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Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

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HelenaWaiting · 07/01/2026 18:03

Clearhill · 07/01/2026 11:29

What an appalling attitude YOU have. What a massive, over-judgemental over-reaction. There is nothing immoral about questioning whether a significant chunk of state resources should go to supporting someone who is well enough to socialise regularly and is able to participate in society. If you can participate, you can contribute. The real question is why you have such a strong emotional reaction to this question. Did it hit a nerve, I wonder.

Why are you benefit bashers so lacking in intellectual capacity that you still cannot grasp, despite being told endlessly, that PIP IS NOT AN OUT OF WORK BENEFIT?

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 17:59

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 16:41

No. There are just legions of pretend disabled people roaming around doing their best Quasimodo routine, bent over, clutching their backs, and shouting for Esmerelda.

Or, perhaps, ., they are also just in the minds of DM readers. 😂😂😂

How embarrassing.

Frequency · 07/01/2026 17:58

ForeverLoveCeltic · 07/01/2026 17:49

Please show where the dwp states a non existent fraud rate from PIP. You've made it abundantly clear what you would do in this situation, all i will say is karma waits around every corner.

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/fraud-and-error-in-the-benefit-system-financial-year-2024-to-2025-estimates/fraud-and-error-in-the-benefit-system-financial-year-ending-fye-2025#personal-independence-payment-overpayments-and-underpayments

It's up slightly overpayment due to fraud for PIP is now 0.4% of claims, up from 0% in 2024. Total overpayments due to fraud or error are 1.3% of claims, which makes the assertion that everyone knows someone who is claiming fraudulently utterly nonsensical. Approximately 1 in every 100 claims is overpaid due to fraud or error, and only half of those are due to fraud, so statisically for everyone to know one person claiming fraudulently, we'd all need to know 200 people claiming PIP, which is just nonsense. Most people don't even know 200 people, let alone 200 disabled people.

Fraud and error in the benefit system, Financial Year Ending (FYE) 2025

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/fraud-and-error-in-the-benefit-system-financial-year-2024-to-2025-estimates/fraud-and-error-in-the-benefit-system-financial-year-ending-fye-2025#personal-independence-payment-overpayments-and-underpayments

ForeverLoveCeltic · 07/01/2026 17:56

Silvertulips · 07/01/2026 17:34

Everlore

Interesting thought!

So you are happy that people claim g to be disabled are taking the funding meant for those who struggle?

The pot grows ever smaller for those in need now fighting to get the funds they need.

You really don't know how the system works do you?

Justdoitalreadywillyou · 07/01/2026 17:53

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 13:37

I agree with that principle. Of course only those honestly entitled to any benefit should be the only ones who get it..

But, random relatives, friends, pub goers, neighbours etc shouldn't be the ones who decide to judge it.

I totally agree with you.

Justdoitalreadywillyou · 07/01/2026 17:52

ForWittyTealOP · 07/01/2026 13:23

That's built into the law. Claimants of any benefit need to let the DWP know if anything changes. Did you not know that?

Of course I do however not everyone does that when they should.

ForeverLoveCeltic · 07/01/2026 17:49

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 13:41

And here we have it. This is where the DWP's mythical 0.0000000% PIP fraud rate comes from.

Please show where the dwp states a non existent fraud rate from PIP. You've made it abundantly clear what you would do in this situation, all i will say is karma waits around every corner.

Locutus2000 · 07/01/2026 17:44

OP right now

Bass Fishing GIF by Karl's Bait & Tackle
KarenWheeler · 07/01/2026 17:41

Do you know how friggin hard it is to get PIP? If they’ve been awarded it they’ll need it!

Silvertulips · 07/01/2026 17:34

Everlore

Interesting thought!

So you are happy that people claim g to be disabled are taking the funding meant for those who struggle?

The pot grows ever smaller for those in need now fighting to get the funds they need.

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 17:15

Everlore · 07/01/2026 16:39

Another day, another depressingly familiar disabled-bashing thread which, as always, the MN authorities will do absolutely nothing to moderate.
All the usual greatest hits of ableism have appeared repeatedly on this tedious post, replete with posters opining at length about a subject on which they are so obviously entirely ignorant.
It is reading ill-informed posts from people who think that they are more qualified to make judgements on how disabled someone is than the professionals whose actual job it is to do so and who seem to believe that one can judge the level of someone's disability just by looking at them, that sort of makes me glad to have been born with a severe physical disability which is immediately obvious on meeting me. At least nobody questions my disabled status. Still have to deal with lots of the other tiresome discrimination, both indirect and direct, which is all too familiar to most disabled people.

Well, they won’t change a thing. Best to just get on with life. Do you need to care what random strangers think?

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 16:57

Justdoitalreadywillyou · 07/01/2026 13:18

My point is if things change then benefits should be stopped if they wouldn’t be awarded if they were a new claimant. Things change and so should the benefits paid as a result.

And that’s what reviews are for. Things do change and unless a claimant has a disabilty or condition that is unlikely to change for the better, they will be subject to reviews every couple of years. There is a legal obligation for claimants to report a change of condition - reviews are built in to make sure that happens.

Everlore · 07/01/2026 16:50

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 16:36

Of course you're right,no benefit fraudsters exist anywhere apart from in the minds of Daily Mail readers. What a shiny little bubble you must live in.

I hope you are not accusing me of sarcasm, didn't I say I believe implicitly in all the, extremely convincing, accounts shared on threads like this?
I merely expressed my surprise that people engaged in fraud would be so willing, even keen, to share details of their crimes with every nosy parker they meet.
However, to address your last point, I'd rather live in a shiny bubble than a state of perpetual paranoia as a curtain-twitching busy-body spying on my neighbours and stewing in impotent rage that the lazy scrounger at number eleven gets a 'free car' when it doesn't look like there is anything wrong with him.
*I was being hyperbolic about the 'free car', I know they are not free, but not sure I can be bothered rehashing that yet again for ignorant posters who failed to get it the first few hundred times it was explained to them on threads like these!

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 16:42

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 16:39

After you dear,after you.

I’ll leave life to professionals and not random keyboard warriors. 🙄

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 16:41

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 16:36

Of course you're right,no benefit fraudsters exist anywhere apart from in the minds of Daily Mail readers. What a shiny little bubble you must live in.

No. There are just legions of pretend disabled people roaming around doing their best Quasimodo routine, bent over, clutching their backs, and shouting for Esmerelda.

Or, perhaps, ., they are also just in the minds of DM readers. 😂😂😂

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 16:39

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 16:29

Oh get over yourself. Your thoughts have no bearing on it all. The only views that count are those of decision makers and tribunals. 🙄

After you dear,after you.

Everlore · 07/01/2026 16:39

Another day, another depressingly familiar disabled-bashing thread which, as always, the MN authorities will do absolutely nothing to moderate.
All the usual greatest hits of ableism have appeared repeatedly on this tedious post, replete with posters opining at length about a subject on which they are so obviously entirely ignorant.
It is reading ill-informed posts from people who think that they are more qualified to make judgements on how disabled someone is than the professionals whose actual job it is to do so and who seem to believe that one can judge the level of someone's disability just by looking at them, that sort of makes me glad to have been born with a severe physical disability which is immediately obvious on meeting me. At least nobody questions my disabled status. Still have to deal with lots of the other tiresome discrimination, both indirect and direct, which is all too familiar to most disabled people.

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 16:36

Everlore · 07/01/2026 16:04

This is a very good question, in these, absolutely true, accounts of people these posters definitely know who are fraudulently claiming PIP for a bad back while being world limbo champion, I am always surprised by how charmingly garrulous these alleged criminals are.
I imagine that, if one were to commit benefit fraud, one would keep quiet about one's illegal activity, not share it with every nosy neighbour or judgemental distant family member you happen to speak to.
If I were a cynical person, I might be inclined to reach the hypothesis that these flagrant fraudsters are figments of the posters' fevered imaginations, conjured up from a thousand lurid Daily Mail disabled-bashing scare-mongering headlines. However, I am a trusting soul so I would never suggest such a thing!

Of course you're right,no benefit fraudsters exist anywhere apart from in the minds of Daily Mail readers. What a shiny little bubble you must live in.

Boomer55 · 07/01/2026 16:29

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 15:21

I have all the compassion in the world for people who are genuinely disabled.

Oh get over yourself. Your thoughts have no bearing on it all. The only views that count are those of decision makers and tribunals. 🙄

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 16:28

Thirdchildjoy · 07/01/2026 15:31

Maybe she has magical powers that score worthiness of disability from afar.

Or maybe she has had over the years very close contact with people who were on the take and pretty damned shameless about it.

DoubleShotEspresso · 07/01/2026 16:18

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:19

Haven’t a clue. They do have health problems as I say, just the award doesn’t feel proportionate to the problems they encounter.

Haven’t a clue, but here you are contemplating the wisdom of “dobbing in” your own relative’s only source of income.
Good grief OP have a word with yourself!

Carycach4 · 07/01/2026 16:14

Witcherwitcher · 07/01/2026 15:43

Make an anonymous report that you believe this recipients circumstances have changed and you now suspect there is a possibility they are claiming benefits fraudulently.

There is a scope for reporting suspected benefit fraud. Whether it is true or not and whether anything comes of it is of no concern to you as you say you’ve acted on what you feel is benefit fraud. Whether or not it is or not is irrelevant. Just as there is a mechanism in place to claim benefits there is also a mechanism in place to report suspected benefit fraud. They are independent of each other.

No morals come into it. The facts will be assessed and a decision made.

Edited

The claimant's case has already been assessed and a decision made. They are not going to listen to some spiteful, envious little weasel!

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 16:13

VillaDiodati · 07/01/2026 13:38

My God! The drama!!

Nope. It’s not drama. Unfortunately it’s the kind of ableist shit disabled people face every day. I was a disability outreach worker. If I had a pound for everyone who was reassessed because some jealous bastard who had been turned down for the same benefit themselves and had reported them as a result, I’d be rich.

ForWittyTealOP · 07/01/2026 16:11

Witcherwitcher · 07/01/2026 15:43

Make an anonymous report that you believe this recipients circumstances have changed and you now suspect there is a possibility they are claiming benefits fraudulently.

There is a scope for reporting suspected benefit fraud. Whether it is true or not and whether anything comes of it is of no concern to you as you say you’ve acted on what you feel is benefit fraud. Whether or not it is or not is irrelevant. Just as there is a mechanism in place to claim benefits there is also a mechanism in place to report suspected benefit fraud. They are independent of each other.

No morals come into it. The facts will be assessed and a decision made.

Edited

The OP doesn't believe their relative's circumstances have changed. They don't believe the person should have been awarded PIP in the first place. They think that a panel consisting of a legally qualified and experienced judge, a health professional and a disability expert knows less than they do.

Frequency · 07/01/2026 16:10

TigerRag · 07/01/2026 15:34

Lol, 70% of people go to tribunal and win. What makes you think pip assessors are qualified to assess whether someone is disabled? They claimed I'd grown out of something which is physically impossible

I agree that this is an issue we should all be annoyed about. That 70% of cases are overturned is a massive waste of time and money on both sides, and things need to change. PIP assessors are being pushed into being too harsh and not applying the law correctly, which is proving costly for the taxpayer and the claimants.

The constant reassessments should change too, especially in cases where the condition is clearly lifelong and/or likely to worsen over time. Unless we believe that amputees might suddenly grow a new limb, assessing them every four years is a waste of taxpayers' money and the claimants' time and dignity.

I still believe a PIP assessor knows more about someone's health than some random neighbour, and the tribunal infinitely more than both, so if someone has been awarded PIP, there is a 99.99999% chance they are wholly entitled to it. Unless you are medically involved with them, it's best to keep your nose out and your opinions to yourself.