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To dob in family member - benefits

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Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

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RisingSunn · 06/01/2026 23:32

They went to a tribunal! Mind your own business. With family like you - who needs enemies?

FamilyGuise · 06/01/2026 23:31

UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:20

OP can claim PIP for that.

Can I dob her in for pretending to be morally torn?

CherrieTomaties · 06/01/2026 23:31

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TwattyMcFuckFace · 06/01/2026 23:31

Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

Well to be fair, you do come across as a bad person.

They've been awarded the benefits, and it's not up to you to decide whether they've 'exaggerated' or not.

Lavender14 · 06/01/2026 23:31

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:19

Haven’t a clue. They do have health problems as I say, just the award doesn’t feel proportionate to the problems they encounter.

So you don't actually understand the process...

Your relative will have been assessed, likely had a medical, their gp will have been contacted to corroborate their application and they will have had to provide evidence of what they're struggling with. All completed by professionals with a healthcare background.

The issue here is that YOU feel YOU are qualified (with only a snippet of the information) to make a judgement on how much assistance you think your relative should get. You are the problem here. Stay in your lane and mind your own business.

Lurkingandlearning · 06/01/2026 23:30

You’ve been quite specific about their life so maybe they will recognise themselves and give you a full account of why the tribunal disagreed with you.

Ilovecakey · 06/01/2026 23:30

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:19

Haven’t a clue. They do have health problems as I say, just the award doesn’t feel proportionate to the problems they encounter.

Mind your business! What you jealous or something? And this is your family member who you should love and care about and acknowledge they do suffer and have problems. Why would you want to cause them more suffering? They were obviously awarded that money fairly and squarely and ate entitled to it leave them alone!

Redrosesposies · 06/01/2026 23:29

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:27

I wouldn’t say they lied, I would say it was exaggerated.

And meanwhile those without a Rottweiler advocate struggle to get any help at all.

UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:29

shiningstar2 · 06/01/2026 23:26

What?? You have said they have disabilities and the tribunal have judged that they should get this benefit. What makes you think you are a better judge than the tribunal in deciding what they should have? These people, your relatives, trusted you enough to tell you their business. I'm sure they wouldn't have done that if they had felt; many way not entitled to what they received ...or that you would make a harsh judgement and think about meddling in what is not your business.Leave well alone.

Jealousy.
I am expecting a drip feed of OP not being able to afford a brand new car like their relative gets (which is never owned anyway)

TheSalvadorsStickbymebaby · 06/01/2026 23:28

SpiceGhoul · 06/01/2026 23:19

You feel like a bad person because you are. Do you think disabled people should just be at home and have no life? I can't believe anyone would feel this way especially since you openly acknowledge that they do have health and mobility problems. Why would you like them to suffer? What would you achieve from this?

Spite that's what they would gain.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 06/01/2026 23:28

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:22

Fair enough. I see them regularly. I do know the ins and outs and they live a pretty normal life really. Yes, morally torn. Most of the family think it wasn’t appropriate.

Well stop seeing them, they don’t need people like you in their life.

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:27

Redrosesposies · 06/01/2026 23:25

So are you saying they lied and exaggerated their disability to get a higher rate of benefit?
Surely no one does that......

I wouldn’t say they lied, I would say it was exaggerated.

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Questionablmouse · 06/01/2026 23:26

Mind your business.

shiningstar2 · 06/01/2026 23:26

What?? You have said they have disabilities and the tribunal have judged that they should get this benefit. What makes you think you are a better judge than the tribunal in deciding what they should have? These people, your relatives, trusted you enough to tell you their business. I'm sure they wouldn't have done that if they had felt; many way not entitled to what they received ...or that you would make a harsh judgement and think about meddling in what is not your business.Leave well alone.

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:26

UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:20

What are you going to gain by dobbing them in?
They went to tribunal. They will have had to provide a lot of evidence.
You can be awarded PIP if you can prove you meet the criteria at least 50% of the time. You might be seeing the 50% where they feel able to do things.
You are also the reason some people on PIP are too scared to leave their house in case someone will dob them in.

Nothing. Probably a load of guilt if anything came of it. More an issue of remaining silent and I suppose social duty. Have sat on it for years. No I don’t think they should never go out but higher rate is for people with major mobility problems which impact their daily life which they simply don’t have.

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ILoveYouJefferyS · 06/01/2026 23:26

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Redrosesposies · 06/01/2026 23:25

So are you saying they lied and exaggerated their disability to get a higher rate of benefit?
Surely no one does that......

GingerPubes · 06/01/2026 23:25

Can you imagine do this to a relative, or anyone?

What makes you think the PIP pay judgement is not proportionate? Do you have training it this type of thing?

SummerBreeze1980 · 06/01/2026 23:23

Are you a PIP specialist? Do you know how it is all worked out and the criteria. Because if not you have no idea if your family member is getting the correct award. So on what basis would you do this? Leave it to the professionals.

UserFront242 · 06/01/2026 23:23

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:22

Fair enough. I see them regularly. I do know the ins and outs and they live a pretty normal life really. Yes, morally torn. Most of the family think it wasn’t appropriate.

The people assessing them did think it is appropriate though, and their decision is the one that counts.

Penelope23145 · 06/01/2026 23:23

If they are getting a motoribility car then they either are saying that they cannot reliably mobilise more than 20m or they cannot leave the house alone and plan and follow a journey due to psychological distress on the majority of days.. These would be the two main criteria for someone being awarded enhanced rate mobility which is what they need to participate in the motorbility scheme. If neither of these apply ( which you seem to be suggesting ) then YANBU.

Interpink · 06/01/2026 23:23

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Interpink · 06/01/2026 23:22

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:19

Haven’t a clue. They do have health problems as I say, just the award doesn’t feel proportionate to the problems they encounter.

What a fucking appalling attitude you have. You acknowledge they’re disabled but don’t know what evidence they gave to tribunal and yet in your esteemed opinion based on being jealous or worse, you have decided that it’s too much? Sit down and keep your beak out. How disgusting.

Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:22

Fair enough. I see them regularly. I do know the ins and outs and they live a pretty normal life really. Yes, morally torn. Most of the family think it wasn’t appropriate.

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