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Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

OP posts:
Boomer55 · 08/01/2026 13:11

From working in the system, and the advocacy, and then being disabled now, I’d like to point out that the “20 metre rule” which, from memory I’m sure used to be 50 metres, it’s NOT about whether you CAN do it, it’s about whether you can actually do it regularly without pain/breathing stress or any other significant problems.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 13:11

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 12:50

And again the interpretation of the 20m rule is wrong. That’s a guide. There is more to the assessment of walking ability than just the fact that you can or can’t walk that distance.

I’ve had many claimants be awarded higher rate mobility despite being able to walk much further than that. It’s the degree of difficulty they would have and whether their walking ability is useful or not. For that the assessor would consider things like pain, exhaustion, the manner in which they walk and whether it’s likely to adversely impact themselves or others, to name but a few.

The notion that someone just looking at a claimant would instantly be able to tell the decision was wrong (especially one as a result of a tribunal, which considers the legality of the decision, as well as whether it’s appropriate for the claimant) and ‘DOB them in’ for fraud is utterly abhorrent.

Have you any idea of the impact of a fraud report on a claimant ? Are you aware that a successful PIP claim is based on the impairment and impact being present for 50% or more of the time ? So if you see a claimant on a good day, you would automatically think they were claiming fraudulently ? Do you not think disabled people have enough to put up with, without sanctimonious busybodies like the OP sticking their noses in to things they know absolutely nothing about ?

Edited

I’m interested to know, did you ever go on a walk with your claimants to see the difficulties they and how useful their walking was to them or did you just ask them for this information whilst all sitting comfortably at a desk?

I’m not anti PIP, for those truly deserving, but we do all know there are scroungers working people are paying for.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 13:07

Glitchymn1 · 07/01/2026 19:54

PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day.
The fraud would be doubtful disability, but it’s quite hard to prove and requires a fair bit of surveillance. Usually we would look at people who are doing undeclared work, claiming they can’t work as they are too disabled. People who say they use equipment to get around, a wheel chair for example, but can be seen running or doing physical work.

MN likes to pretend benefit fraud doesn’t happen for some reason.

No, MN likes to pretend that it’s fine for members of the public who have absolutely no medical expertise or knowledge of the claimants full circumstances, to go around reporting them for fraud just because they don’t look disabled enough. Posters also like to tell people that they know so and so is claiming fraudulently because they told them. It’s utter crap.

Of course benefit fraud happens, but MN likes to think that DWP officials are stupid. Twenty years experience as a disability outreach worker tells me that they are absolutely not and where there is high level fraud it’s only a matter of time before the claimant drops themselves in it without any help from anyone else.

LakieLady · 08/01/2026 13:06

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 19:47

I’m not reading anything. I’ve been a part of the PIP system since 2013 and the notion that reviews don’t take place to ensure there have been no changes in a claimants’ condition is just ridiculous. Only those with open ended awards with conditions unlikely to change for the better escape the review system. All other claims have a built in end date at which point a review takes place. It might take a while for that review decision to be delivered because there are backlogs but they are part of the system and to suggest otherwise indicates that you have little idea of how that system works.

I've recently retired after 25 years working in welfare rights. In all that time, the only indefinite awards I've seen have been for clients who have a terminal illness.

Reviews take place during the course of an award; they send out a short form (AR1) that asks if there have been any changes since the award was made.

What takes place shortly before the end date of a PIP award is a renewal, where they generally complete a much longer form (PIP2).

Thirdchildjoy · 08/01/2026 13:01

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 12:50

And again the interpretation of the 20m rule is wrong. That’s a guide. There is more to the assessment of walking ability than just the fact that you can or can’t walk that distance.

I’ve had many claimants be awarded higher rate mobility despite being able to walk much further than that. It’s the degree of difficulty they would have and whether their walking ability is useful or not. For that the assessor would consider things like pain, exhaustion, the manner in which they walk and whether it’s likely to adversely impact themselves or others, to name but a few.

The notion that someone just looking at a claimant would instantly be able to tell the decision was wrong (especially one as a result of a tribunal, which considers the legality of the decision, as well as whether it’s appropriate for the claimant) and ‘DOB them in’ for fraud is utterly abhorrent.

Have you any idea of the impact of a fraud report on a claimant ? Are you aware that a successful PIP claim is based on the impairment and impact being present for 50% or more of the time ? So if you see a claimant on a good day, you would automatically think they were claiming fraudulently ? Do you not think disabled people have enough to put up with, without sanctimonious busybodies like the OP sticking their noses in to things they know absolutely nothing about ?

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For many there is abelist confirmation bias, if someone on their worst days can't leave the house no-ones sees them, if they can go to the shops on their best days people see them. The people who see the seem to assume that is how they always are.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 12:59

LakieLady · 08/01/2026 12:57

And the medical professional, judge and person with experience of disability who made the tribunal decision.

Exactly this. There are so many factors considered for a PIP claim and the average Joe in the street isn’t generally familiar with them and is certainly not qualified to decide that the claimant is cheating. Rather than thinking of it as turning a blind eye people would be better thinking of it as minding their own bloody business in matters that they are not qualified to judge and don’t concern them.

LakieLady · 08/01/2026 12:57

Frequency · 07/01/2026 15:26

What makes you more qualified to assess whether someone is disabled than the medical professionals who are involved in the PIP assessment?

Do you have a medical background and access to the claimant's medical files?

And the medical professional, judge and person with experience of disability who made the tribunal decision.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 12:54

Avantiagain · 07/01/2026 20:32

"PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day."

No they are not.

Absolutely spot on. As a former disability outreach worker I went out of my way to ensure claimants were not completing the form from that point of view, because it would actually be benefit fraud. You report your condition as the norm on a daily basis, highlighting the worst effects as well as how often they occur and last. The criteria for benefit is that if the condition impacts the claimant to the point where they satisfy the descriptors for 50% or more of the time, then benefit is awarded at the appropriate rate for the impact. I despair of social media - especially FB - which basically advises claimants that it’s fine to exaggerate to obtain benefit.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 12:50

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 07:53

This!

And again the interpretation of the 20m rule is wrong. That’s a guide. There is more to the assessment of walking ability than just the fact that you can or can’t walk that distance.

I’ve had many claimants be awarded higher rate mobility despite being able to walk much further than that. It’s the degree of difficulty they would have and whether their walking ability is useful or not. For that the assessor would consider things like pain, exhaustion, the manner in which they walk and whether it’s likely to adversely impact themselves or others, to name but a few.

The notion that someone just looking at a claimant would instantly be able to tell the decision was wrong (especially one as a result of a tribunal, which considers the legality of the decision, as well as whether it’s appropriate for the claimant) and ‘DOB them in’ for fraud is utterly abhorrent.

Have you any idea of the impact of a fraud report on a claimant ? Are you aware that a successful PIP claim is based on the impairment and impact being present for 50% or more of the time ? So if you see a claimant on a good day, you would automatically think they were claiming fraudulently ? Do you not think disabled people have enough to put up with, without sanctimonious busybodies like the OP sticking their noses in to things they know absolutely nothing about ?

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 07:53

Penelope23145 · 06/01/2026 23:23

If they are getting a motoribility car then they either are saying that they cannot reliably mobilise more than 20m or they cannot leave the house alone and plan and follow a journey due to psychological distress on the majority of days.. These would be the two main criteria for someone being awarded enhanced rate mobility which is what they need to participate in the motorbility scheme. If neither of these apply ( which you seem to be suggesting ) then YANBU.

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This!

sashh · 08/01/2026 07:49

lindyloo57 · 07/01/2026 09:14

I too know of a distant family member who do this , he says to doctors he is suffering with arthritis all over his body can hardly walk, what the doctors don't know is, every weekend his at the nightclubs dancing all night and getting drunk.

Complete bollox, I have arthritis. It was diagnosed by a rhumatology consultant.

To make that diagnosis he physically examined me, looked at my X-rays, blood tests and medical history.

My arthritis is in every joint in my body, sometimes it is also in my eyes.

You cannot fake damage to bone on X-ray, or a blood test.

Penelope23145 · 07/01/2026 21:22

Glitchymn1 · 07/01/2026 19:54

PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day.
The fraud would be doubtful disability, but it’s quite hard to prove and requires a fair bit of surveillance. Usually we would look at people who are doing undeclared work, claiming they can’t work as they are too disabled. People who say they use equipment to get around, a wheel chair for example, but can be seen running or doing physical work.

MN likes to pretend benefit fraud doesn’t happen for some reason.

A worst day could be once a year ! to score points on the PIP descriptors you need to be affected on the majority of days. PIP assessors usually explore this quite thoroughly. On a PIP form it is fine to describe a worst day but you need to explain how many days are worst days. Just to answer every question based on a worst day would could be giving a completely skewed picture of what life is like. the times I see advice trotted out on these posts "write the form based on your worst day " is crazy and really poor advice.

Denbyregency · 07/01/2026 21:00

Glitchymn1 · 07/01/2026 19:54

PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day.
The fraud would be doubtful disability, but it’s quite hard to prove and requires a fair bit of surveillance. Usually we would look at people who are doing undeclared work, claiming they can’t work as they are too disabled. People who say they use equipment to get around, a wheel chair for example, but can be seen running or doing physical work.

MN likes to pretend benefit fraud doesn’t happen for some reason.

No they’re not. That would be fraudulent. (Based on the worst day I mean)

Avantiagain · 07/01/2026 20:32

"PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day."

No they are not.

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 20:15

Glitchymn1 · 07/01/2026 19:54

PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day.
The fraud would be doubtful disability, but it’s quite hard to prove and requires a fair bit of surveillance. Usually we would look at people who are doing undeclared work, claiming they can’t work as they are too disabled. People who say they use equipment to get around, a wheel chair for example, but can be seen running or doing physical work.

MN likes to pretend benefit fraud doesn’t happen for some reason.

As a professional disability outreach worker I would never advise a claimant to base their claim on their worst day. It can amount to benefit fraud. The criteria for PIP is for the stated disability to be present 50% or more of the time, which is enough to secure an award. No claimant I’ve been involved with can claim that their worst day amounts to more than this.

Catladywithoutacat · 07/01/2026 20:15

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 20:12

Absolutely this.

Exactly disturbing tbh no wonder stories like hamlet existed such evil jealous individuals and they the closest people to you

Justdoitalreadywillyou · 07/01/2026 20:15

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 20:12

I’m a professional disabilty outreach worker - over 20 years experience. Where am I wrong ?

By saying I don’t know how it works. I do but I don’t have to justify anything so I’m going to leave this now as it’s not productive, you have your view and I have mine.

ForWittyTealOP · 07/01/2026 20:14

Glitchymn1 · 07/01/2026 19:54

PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day.
The fraud would be doubtful disability, but it’s quite hard to prove and requires a fair bit of surveillance. Usually we would look at people who are doing undeclared work, claiming they can’t work as they are too disabled. People who say they use equipment to get around, a wheel chair for example, but can be seen running or doing physical work.

MN likes to pretend benefit fraud doesn’t happen for some reason.

PIP is based on people describing how their disability affects them and backing it up with evidence. Not them describing their worst day. Claimants are obliged to say if their condition varies.

ETA and it's not an out of work benefit.

Catladywithoutacat · 07/01/2026 20:14

Just don’t do it

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 20:12

ThatCleverBird · 07/01/2026 20:04

The worst thing about this post is that we could have people in our lives that think this about us secretly and then post like this online whilst being nice to our face

Absolutely this.

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 20:12

Justdoitalreadywillyou · 07/01/2026 19:51

Having an immediate family member who is in receipt of PIP and has reviews etc I know exactly how it works and have been active in this with them for the last 10 years so you’re once again wrong.

I’m a professional disabilty outreach worker - over 20 years experience. Where am I wrong ?

ThatCleverBird · 07/01/2026 20:04

The worst thing about this post is that we could have people in our lives that think this about us secretly and then post like this online whilst being nice to our face

Glitchymn1 · 07/01/2026 19:54

PIP awards are generally based on someone describing their worst day.
The fraud would be doubtful disability, but it’s quite hard to prove and requires a fair bit of surveillance. Usually we would look at people who are doing undeclared work, claiming they can’t work as they are too disabled. People who say they use equipment to get around, a wheel chair for example, but can be seen running or doing physical work.

MN likes to pretend benefit fraud doesn’t happen for some reason.

Justdoitalreadywillyou · 07/01/2026 19:54

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 19:49

Well be clearer then. Because from what I’ve read you have no understanding of the system.

Thanks for the top tip!

Justdoitalreadywillyou · 07/01/2026 19:51

Rosscameasdoody · 07/01/2026 19:47

I’m not reading anything. I’ve been a part of the PIP system since 2013 and the notion that reviews don’t take place to ensure there have been no changes in a claimants’ condition is just ridiculous. Only those with open ended awards with conditions unlikely to change for the better escape the review system. All other claims have a built in end date at which point a review takes place. It might take a while for that review decision to be delivered because there are backlogs but they are part of the system and to suggest otherwise indicates that you have little idea of how that system works.

Having an immediate family member who is in receipt of PIP and has reviews etc I know exactly how it works and have been active in this with them for the last 10 years so you’re once again wrong.