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Dragonsfoot · 06/01/2026 23:16

I have a relative that does have health problems. They went to tribunal and were awarded higher rate PIP and have a motorbility car apparently supported by a Rottweiler of an advocate. I have no gripe that they deserve something - occasional falls, mild mental health problems, physical health problems that require monitoring and support and mild difficulties dressing themselves due to joint problems but don’t actually need to be helped. They do have a disability.

However, they are able to walk miles most of the time, decorate their home, complete domestic tasks and attend social activities on a very regular basis on foot. Morally torn. They probably will struggle without the money. Would DWP even do anything kind of thing. Either way I feel a bad person.

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Snugglemonkey · 13/01/2026 17:19

Livelovebehappy · 07/01/2026 00:35

Why are you comparing your situation to OPs relative? Totally different scenarios…

I am pointing out that the op's attitude is horrible, that you never know how much someone is masking and that op should mind their own business.

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 09/01/2026 20:24

If you saw my DD you'd think she didn't deserve PIP. They've also said she can apply for a mobility car. But she struggles with journeys she doesn't know, needs someone to go on unfamiliar trips with her, she has awful mental health and autism.
You can't see these things but it doesn't mean they don't exist. If you are 100% certain they are lying you can report but they must have a good deal of evidence to have got PIP in the first place.

ForWittyTealOP · 09/01/2026 20:10

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 14:48

Well, you might be right, but there would be even more resentment, with working taxpayers feeling they are supporting those with NO health problems.

The arguments then would be to get a job/work more hours. 🤷‍♀️

It happened before, in the 80’s, with people getting furious about the so called Giro families knocking out babies. (As they saw it).

There will always be this aggro between those who work/those who don’t, and those that are claiming disability benefits. 🤷‍♀️

There's an awful lot more conditionality now when claiming out of work benefits. I think that would be used to mitigate anger at a rise in UC. And also, what's the alternative? We can't continue to justify people's health and prospects being wrecked because the link between a very basic level of subsistence and levels of benefits has been broken. This is a disaster happening in slow motion and with the effects of the renter's rights act yet to be seen, pretty soon it's set to get even worse as more and more people won't be able to afford even basic housing.

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 15:06

Well, no, I don’t think that would work with so many financial constraints.

As I say, I don’t know what the answer is, but it’s pointless just moaning at claimants. Everyone is trying to work through a system that doesn’t work too well. For anyone. 🤷‍♀️

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 14:56

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 14:48

Well, you might be right, but there would be even more resentment, with working taxpayers feeling they are supporting those with NO health problems.

The arguments then would be to get a job/work more hours. 🤷‍♀️

It happened before, in the 80’s, with people getting furious about the so called Giro families knocking out babies. (As they saw it).

There will always be this aggro between those who work/those who don’t, and those that are claiming disability benefits. 🤷‍♀️

It’s also been suggested that a basic universal income would go some way to solving the problem, but for the life of me I can’t see how it would be sustainable.

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 14:52

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 11:50

Yes I agree.

I do, honestly, understand why fit and healthy working taxpayers get so angry about the massive increase in disability payments. It is creeping towards unsustainable.

But, it’s pointless blaming the claimant and accusing them of being cheats.

One government after another (including this one) just try to shift the blame onto claimants.

We’ve had the Benefit Integrity “reform” under Major - it ended up with more people getting more money.

We had the Right Payment Programme “reform” under Blair, and as above. More people claiming.

And, so on, through every government.

If the money and will was there to really improve mental health services, for children and adults, enough de-tox programmes, support workers, children’s services etc then it may be that a lot of people wouldn’t need to prop their lives up on benefits, and could have better lives.. They could be helped in a long term way and lead a full life. .

Obviously, some disabilities couldn’t be helped very much - an amputee will never grow their limbs back. Certain diseases can never be improved that much. But, some could.

But, no government can ever seem to do that.

The NHS is just a failing system that needs complete reform. But, it won’t happen. Social care (children and adults) is collapsing. Special needs provision for children seems a huge mess.

Schools are under strain with teachers trying to prop up the needs of some children and having to do tasks they were never employed to do.

I don’t know what the answer is - but it’s definitely not getting stroppy with claimants.

Edited

I think it’s going to be very difficult to reform PIP, or indeed any of the other disabilty benefits, to specifically exclude MH problems now. The Equality Act provides the legal definition of disability and that includes mental health conditions, so they can’t be disregarded as disabilities for the purposes of PIP. I think the only way forward is to tighten up the eligibility descriptors in such a way that claims for MH conditions can be made, but only severe and enduring conditions would actually qualify.

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 14:51

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 14:42

Yes, you’re right. There were a very limited number of MH conditions for which you could claim DLA back then. If I remember rightly MH conditions were divided into Organic and Functional categories. Organic conditions were admissible because they were thought to have a physical cause involving brain stem abnormalities or disease, whereas functional was thought to be purely psychological and outside the remit of DLA.

Studies since then have informed the admission of most MH conditions into the scope of PIP, AA and child DLA because it’s accepted that all MH conditions have a biological basis involving brain function and structure. In addition, the Equality Act 2010 gives the accepted legal definition of disability and includes mental as well as physical health conditions, so disability benefits have evolved in line with that.

Edited

Yes, things like spectrums, anxiety, ND etc didn’t get into the equation.

It was just a different time. 🤷‍♀️

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 14:48

ForWittyTealOP · 09/01/2026 12:10

My controversial view is that if basic out of work/top up benefits were increased there would be a drop in the numbers of people claiming disability related benefits. Single unemployed people under 25 get a little over £300 a calendar month in UC if they have no other eligibility. That's not enough to maintain a healthy lifestyle, especially if you have to top up your rent, and certainly not enough to enable people to look for work - they're just trying to survive at that level. For single people over 25 it's £400 and for couples £628. It seems so obvious that sustained poverty will cause health issues and also that if you're on that low an income it would be sensible to try to increase it by whatever means were available.
As you and Ross have said, blaming claimants for claiming what they're entitled to is commonplace. Evidently blame culture is satisfying for certain types of (rather unimaginative ) people but ultimately pointless. Government needs to look at how to help people achieve their potential, not set them up to fail and then beat them with a big stick for doing just that.

Well, you might be right, but there would be even more resentment, with working taxpayers feeling they are supporting those with NO health problems.

The arguments then would be to get a job/work more hours. 🤷‍♀️

It happened before, in the 80’s, with people getting furious about the so called Giro families knocking out babies. (As they saw it).

There will always be this aggro between those who work/those who don’t, and those that are claiming disability benefits. 🤷‍♀️

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 14:42

x2boys · 09/01/2026 12:12

You see I remember patients claiming DLA for severe and enduring mental illness in the 90,s such as shizophrenis ,Bi polar etc .

Yes, you’re right. There were a very limited number of MH conditions for which you could claim DLA back then. If I remember rightly MH conditions were divided into Organic and Functional categories. Organic conditions were admissible because they were thought to have a physical cause involving brain stem abnormalities or disease, whereas functional was thought to be purely psychological and outside the remit of DLA.

Studies since then have informed the admission of most MH conditions into the scope of PIP, AA and child DLA because it’s accepted that all MH conditions have a biological basis involving brain function and structure. In addition, the Equality Act 2010 gives the accepted legal definition of disability and includes mental as well as physical health conditions, so disability benefits have evolved in line with that.

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 14:41

You see I remember patients claiming DLA for severe and enduring mental illness in the 90,s such as shizophrenis ,Bi polar etc .

Yes, but it was fairly unusual. Established mental heath conditions were sometimes included, but it was basically more physical things.

x2boys · 09/01/2026 12:12

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 10:44

DLA was completely separate from other benefits, and as with PIP didn’t assess work capability. You’re correct in that it merged two separate benefits of the time - the attendance and mobility allowances - to basically do same thing as PIP does now, which is to assess the extra costs attached to disability. But the assessment criteria were very different from that of PIP, and assessors had some degree of autonomy, whereas PIP criteria are more tightly controlled.

DLA only assessed physical disabilities and l remember the controversy you mentioned about those conditions and a few others too. There were many cases denied on that basis and at the time weren’t allowed to be challenged at appeal because they were deemed outside the remit of DLA.

When PIP replaced DLA it was opened up to mental health conditions, cognitive difficulties and learning disabilities - mainly because there was no choice. By then the Equality Act 2010 had provided a legal definition of disability and that had to be built in to the eligibility criteria - which is also why there doesn’t have to be a formal diagnosis to be eligible for PIP - the EA determines you don’t need one to be considered disabled. It’s not the condition that matters, it’s the effect on the claimant.

I think you make a really good point in that all of these changes have inevitably impacted the numbers of claimants - the number of appeal tribunals has also increased because of the poor quality of decision making based on a fundamentally flawed system, and that has massively increased the cost to the tax payer.

Instead of addressing these problems and properly overhauling the system, successive governments have tinkered around the edges and made things progressively worse for claimants by blaming them for the increase in claims. It’s been progressively fed into the public consciousness that fraud is the reason, and that the tax payer is being fleeced by dishonest claimants. It’s a false notion but you only have to look at some of the comments here to realise that many people are more than happy to accept this with no critical thinking applied.

So here we are seemingly quite happy to have Joe Public randomly reporting as suspected benefit cheats, any claimant who doesn’t fit their perception of ‘disabled enough’. I can’t imagine how that’s going to improve the lot of such people, whose lives are already significantly more difficult than those doing the reporting. There are undoubtedly cheats in the system, but on past experience successive changes to the system designed to catch them out only end up making things much harder for the genuinely disabled and vulnerable.

You see I remember patients claiming DLA for severe and enduring mental illness in the 90,s such as shizophrenis ,Bi polar etc .

ForWittyTealOP · 09/01/2026 12:10

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 11:50

Yes I agree.

I do, honestly, understand why fit and healthy working taxpayers get so angry about the massive increase in disability payments. It is creeping towards unsustainable.

But, it’s pointless blaming the claimant and accusing them of being cheats.

One government after another (including this one) just try to shift the blame onto claimants.

We’ve had the Benefit Integrity “reform” under Major - it ended up with more people getting more money.

We had the Right Payment Programme “reform” under Blair, and as above. More people claiming.

And, so on, through every government.

If the money and will was there to really improve mental health services, for children and adults, enough de-tox programmes, support workers, children’s services etc then it may be that a lot of people wouldn’t need to prop their lives up on benefits, and could have better lives.. They could be helped in a long term way and lead a full life. .

Obviously, some disabilities couldn’t be helped very much - an amputee will never grow their limbs back. Certain diseases can never be improved that much. But, some could.

But, no government can ever seem to do that.

The NHS is just a failing system that needs complete reform. But, it won’t happen. Social care (children and adults) is collapsing. Special needs provision for children seems a huge mess.

Schools are under strain with teachers trying to prop up the needs of some children and having to do tasks they were never employed to do.

I don’t know what the answer is - but it’s definitely not getting stroppy with claimants.

Edited

My controversial view is that if basic out of work/top up benefits were increased there would be a drop in the numbers of people claiming disability related benefits. Single unemployed people under 25 get a little over £300 a calendar month in UC if they have no other eligibility. That's not enough to maintain a healthy lifestyle, especially if you have to top up your rent, and certainly not enough to enable people to look for work - they're just trying to survive at that level. For single people over 25 it's £400 and for couples £628. It seems so obvious that sustained poverty will cause health issues and also that if you're on that low an income it would be sensible to try to increase it by whatever means were available.
As you and Ross have said, blaming claimants for claiming what they're entitled to is commonplace. Evidently blame culture is satisfying for certain types of (rather unimaginative ) people but ultimately pointless. Government needs to look at how to help people achieve their potential, not set them up to fail and then beat them with a big stick for doing just that.

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 11:50

Yes I agree.

I do, honestly, understand why fit and healthy working taxpayers get so angry about the massive increase in disability payments. It is creeping towards unsustainable.

But, it’s pointless blaming the claimant and accusing them of being cheats.

One government after another (including this one) just try to shift the blame onto claimants.

We’ve had the Benefit Integrity “reform” under Major - it ended up with more people getting more money.

We had the Right Payment Programme “reform” under Blair, and as above. More people claiming.

And, so on, through every government.

If the money and will was there to really improve mental health services, for children and adults, enough de-tox programmes, support workers, children’s services etc then it may be that a lot of people wouldn’t need to prop their lives up on benefits, and could have better lives.. They could be helped in a long term way and lead a full life. .

Obviously, some disabilities couldn’t be helped very much - an amputee will never grow their limbs back. Certain diseases can never be improved that much. But, some could.

But, no government can ever seem to do that.

The NHS is just a failing system that needs complete reform. But, it won’t happen. Social care (children and adults) is collapsing. Special needs provision for children seems a huge mess.

Schools are under strain with teachers trying to prop up the needs of some children and having to do tasks they were never employed to do.

I don’t know what the answer is - but it’s definitely not getting stroppy with claimants.

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 10:44

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 09:45

I’m going a bit from memory here, but when DLA was first introduced it was basically known as the breathing/limbs benefit. Sickness and Incapacity benefits (out of work benefits) covered other things but DLA didn’t really, other than a few exceptions.

(Disability Living Allowance (DLA) was introduced in the UK in
April 1992, replacing the previous Mobility Allowance (MobA) and Attendance Allowance (AA) to provide a single benefit for disabled people under 65, helping with extra costs for care and mobility.)

Since then, the eligibility criteria has massively increased, and now covers mental health, addictions, ND etc

There were years of arguments about Fibromyalgia, ME and CFS because doctors were insisting that they were psychological, and that “getting on with life” was the best idea. That ethos doesn’t exist now.

So, yes, the numbers claiming has increased a lot - but the system has changed under various governments.

But, the fact that it includes so many things now doesn’t make it fraud.

Every reform, to cut costs, introduced by any government, has ended up with more people claiming.

If people have a problem with the criteria, then best contact your MP. DWP workers, assessors and claimants are just acting within the rules. 🤷‍♀️

DLA was completely separate from other benefits, and as with PIP didn’t assess work capability. You’re correct in that it merged two separate benefits of the time - the attendance and mobility allowances - to basically do same thing as PIP does now, which is to assess the extra costs attached to disability. But the assessment criteria were very different from that of PIP, and assessors had some degree of autonomy, whereas PIP criteria are more tightly controlled.

DLA only assessed physical disabilities and l remember the controversy you mentioned about those conditions and a few others too. There were many cases denied on that basis and at the time weren’t allowed to be challenged at appeal because they were deemed outside the remit of DLA.

When PIP replaced DLA it was opened up to mental health conditions, cognitive difficulties and learning disabilities - mainly because there was no choice. By then the Equality Act 2010 had provided a legal definition of disability and that had to be built in to the eligibility criteria - which is also why there doesn’t have to be a formal diagnosis to be eligible for PIP - the EA determines you don’t need one to be considered disabled. It’s not the condition that matters, it’s the effect on the claimant.

I think you make a really good point in that all of these changes have inevitably impacted the numbers of claimants - the number of appeal tribunals has also increased because of the poor quality of decision making based on a fundamentally flawed system, and that has massively increased the cost to the tax payer.

Instead of addressing these problems and properly overhauling the system, successive governments have tinkered around the edges and made things progressively worse for claimants by blaming them for the increase in claims. It’s been progressively fed into the public consciousness that fraud is the reason, and that the tax payer is being fleeced by dishonest claimants. It’s a false notion but you only have to look at some of the comments here to realise that many people are more than happy to accept this with no critical thinking applied.

So here we are seemingly quite happy to have Joe Public randomly reporting as suspected benefit cheats, any claimant who doesn’t fit their perception of ‘disabled enough’. I can’t imagine how that’s going to improve the lot of such people, whose lives are already significantly more difficult than those doing the reporting. There are undoubtedly cheats in the system, but on past experience successive changes to the system designed to catch them out only end up making things much harder for the genuinely disabled and vulnerable.

Boomer55 · 09/01/2026 09:45

I’m going a bit from memory here, but when DLA was first introduced it was basically known as the breathing/limbs benefit. Sickness and Incapacity benefits (out of work benefits) covered other things but DLA didn’t really, other than a few exceptions.

(Disability Living Allowance (DLA) was introduced in the UK in
April 1992, replacing the previous Mobility Allowance (MobA) and Attendance Allowance (AA) to provide a single benefit for disabled people under 65, helping with extra costs for care and mobility.)

Since then, the eligibility criteria has massively increased, and now covers mental health, addictions, ND etc

There were years of arguments about Fibromyalgia, ME and CFS because doctors were insisting that they were psychological, and that “getting on with life” was the best idea. That ethos doesn’t exist now.

So, yes, the numbers claiming has increased a lot - but the system has changed under various governments.

But, the fact that it includes so many things now doesn’t make it fraud.

Every reform, to cut costs, introduced by any government, has ended up with more people claiming.

If people have a problem with the criteria, then best contact your MP. DWP workers, assessors and claimants are just acting within the rules. 🤷‍♀️

LadyKenya · 09/01/2026 08:56

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 09/01/2026 08:54

@Dragonsfoot and above is your answer. Don’t dob in your relatives as they have been legitimately rewarded their PIP despite what you may think.

This! At last.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 09/01/2026 08:54

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 08:45

The poster has a point. In your reply to my post you said that you are not anti PIP. But in that same post you demonstrated that you know absolutely nothing about the application process, because you asked me whether l had attempted to verify information my clients were providing.

Despite me telling you that’s not the remit of agencies assisting in form filling, and explaining that your assumption that of PIP as an entirely self reporting process is not correct, you seem to be clinging to that assumption.

There have been some quite detailed explanations of the processes involved and the need for evidence and assessment, provided by those who work within the system. Only the initial stages of the application are self reported - to be awarded benefit there has to be tangible evidence of disability either provided by the claimant via their own health care providers, or via an assessment with a DWP appointed assessor, who is a healthcare professional and trained in disability assessment.

And that evidence has to meet strict eligibility thresholds, as well as being correct in law. In the absence of any in depth knowledge of what disability means, or the processes involved in assessment for disability benefits, your assertion seems to be that benefit fraud is rife because assessors are not doing their jobs properly and aren’t capable of recognising when someone is cheating.

It might interest you to know that the person carrying out the assessment does not make the actual decision on whether benefit is awarded - that’s down to the DWP case manager who receives a report from the assessor and considers it alongside any other evidence submitted or requested from other agencies.

The number of decisions made in which benefit is denied which are then overturned in favour of the client at tribunal, indicates that one of the major factors in the huge rise in expenditure is not down to fraud, but is actually attributable to the fact that so many claimants are forced to go to very expensive tribunal to obtain a fair decision. This is because the assessment system itself is flawed - it’s actually designed to doubt what claimants are saying at every stage and to deny benefit wherever possible, not to just blithely accept whatever they say as the truth.

Assessors and decision makers have to work within this system and many have voiced opinions that it’s unfair, but at the moment it’s all we have. Of course bad decisions will be made - no system is foolproof, but current information suggests that the number of incorrect decisions denying benefit to genuine claimants, far outweighs that of fraud and error in their favour.

@Dragonsfoot and above is your answer. Don’t dob in your relatives as they have been legitimately rewarded their PIP despite what you may think.

Rosscameasdoody · 09/01/2026 08:45

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 22:29

You twist everything for a reaction.

The poster has a point. In your reply to my post you said that you are not anti PIP. But in that same post you demonstrated that you know absolutely nothing about the application process, because you asked me whether l had attempted to verify information my clients were providing.

Despite me telling you that’s not the remit of agencies assisting in form filling, and explaining that your assumption that of PIP as an entirely self reporting process is not correct, you seem to be clinging to that assumption.

There have been some quite detailed explanations of the processes involved and the need for evidence and assessment, provided by those who work within the system. Only the initial stages of the application are self reported - to be awarded benefit there has to be tangible evidence of disability either provided by the claimant via their own health care providers, or via an assessment with a DWP appointed assessor, who is a healthcare professional and trained in disability assessment.

And that evidence has to meet strict eligibility thresholds, as well as being correct in law. In the absence of any in depth knowledge of what disability means, or the processes involved in assessment for disability benefits, your assertion seems to be that benefit fraud is rife because assessors are not doing their jobs properly and aren’t capable of recognising when someone is cheating.

It might interest you to know that the person carrying out the assessment does not make the actual decision on whether benefit is awarded - that’s down to the DWP case manager who receives a report from the assessor and considers it alongside any other evidence submitted or requested from other agencies.

The number of decisions made in which benefit is denied which are then overturned in favour of the client at tribunal, indicates that one of the major factors in the huge rise in expenditure is not down to fraud, but is actually attributable to the fact that so many claimants are forced to go to very expensive tribunal to obtain a fair decision. This is because the assessment system itself is flawed - it’s actually designed to doubt what claimants are saying at every stage and to deny benefit wherever possible, not to just blithely accept whatever they say as the truth.

Assessors and decision makers have to work within this system and many have voiced opinions that it’s unfair, but at the moment it’s all we have. Of course bad decisions will be made - no system is foolproof, but current information suggests that the number of incorrect decisions denying benefit to genuine claimants, far outweighs that of fraud and error in their favour.

Kittyfleur · 08/01/2026 23:04

What a horrible thing to consider doing as they clearly do struggle at times and not all disabilities are black and white.
I have a friend who has a lifelong autoimmune disease and they receive PIP even though they work as much as they can and are generally quite active. The PIP covers treatments which they need and helps to make up for lost work days when they are having a flare up. PIP is not an easy thing to claim and up to date medical records are needed to claim and for any reviews.
Because I actually love and care about my friend, I’m so pleased that they get the support they do from the government as living with a long-term illness or disability is not nice so any extra help for them is great in my opinion.
I cannot fathom what type of person you must be to begrudge this help aiding your own family member. Shame on you.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 23:00

Thirdchildjoy · 08/01/2026 22:48

Maybe its time to stop the dry January? Withdrawal seems to be making you irritable.

😂

Thirdchildjoy · 08/01/2026 22:48

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 22:29

You twist everything for a reaction.

Maybe its time to stop the dry January? Withdrawal seems to be making you irritable.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 22:29

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 22:19

I mean you say stuff, you deny saying it, it's pointed out by others that you've said it, you ignore that... Waste of everyone's time.

If you think disabled people are prone to lying, exaggerating and committing fraud, nobody is going to persuade you otherwise. It's too tedious to continue engaging with you so please, get your last word in and this boring exercise in futility can end.

You twist everything for a reaction.

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 22:19

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 21:58

😂

I’m assuming you meant to be funny!

Read back your posts; no points being defended, just personal attacks.

I mean you say stuff, you deny saying it, it's pointed out by others that you've said it, you ignore that... Waste of everyone's time.

If you think disabled people are prone to lying, exaggerating and committing fraud, nobody is going to persuade you otherwise. It's too tedious to continue engaging with you so please, get your last word in and this boring exercise in futility can end.

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 21:58

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 21:52

What is it with people resorting to personal abuse instead of calmly defending their points?

😂

I’m assuming you meant to be funny!

Read back your posts; no points being defended, just personal attacks.

ForWittyTealOP · 08/01/2026 21:52

DryJanuaryWhosWithMe · 08/01/2026 21:44

No prejudice here.

When it comes to benefits, any type of benefits, not just PIP, there are some that shouldn’t be on them and play the system.

Anyway, if you can’t prove I’m wrong in what I’m saying, then stop replying with stupid remarks.

What is it with people resorting to personal abuse instead of calmly defending their points?