Did I do something wrong? Employee snapped at me

We can only guess but she clearly either didn’t want you close enough to the house to see inside it at all when she opened the door to come out or she didn’t want the occupants of the house to see you or to be alerted to your presence.

Who knows, but maybe she is in a coercive relationship and her fear at you being seen was such that she was prepared to be rude enough to warn you off.

I think you were polite and respectful and didn’t deserve to be snapped at. I feel she was hiding something but wanted it to remain nobody’s business but her own. Fair enough.

I can’t really understand why you got out and went to the door over just texting her and saying I’m here.

I often tell my visitors that I am expecting to text me rather than ring the doorbell as if drives the dog insane. If they text I can settle him and then let them in calmly. I wouldn’t have thought to tell someone just picking me up not to ring the doorbell.

Shes left now, I wouldn’t give it too much more thought, but if someone tells you to stay in the car etc, just respect their wishes next time.

It sounds like you have dodged a bullet and I really wouldn't give it any more thought.

Is everyone seriously losing their minds about someone ringing a doorbell at a pretty sociable hour of the day? I honestly despair for my young daughter and wonder if we should be moving to another country because I don't know how she's going to have a happy and fulfilled social life when everyone around her is so bonkers and terrified of basic social interaction.

You didn't do anything wrong. Her maybe-this-maybe-that set up is none of your concern. You conducted yourself normally in an acceptable fashion.
Now forget about it.

Totally fine to ring a doorbell. Totally weird to ring from as car except perhaps if too early (8am on a weekday doesn't seem that way to me).

I find people that ring from a car so impolite. Like you are at their beck and call and possibly a scary individual so they can't come up to your threshold. I've had a couple of people do that with things I've been selling or giving away and it feels as though they both don't trust me and want a delivery service.

And don't get me started on people who don't answer the door when they are at home!

Such trivial things but they add to making society feel more hostile and individualistic.

To the original poster....on it's own and if everything else was good it seems like she's rude and unpleasant as some people just are. Only you will know if there are underlying things that might make her hostile.

FFS you don’t know what type of awful home situation she in. For all you know they are massive alcoholics with very short tempers. She asks you nicely to do something a certain way at her home there’s a probably a reason.

It’s odd to knock at the door especially early in the morning. Going upto the door to collect equipment was quite nice, you were saving her a trip.
id assume she’s either a bit abrupt or she didn’t want you to know about her personal life.

My job requires frequent travel. It is completely typical to pick one another up on the way if it makes sense geographically. However, it’s always a case of a text when outside and wait for the person to come out. No-one knocks on anyone’s door- it’s almost like an unwritten rule- it’s a bit intrusive in this context. Also, like you’re hurrying someone. She clearly felt the same and you clearly don’t pick up on social queues. I imagine she felt uncomfortable. I wouldn’t exactly say it’s your fault but you seem completely oblivious. She said not to knock so wasn’t expecting you right outside her door as she opened it. Not a huge deal but something to think about in future.

what a ridiculous comment!

She was wrong to snap, OTOH you shouldn’t have rang the doorbell early in the morning, second time she specifically asked you to wait in the car, being helpful or not, it was wrong to approach her door twice.
She could easily be living with terrible parents or in a hoarder house.
Maybe in future be less in the moment.

My retired mum would absolutely still be sleeping at 8am. I would have told her i was being picked up, HOWEVER the norm for me now is that someone would text me to let me know they are outside. This is what i also do if i am picking a friend up in my car.

Op if you are actually genuine, it could be possibly be she had issues at home that you didn’t know about and this is why she was on edge. The second time you ignored her instructions.

Did you give her an exit interview and find out her reasons for leaving?

How many people are sleeping at 8:00 on a workday morning? And he said slightly early, she should have been ready to go a bit early anyway if someone is picking you up for work, and surely she would have told her parents she was being picked up at 8:00 anyway. She sounds rather over protective of her parents house, perhaps they are not very nice people.

Her parents don't like her bringing boyfriends to the house, and they would assume you are a boyfriend? Her father is a violent drunk who attacks anyone who comes near the house? They have a pack of huge dangerous dogs that chase people? Or she just doesn't want to explain to her parents what she is doing?

She's gone so not worth worrying about, probably for the best!

Or it could be her house and she’s experiencing domestic violence hence she didn’t want you near the house.

Also no one seems to have picked up on the fact OP says the arranged time for collection was 08:00 but he got there early without calling ahead and rang the bell twice! Not cool!

You did nothing wrong. You were kind to her and offered to drive and pick up her equipment. You’ve tried to help her.

It’s perfectly normal, polite behaviour to ring someone’s door bell.

She was rude and ungrateful.

How old is she? My young adult dc will text to say they’re outside rather than get out of the car. However, you didn’t anything wrong.

Had you arrived at silly o’clock in the morning, I would have presumed that your colleague didn’t want her parents to be woken up, but 8am is reasonable.

The cunts a nut job

She's in an abusive relationship.

I find it weird you wouldn’t just text to say you were outside when you collected the colleague the first time.
It’s also strange you went to their door after texting. When they said call / text when you’re here that was the clue they wanted you to wait in the car. If you were unsure, idk why you didn’t reply asking if they needed help carrying anything. I suspect this translates to your management style too, and that didn’t work for them. Not everyone likes us in this world.

Indeed

I'd be breathing a sigh of relief she resigned.
I imagine daily life is a struggle for her...

First line.... "For context i am male"...

.... yet all your previous threads are about dating, as a woman.

You sound creepy, why do you keep going to her house? Most employers don’t do that, especially random men going to women’s houses.