Report this staff member at school?

She could still be staff?? Visiting another school.

It was a comment between colleagues, have you never said anything untoward to a colleague?

Yes of course you should report.
What a horrible and offensive way to speak about anybody. I can only imagine that the school have more than one member of staff that behave (and think this way) so if you can, i would flag it up but, also maybe flag it up to the board of governors too.

It’s so disappointing to see so many people downplay this. To say children”must be inbred” is a nasty, classist and possible racist insult. When we hear of adults behaving awfully to children, everyone goes “How did nobody stop it?!”
Now here is the OP, trying to do something about a horrible and prejudiced woman, and everyone is going “But think how you would look OP”. Well, if you do that you’re part of the problem.

BTW I worked in a school for 3 years and never once made nasty comments about the children. Nobody did, it would not have been tolerated. We’d say we were fed up, they were particularly difficult today? But never ever anything like “I bet half of them were inbred”. You didn’t get personal was the unspoken rule.

It was said within earshot of a non-staff member then. Does it matter?

Why are you assuming it was said in front of a parent, the OP said she was visiting, she could be visiting as a professional, not a parent.

It doesn't have to be siblings to be inbred.

There was a local news article a few years ago that I remember, where for the first time in the school's history, every child starting reception had the same surname. Nobody's parents were siblings, but if that's happening in your population, inbreeding is happening at some level!

We all have shit days, and if the kids were being particularly wild, any one of us could make a throwaway comment to a colleague that we wouldn't say to someone else. Who here hasn't said something in private in anger that they wouldn't want taken out of context and reported.

Yes I’m sure she was just striking up a non-bitchy conversation about the demographic of the pupils 🙄

"You really think that 50% of the children have parents who are siblings?"

Inbred is an insult used where I live about people from other small towns. It's considered pretty mild.

Why is it racist to comment that in certain areas there is evidence of marriage between cousins? Why is it racist to state that in some areas there are midwives who deal with such eventualities?

Did anyone else hear this ?

If not, then I am sure you can see how your "report" may come across.

And if someone else did hear it, what is their opinion ? Why are they not reporting it ?

No necessarily 50% or parents who are siblings, but it is well know that in certain areas there are families that marry cousins etc, and in these areas in the maternity department there will be a midwife assigned to such families ( close marriage midwife ) it has a different name because the NHS cannot be seen to draw attention to it........................

Inbred doesn't necessarily mean that the parents are siblings! I have taught classes where many of the children were cousins or the children of cousins. To the point where it was genuinely concerning, because the children were inheriting physical differences/disabilities.
No, the LTA shouldn't have said it but it could well be accurate.

I wouldn't report anything but the inbred comment wouldn't have racist overtones where I live.

YANBU, I cannot fucking stand uppity non-teaching staff, the ones at my DS’s school are awful and total bullies, and my nephew who has ADHD and autism was terrified of going to his school (different school in another part of the country) because of the nastiness of the TAs and lunchtime supervisors, and ended up being off for 2 full terms.

I can’t believe people are saying she must have had a bad day. So what - pull yourself together and keep the words inside! It’s day 2 of the new term and you’re talking about children within earshot of parents. No excuses to make such horrible insults. If school staff hate children so much they need to leave that job, not be validated by people who got some reason think that having a low paid job entitles you to nastiness

As it wasn't said to a child and you were just eavesdropping I'd leave it. Not a nice thing to say but also it wasn't intended to be heard.

You really think that 50% of the children have parents who are siblings?

The dining supervisor has encountered some poor behaviour but there's no suggestion that they've said anything inappropriate to the children. Nothing to see here, move along...

It's not great but why didn't you call them out at the time? Could have easily said "that's a bit harsh" whilst smiling and it would have made the member pause for thought and hopefully stopped any future similar comments.

Sorted.

I honestly cannot understand why people hear something then go away and wonder if it "report it" or not. Do you actually want the staff member to be sacked for that?

FFS, the kids are probably feral and inbred!

Have you never made a throwaway comment to a colleague?? I have every bloody day I go into work.

People are allowed to have opinions, even if they differ to yours, because do you know what, she is probably saying what others are thinking!

Including those of you who are saying its out of order!

Grow up fgs

In what capacity were you visiting? What prevented you from challenging this when you heard it?

I'd report on the basis if you overheard then a DC can overheard too.

It's humour. Not said to a child. Between two members of staff. Was it nice? No. But as long as they're kind to the children, it's irrelevant. They'll be on minimum wage and schools HUGELY struggle to recruit minimum wage staff with minimum hours available.

They're stopping the kids from killing each other in the playground, not teaching them core values in the classroom.

@Bellee108 So you aren’t sure who it was said to? I’d possibly try and speak to the head about language used in school by staff. Even if it’s to each other. It’s a school and standards should be high. Of course, the statement might have been true but it’s not something an adult looking after dc should say. Leave it up to SLT to deal with it in a way they think appropriate - not say anything derogatory in front of visitors, children or parents would be my suggestion.

Nope. Joking that the children are feral is one thing, saying that they are inbred is another.