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Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

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DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 21:44

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 17:51

Well you did do that. And you're continuing to cause damage by insinuating that such a distinction exists and that there are significant numbers of fraudulent claimants.
Why do you have this prejudice against disabled people?

No prejudice here.

When it comes to benefits, any type of benefits, not just PIP, there are some that shouldn’t be on them and play the system.

Anyway, if you can’t prove I’m wrong in what I’m saying, then stop replying with stupid remarks.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 20:30

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:49

No I don’t @UserFront242, stop making things up.

My point is that the unnecessary and defensive pile on to the OP here perfectly demonstrates why people are reluctant to report suspected abuses. Hence the ever rising and unaffordable costs.

Why do you think there’s a correlation between rising costs and fraud ? The reason PIP costs have been rising is that unlike it’s predecessor, DLA, it’s open to claims on mental health grounds, which have risen hugely since Covid.

x2boys · 08/01/2026 19:14

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:49

No I don’t @UserFront242, stop making things up.

My point is that the unnecessary and defensive pile on to the OP here perfectly demonstrates why people are reluctant to report suspected abuses. Hence the ever rising and unaffordable costs.

It went to Tribunal and still the Op thinks she knows better!

Thirdchildjoy · 08/01/2026 19:06

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:49

No I don’t @UserFront242, stop making things up.

My point is that the unnecessary and defensive pile on to the OP here perfectly demonstrates why people are reluctant to report suspected abuses. Hence the ever rising and unaffordable costs.

There's no need for anyone to jealous of the money my friend gets. All they need to do is get a chainsaw hack off their own legs and they too could claim the same amount.

UserFront242 · 08/01/2026 19:04

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:49

No I don’t @UserFront242, stop making things up.

My point is that the unnecessary and defensive pile on to the OP here perfectly demonstrates why people are reluctant to report suspected abuses. Hence the ever rising and unaffordable costs.

OP says her relative is on PIP. They have been assessed as being eligible after a tribunal.
OP then says her relative is not really eligible for it, and is committing fraud.

Why are people believing the second statement, but not the former?

LadyKenya · 08/01/2026 19:01

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:49

No I don’t @UserFront242, stop making things up.

My point is that the unnecessary and defensive pile on to the OP here perfectly demonstrates why people are reluctant to report suspected abuses. Hence the ever rising and unaffordable costs.

It is necessary, actually to point out to the OP that she might not be in full knowledge of the reasons why her relative is receiving PIP. They have been assessed, and awarded, and yet she is questioning if he should be getting it, based on what she thinks she knows about his disability, nothing else.

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:49

No I don’t @UserFront242, stop making things up.

My point is that the unnecessary and defensive pile on to the OP here perfectly demonstrates why people are reluctant to report suspected abuses. Hence the ever rising and unaffordable costs.

UserFront242 · 08/01/2026 18:46

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:45

Bloody hell. Given all those crying “spite” and “jealousy” over the suggestion to report what looks like an exaggerated claim, it’s no wonder the spending is out of control and genuine claimants suffer.

OP's relative has gone through a tribunal to be awarded PIP. What makes you think that anything OP says is truthful? Yet you, and others, seem to think that medical professionals are wrong.

BlakeCarrington · 08/01/2026 18:45

Bloody hell. Given all those crying “spite” and “jealousy” over the suggestion to report what looks like an exaggerated claim, it’s no wonder the spending is out of control and genuine claimants suffer.

Everlore · 08/01/2026 18:40

For any posters on here indignant at the idea of someone working and receiving PIP, allow me to share my personal circumstances.
Since I am totally blind I require a range of adaptive technology, specialist equipment and personal support to allow me to carry out basic tasks that most people take for granted. Without expensive specially designed phones and scanners, screen-readers, documents in braille, talking kitchen devices, personal assistance and many other adaptations I would be unable to function day to day, let alone get to and remain in work. My workplace covers some of the adaptations I require at work but all the adjustments I require outside of work are entirely funded by me. Without PIP it is likely that I would no longer be able to afford these necessities and I would lose my job as a result, ironically costing the 'hard-working tax payers', of whom I am, in fact, one, lots more cash! My PIP does not come close to covering the many extra costs I incur each month, purely due to my disability, though it does help. As I have to cover a large proportion of the extra costs from my wages I am considerably worse off than someone without my disability earning the same wage, I hope this is a comfort to the posters on here seething in impotent rage at the thought of all us feckless, lazy disabled scroungers living tax-payer funded lives of luxury!

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 18:36

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 18:26

Not sure what this has to do with the discussion here to be honest. PIP is not an out of work benefit, not means tested, and doesn’t assess the ability to work. The number of people claiming PIP while in work fluctuates because the ability to work is linked to overall health so people move in and out of work - it can be as high as 27% at any one time and it’s been estimated that currently 41% of new claims are from those in work.

You'd have to be cynical in the extreme to imagine that the pp was indulging in a bit of dog whistling, thinking they were cleverly insinuating that disabled people are unwilling to work without having to openly say it.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 18:26

Sometimeswinning · 08/01/2026 18:14

I believe you’re about 1 in 5 people who claim PIP and work.

Not sure what this has to do with the discussion here to be honest. PIP is not an out of work benefit, not means tested, and doesn’t assess the ability to work. The number of people claiming PIP while in work fluctuates because the ability to work is linked to overall health so people move in and out of work - it can be as high as 27% at any one time and it’s been estimated that currently 41% of new claims are from those in work.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 18:23

Sometimeswinning · 08/01/2026 18:14

I believe you’re about 1 in 5 people who claim PIP and work.

Roughly 17% of those claiming PIP work full time, but this can fluctuate to as high as 27% because movement in and out of work is frequent. It’s estimated that 41% of new claims are made by those in work.

Everlore · 08/01/2026 18:20

Sometimeswinning · 08/01/2026 18:14

I believe you’re about 1 in 5 people who claim PIP and work.

What does that have to do with my post? It does not change the fact that PIP is not an out of work benefit, it is awarded based on need, not on employment status so the percentage of PIP claimants who work is not applicable to my post, which was merely pointing out the non-means tested nature of PIP.

Sometimeswinning · 08/01/2026 18:14

Everlore · 08/01/2026 16:34

Once again, PIP is not an out of work benefit. It is not means-tested. PIP claimants and 'working people' are not two mutually exclusive groups as you appear to think. I work full time and receive the higher level of both components.
As I have said elsewhere, I have a disability which is both immediately obvious and have the kind of disability which few would quibble with, having been born without eyes and with multiple joint deformities.
I guess this makes me one of your 'deserving' disabled people. However, yours, in common with multiple similar posts on this thread, actually make me realise that there are some advantages to being obviously disabled, at least I don't have judgemental nosy strangers deciding I am not 'disabled enough', based on a cursory glance, and that I must therefore be a scrounger and reporting me to the DWP based on no evidence or knowledge!

I believe you’re about 1 in 5 people who claim PIP and work.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 18:01

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 17:53

Kind of realising the futility of reminding people that PIP claimants and tax payers are not two mutually exclusive groups. It's looking more and more like disingenuity, faux ignorance now.

Exactly this. And when you do point it out you get the inevitable ‘why do you need PIP if you can work’. It’s exhausting trying to get the point across that PIP does not and never has assessed work capability. It’s purely an assessment of physical difficulty in carrying out everyday tasks, which informs as to the likely level of disability related costs that person may have.

Rosscameasdoody · 08/01/2026 17:58

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 17:34

I don’t have any right to do such thing, and never claimed to have. There are people paid with tax payers money to do this job, and when they are deciding whom to give tax payers money to, I would like to think that the assessment is based on a great deal more than self-reporting. As we know where there is an opportunity for free money, there are fraudsters.

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The assessment and award process is based on a great deal more than a self reporting system, as has been explained to you. It’s not just a case of sending in a form reporting your difficulties. You have to be prepared to provide evidence to back up what you say and to demonstrate your level of impairment at face to face interview if necessary.

The people doing the assessing are health professionals sourced from the NHS and receive training in the expected effects of health conditions and disabilities. No-one is saying they get it right every time - far from it as evidenced by the numbers of bad decisions overturned at tribunal - but someone who doesn’t know the extent of the claimants’ difficulties, who is not medically trained and has no idea of what is required for a successful claim is far from the best person to challenge a benefit award made by a professional who has all the facts in front of them.

Disabled people’s lives are difficult enough without being afraid to step outside their front door in case someone ‘dobs them in’.

EpidermolysisBullosa · 08/01/2026 17:58

Boomer55 · 08/01/2026 13:11

From working in the system, and the advocacy, and then being disabled now, I’d like to point out that the “20 metre rule” which, from memory I’m sure used to be 50 metres, it’s NOT about whether you CAN do it, it’s about whether you can actually do it regularly without pain/breathing stress or any other significant problems.

Yes, exactly. At mandatory reconsideration I was awarded 10 points for mobility, and got standard rate mobility.

  1. Can stand and then move using an aid or appliance more than 20 metres but no more than 50 metres. 10 points.

I can walk more than 50 metres. What I can't do is walk without pain, discomfort and risk of injury. I have Epidermolysis Bullosa which means my skin is very fragile and tears and blisters easily, especially when walking. It's worse the warmer the weather is. Some days I can walk lots, other days I can barely walk at all either because it's a very hot days or because my feet are so blistered and bleeding. I often have to plan my activities to save my feet, especially in milder weather. It's a minefield planning ever step!

Ukefluke · 08/01/2026 17:56

Yep, you are a bad person. Horrible actually.

UserFront242 · 08/01/2026 17:54

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 14:09

Thank you for your reply and explanation.

Just a brief response re:

Just because someone doesn’t look disabled doesn’t mean they are not.

And in some cases,

Just because someone tells you they are disabled, doesn’t mean they are.

If someone tells you that they are disabled, then you believe them. Many disabilities are invisible. Someone being disabled does not mean they are on any sort of benefits.
It takes nothing away from you to give someone the benefit of the doubt. You cause more harm by not believing people, and it does come out even if you don't think it does. Subtle little comments can be huge when someone overhears you making them.

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 17:53

Kind of realising the futility of reminding people that PIP claimants and tax payers are not two mutually exclusive groups. It's looking more and more like disingenuity, faux ignorance now.

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 17:51

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 17:34

I don’t have any right to do such thing, and never claimed to have. There are people paid with tax payers money to do this job, and when they are deciding whom to give tax payers money to, I would like to think that the assessment is based on a great deal more than self-reporting. As we know where there is an opportunity for free money, there are fraudsters.

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Well you did do that. And you're continuing to cause damage by insinuating that such a distinction exists and that there are significant numbers of fraudulent claimants.
Why do you have this prejudice against disabled people?

LadyKenya · 08/01/2026 17:42

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 17:34

I don’t have any right to do such thing, and never claimed to have. There are people paid with tax payers money to do this job, and when they are deciding whom to give tax payers money to, I would like to think that the assessment is based on a great deal more than self-reporting. As we know where there is an opportunity for free money, there are fraudsters.

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Rest assured that the assessment is based on just more than what people self report.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 17:34

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 15:46

Why do you think you have the right to designate people as "truly deserving" or "scroungers"?

I don’t have any right to do such thing, and never claimed to have. There are people paid with tax payers money to do this job, and when they are deciding whom to give tax payers money to, I would like to think that the assessment is based on a great deal more than self-reporting. As we know where there is an opportunity for free money, there are fraudsters.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 08/01/2026 17:25

Dragonsfoot · 07/01/2026 00:00

Not being deliberately goady. It’s just something I and others have felt for a long time within the family. Many of us work in the health field and wonder how on earth it was awarded when we see what they can do. I have similar issues with dressing myself but like them, can do it.

Interesting first thread, as they say