15 weeks pregnant and partner left

In this instance yes, you are correct.

Surely you understand it’s more harmful to have a child that doesn’t have much chance of a stable home life. This isn’t the place for your hateful agenda.

So the child doesn't matter?

I kept dd and we didnt even have a house. Rented for a bit...now a homeowner with a lovely dh. Dd ( 17) applying to unis to do finance and doing brilliantly. Dd has never met her real dad. His loss.

Ignore those saying you will have an awful life if you keep the baby.
Phone hmrc / universal credit people...explain the situation then go after a share of the house.

In your position, i’d keep the baby. Good luck.

I also agree with others he us shagging someone else
His behaviour is 100% textbook.

Your pregnancy probably contradicts his "we are more like siblings these days" spiel to whoever she is. Its usually someone from work.

i wouldnt waste my time cherchez-ing la femme though.

I dont think that works in law

He doesn’t want you to keep the baby because if you go to court and the judge hears what an arse he is the judge may say you don’t have to sell the house for a while until you are settled with the baby and feel emotionally able to move on.

He lost any say in what happens in your pregnancy the moment he walked out the door. Now the decision is just yours. Do not let him dictate to you what you can and can't do. If you want your baby then you can have it and he will have to pay the baby maintenance once it's born. It sounds like he'd rather his baby was killed so he has to pay less money in maintenance. He is absolutely scum. If you only bought house in November it can't be sold for a minimum of 6 months from purchase date. No one would get a mortgage on it. Your 3 years old will almost be at school once your baby is born. You will cope. If you are not working ATM you can claim UC. I hope you have supportive family and friends but if not you can make new friends at parent and baby groups.

What a horrible man. He decided over Christmas after buying a house with you in November? Were you having lots of arguments before?

I agree with pps - cherchez la femme. This stinks of an OW.

Anyway no - he doesn’t get to decide or pressure you into an abortion. It’s that simple. And how you will afford it? He will pay maintenance and he will have to watch both his kids being brought up in more impoverished conditions than if he sorted his act out and stayed.

What a fucking turd of a man.

I would urgently got some individual counselling to work out what was best for me and my 3 yr old.

Dm me if youd like a recommendation for an excellent therapist. Shes empathetic but equally will challenge you / give you straight talk.

Separately I would understand early on... He isnt your friend cant be trusted and I wouldnt be playing fair because he is not going to.
based on his dickhead behaviour you can expect eow at best in terms of custody at best.
Given your arent married you will be in a worse financial position unfortunately id go and see a few solicitors and get some advice.
Youll struggle to sell the house for at least a year and then it'll likely take a wgile to sell especially if you refuse low offers.. so that should buy you 18m or so

No fucking chance would I risk my mental health with an abortion someone else wanted me to have
It's your body op
You do what's right for you

Wow. Men just … never fail to amaze me. I’m so sorry!! I’m assuming this was a planned pregnancy as you were in a LTR ? How is he going to just … jump ship at this point? Wtf.
It’s YOUR body and YOUR choice. What do YOU want to do? That being said it is important that you seriously think about -

If you’d be able to manage

If you’ll have adequate support with a newborn and a three year old.

How it may impact the unborn child that will have a father who wanted them aborted, (Though in time dad may come round to the idea and be willing to have a relationship with them but there’s a risk he might never.)

Again, I'm so sorry you’re going through this but it’s a blessing in disguise - even though it doesn’t feel that way now. X

Exactly this! The choice is out of his hands now. He should have thought about that before and kept it in his pants!

I wouldn’t want two children by this pig you are describing, so I’m afraid I’d pick differently.

Oh, and start telling everyone what he's doing/saying to you. History will quickly be rewritten by him, loveless marriage, no sex, you made demands....

This is despicable wording. You need to remember OP is a real person and take your hateful pro-life agenda elsewhere.

OP, I’m sorry you’ve had to read this. Your ex is despicable as well and I’m so sorry for you that you’re in this situation. Sending love and light. You’ll make the decision that’s right for you.

5 years ago I was 8 months pregnant with a 2 year old when my then husband left.

Apart from their dad's threats and general awful behaviour, I found going from 1 child to 2 easier than being a first-time parent. I was more confident in what I was doing and had wonderful support from friends, family, midwife, health visitors etc.

The comment about you struggling with "just" your 3 year old on your own feels unfair, to say the least, given what he is putting you through. I think most parents have struggled with "just" their three year old at some points!

Wow, what a dick!
He might be out of love with you, so why was he making a baby 13 weeks ago? He had his chance then to make a decision about controlling whether a baby comes? Or did he think you will literally get rid of baby on his whim so he can enjoy himself condomless? It's your choice and babies are difficult, teens are hard work and adult children exhausting, but there is 2 of you and 50/50 split will give you plenty of time to recover and deal with what's ahead.
He's not thinking of leaving you and kids too? Does he not think he had any responsibility?

My wonderful grandbabies are being raised by a single mum whose partner also left when she was pg with #3. She doing an amazing job without him and so will
you @Dotdot123
Do you have family support or friends to talk to? He sounds like a selfish twat and maybe your life will actually be better without him dragging you down? I hope so.

What a dick. Keep your baby and get a solicitor

One thing you might not have thought of is in years to come, your DS will have a sibling when you’re no longer here. It can be really lonely for only children. If you want to continue, you’ll manage and could be great. DH has an agenda in that it’s him who wants maybe to pay less maintenance.

Why would the house need to be sold? Courts often don’t want to disrupt children’s living arrangements too much.

You want the baby so he doesn’t suddenly get to decide on something so important at this stage. Everyone has times when they find parenting hard if they’re trying to do it well. You’ll find a way to make it work. But do put in a claim for child maintenance asap and seek legal support about the house.

There is a whole group of Facebook called "I regret having children" with some harrowing stories. So I don't think it's true at all. But, fundamentally, the OP wants to keep the baby and so she will figure out how to make it all work.