids and appliances and access to better mobility products.

There is a fundamental lack of understanding or appreciation of what disability actually means here, and a complete lack of why PIP is paid. It’s nothing at all to do with the ability to work - it doesn’t assess for that at all and some of the replies are knee jerk, over simplistic and ableist.

ARoomSomewhere · 07/01/2026 12:58

FreyasCats · 06/01/2026 23:41

I presume you enjoy perfect health and an iron cast income from salary in a job that will never be under threat?

Life can change in an instant for all of us. If you knew just how hard it is to get PIP you might not be so sanctimonious.

Have you seen the medical evidence with your own eyes? For all you know they're furniture walking to the loo or the kitchen or sitting on the bedroom floor sobbing with pain in the middle of the night.

Keep your anger for the dodgy politicians, tech bros and other grifters who are the real villains...

Very well said. Instead of turning on each other, how about we, as a society, look at whete the real 'grifting' is, as its not a tiny % of people who you think are using 'dole poles' (as I've charmingly heard recently) to expensively rent mobility cars.

ForWittyTealOP · 07/01/2026 12:47

Clearhill · 07/01/2026 11:29

What an appalling attitude YOU have. What a massive, over-judgemental over-reaction. There is nothing immoral about questioning whether a significant chunk of state resources should go to supporting someone who is well enough to socialise regularly and is able to participate in society. If you can participate, you can contribute. The real question is why you have such a strong emotional reaction to this question. Did it hit a nerve, I wonder.

If you can participate you can contribute.

There are two ways to view that sentence. The first is that you actually believe it, you think that if you want to participate in society you should make some sort of, presumably financial, contribution. In which case you're suggesting that disabled people who can't do that should be isolated, prevented from taking part in society.

The second is that you've not thought about what you're saying for a single second. Ever worked with profoundly disabled people? I have, and with support they could go out to restaurants, to social activities, to classes, on holiday. Could they have "contributed" by going to work or volunteering? Not at all. Their lives were still meaningful and valid, however much people like you would argue to the contrary.

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 12:45

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 12:26

Exactly just like if you make any other type of legal challenge and lose. A judge has already made a decision in these cases. So many people think they know better than the judges.

And this is the crux of the matter right here. The DWP and tribunals service not only have a duty to deliver accurate decisions based on proper assessment of the claimants’ condition, but they need to ensure that that decision is correct in law, and that’s where the basis of tribunal decisions lie.

There are safeguards applied to each element of the assessment. For example, as has been pointed out here, the decision on whether someone qualifies for higher rate mobility is based on the 20 metre rule, but alongside that rule there are mitigations which legally have to be applied. It’s not just a matter of whether a claimant can walk 20 metres, it involves other factors relating to safety, reliability/repeatability and timescales among other things. If these are not sufficiently considered, then the decision doesn’t stand in law, which is why so many decisions are overturned at tribunal.

In many cases DWP have been criticised at tribunal because they don’t seem to have much regard for their own rules and regulations and ensuring they are legally sound. That posters think they have the ability to challenge decisions made by tribunals and report claimants for simply not looking disabled enough is breathtakingly entitled.

x2boys · 07/01/2026 12:32

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 12:26

Exactly just like if you make any other type of legal challenge and lose. A judge has already made a decision in these cases. So many people think they know better than the judges.

Indeed and its crap they come out with like they think the advisors and judges are gullible fools who believe anyone that tells them they are disabled just on their say so.

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 12:26

LadyKenya · 07/01/2026 12:24

Or have to pay towards the cost of the pointless investigation.

Exactly just like if you make any other type of legal challenge and lose. A judge has already made a decision in these cases. So many people think they know better than the judges.

LadyKenya · 07/01/2026 12:24

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 11:07

Maybe there should be a rule that if you are a busy body who reports disability fraud and it turns out that nothing is wrong you should be publicly named. People do all sorts of scummy stuff when they are anonymous.

Or have to pay towards the cost of the pointless investigation.

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 12:04

Frequency · 07/01/2026 11:54

Imo, if we are spending a significant chunk of money on sickness and disability benefits, we should be looking at why so many are sick or disabled rather than punishing people who need extra support.

Do people have access to adequate health and social care? (No)
Do people have safe and secure housing? (No)
Do people have the means to access a healthy and nutritious diet? (No)

There can be many reasons. Part of my health issues are underlying, made worse by foul ups by the NHS over the years. 🙄

No, many people can’t access decent housing, and don’t eat healthily. For various reasons.

But, what bugs me about these threads is that so many of those that criticise, and have most to say, would fall apart if they had to “live the dream” of either having severe health problems, or having to care for someone with severe health problems.

I’ve done both. I’ve paid taxes since I was 16. So, as far as I’m concerned the self righteous lot can sod right off. Walk a mile in my shoes. 🙄

Either way, disabled or carer, it’s 24/7 - and I’d gladly take being healthy again over my amount of DLA.

Avantiagain · 07/01/2026 11:57

"There is nothing immoral about questioning whether a significant chunk of state resources should go to supporting someone who is well enough to socialise regularly and is able to participate in society. If you can participate, you can contribute."

My DH has been left with severe walking and balance difficulties following cancer treatment. He is entitled to PIP. He also works full time from home and pays tax.

Frequency · 07/01/2026 11:54

Clearhill · 07/01/2026 11:29

What an appalling attitude YOU have. What a massive, over-judgemental over-reaction. There is nothing immoral about questioning whether a significant chunk of state resources should go to supporting someone who is well enough to socialise regularly and is able to participate in society. If you can participate, you can contribute. The real question is why you have such a strong emotional reaction to this question. Did it hit a nerve, I wonder.

Imo, if we are spending a significant chunk of money on sickness and disability benefits, we should be looking at why so many are sick or disabled rather than punishing people who need extra support.

Do people have access to adequate health and social care? (No)
Do people have safe and secure housing? (No)
Do people have the means to access a healthy and nutritious diet? (No)

Avantiagain · 07/01/2026 11:53

She has been to Tribunal and they awarded it. That is the end of it. It has nothing to do with you.

Denbyregency · 07/01/2026 11:47

Clearhill · 07/01/2026 11:29

What an appalling attitude YOU have. What a massive, over-judgemental over-reaction. There is nothing immoral about questioning whether a significant chunk of state resources should go to supporting someone who is well enough to socialise regularly and is able to participate in society. If you can participate, you can contribute. The real question is why you have such a strong emotional reaction to this question. Did it hit a nerve, I wonder.

I participate.

I contribute.

I also claim PIP.

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 11:47

Clearhill · 07/01/2026 11:29

What an appalling attitude YOU have. What a massive, over-judgemental over-reaction. There is nothing immoral about questioning whether a significant chunk of state resources should go to supporting someone who is well enough to socialise regularly and is able to participate in society. If you can participate, you can contribute. The real question is why you have such a strong emotional reaction to this question. Did it hit a nerve, I wonder.

Well, I’m retired so work or not isn’t an issue, although PIP is not an out of work benefit anyway.

But, I pay taxes on my private pensions, and claim no means tested benefits/top ups etc. I pay my full rent and bills etc.

I wonder how you expect me to live though. Should I just stay indoors waiting to die or what?

Yes, I go out, and yes, I socialise. When I can, and with the help of cabs etc.

I’ve worked in benefits, I’ve worked in advocacy, and I know that tribunals will always fully study the health records of anyone that has to attend a tribunal.

The largest fraud in benefits/top ups is with housing allowances, and some claiming to live alone when they have a partner there on the sly.

Perhaps it’s better to leave disabled people be, and sort out that expensive fraud. 🤷‍♀️

Clearhill · 07/01/2026 11:29

Interpink · 06/01/2026 23:22

What a fucking appalling attitude you have. You acknowledge they’re disabled but don’t know what evidence they gave to tribunal and yet in your esteemed opinion based on being jealous or worse, you have decided that it’s too much? Sit down and keep your beak out. How disgusting.

What an appalling attitude YOU have. What a massive, over-judgemental over-reaction. There is nothing immoral about questioning whether a significant chunk of state resources should go to supporting someone who is well enough to socialise regularly and is able to participate in society. If you can participate, you can contribute. The real question is why you have such a strong emotional reaction to this question. Did it hit a nerve, I wonder.

shhblackbag · 07/01/2026 11:18

PowerhouseOfTheCell · 07/01/2026 10:46

This reminds of a someone commenting ‘don’t you feel guilty using OUR tax money to celebrate Christmas’ on a clearly disabled persons tiktok Grin
Disabled people are allowed to live and god forbid even enjoy life

As a disabled person, I'm often reminded that many people don't agree with you.

Funnily enough, these people never want to switch circumstances.

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 11:07

Maybe there should be a rule that if you are a busy body who reports disability fraud and it turns out that nothing is wrong you should be publicly named. People do all sorts of scummy stuff when they are anonymous.

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 10:53

oviraptor21 · 07/01/2026 09:21

From your post it seems very clear that they are not entitled to the mobility car.
For that you need to either be barely able to walk, or completely unable to get yourself around outside, either due to extreme anxiety or due to learning/physical issues making it difficult or impossible for you to navigate from a to b.

If you are right about the level of disability then you are right about the entitlement to the mobility car. That's not to say that the relative wouldn't get any PIP at all - just not the higher rate of mobility.

Nope. Entirely wrong on the physical disability and walking distance. 20 metres is a guide. It’s entirely possible for a physically disabled person to be able to walk much further than 20 metres and still qualify for higher rate mobility. It depends many things, including on the degree of difficulty they have, and the ability to repeat it as often as necessary, as well as the time taken and the cumulative effects.

PowerhouseOfTheCell · 07/01/2026 10:46

This reminds of a someone commenting ‘don’t you feel guilty using OUR tax money to celebrate Christmas’ on a clearly disabled persons tiktok Grin
Disabled people are allowed to live and god forbid even enjoy life

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 10:43

Frequency · 07/01/2026 10:42

What I have never understood is how do people know enough about, often virtual strangers, to confidently say they are gaming the system?

I can honestly say I have never had a conversation with some random bloke in a pub about the ins and outs of their health condition or benefits entitlements. I'd be very concerned if some bloke I barely knew started chatting at me about his personal financial information, to the point where I would probably contact adult social services rather than the benefit fraud hotline.

Obviously, it is different with family, but even then, it confuses me how people know enough about distant relatives' health and finances to confidently deduce that they are not disabled or even what precise benefits they are claiming.

I know my BIL gets some benefits for disability due to severe mental health issues, but I don't know which benefit, or what his award was based on, because why the fuck would I?

I know his mental health is poor enough to see him sectioned occasionally, but I don't know the ins and outs of how his health impacts him on a daily basis because again, why the fuck would I?

Spot on.

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 10:42

boredwfh · 07/01/2026 08:24

My friend is on the highest award of PIP, she did have an accident a few years ago but has now healed. Lives she lives a full life, nothing to stop her working, she admits she just doesn’t want to & her husband is on a 6 figure income so is a stay at home wife (no kids) , quite frankly she shouldn’t be on the highest rate of PIP and knows it. She Has said when it runs out in 2 yrs at next review then she’ll think about getting a job. Another man at my work, works full time, says he uses all the £400 PIP he gets a month towards his holidays. So let’s not kid ourselves that it’s not possible to get PIP where it’s not really warranted.

Firstly PIP has nothing whatever to do with the ability to work.

Secondly, if your friend was demonstrably fully healed then her PIP would have been stopped when it came up for review, at which point she would have been required to produce evidence of ongoing disability and probably be interviewed.

Thirdly, you work colleague isn’t doing anything wrong. PIP isn’t means tested and how he spends it is his business - absolutely nothing to do with his eligibility. Some disabled people save PIP for better equipment/wheelchairs and some save for holidays because on average it costs disabled people more to go on holiday because of access a mobility issues that have to be catered for. Which is EXACTLY what PIP is for. The clue is in the name. Personal INDEPENDENCE payment.