Report this staff member at school?

I’d report it - not necessarily because it’s a sign of neglect or abuse in the setting itself, but I’d definitely question whether that member of staff if coping and whether their mental health was okay. If I were a fellow member of staff I would wonder why they are teaching if this is how they feel about children - and whether they should continue to do so without an intervention.

Have been a youth leader, guide/scout leader, childminder and even teacher (briefly), so totally understand how some groups of kids can be challenging and make you unhappy if you simply cannot manage them - but that was a me issue and I certainly wouldn’t have used the inbred slur - that is classist and discriminatory.

Do you really think inbred means incest??

Why are you so caught up with 50%??

@BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKindI actually dislike both. It’s describing dc as being animals and not well bred! It’s disparaging whatever way you look at it. I’d not be happy with anything like this being said about my dc as they were not wild animals or with dubious parentage. Professional people should use appropriate language but feral seems ok to many - I don’t agree.

I wouldn’t report it. It could be partially true in some areas. Some kids are dreadful and dragged up by crappy parents . It’s understandable that those looking after them get frustrated. As long as a child didn’t hear it then I’d keep quiet.

Have they? I certainly don't.

Feral fine. Inbred not fine and a horrible thing to think let alone say.

They are allowed to vent. She hasn’t said it to children. Was probably had a bad day. Leave it alone and get on with your life.

For goodness sake wind your neck in. You overhead two colleagues making a joke. Are you hoping this person will lose their job? I would suggest you take a good hard look at yourself and please if you are board do some voluntary work or something.

Yes I’m sure it wasn’t a bitchy conversation but a discussion about the pupil demographic. Definitely rings true.

Who said they hate the children? On a good day it's probably fine, first few days back may be chaos and by the end of the shift a little letting off steam is understandable.

Inbred doesn’t just refer to incest

it is more broadly referring to people marrying too close to their blood family for health

the royal families of Europe were known for this
as are some ethic communities in the UK, and indeed some regions of England have health traits that are a result of inbreeding over previous generations

but in this case someone was venting and someone else was earwigging - which is a nasty habit

@Bellee108
Be sure to never go out with a group of drunk HCPs, you'd never get over the way patients are described.
It's normal to use black humour to manage emotions in stressful jobs.
Just leave it.

I would report her suggesting that half the kids are inbred. That's out of order.

Saying the kids are feral, it's not the best use of language especially using it in a professional environment but I could overlook it.

If it was the feral comment alone I'd say to not bother but with the inbred comment I'd absolutely report exactly what happened.

Which schools, areas and cohorts is that? Whole classrooms 50% full of children born from incest?

She was letting off steam in a private conversation. Why are you so keen to snitch?

Is she good at her job otherwise? Treats the kids fine? If the answer is yes then mind your own business.

Oh and all the cousin marriages I know are white...

For those claiming inbred is rascist

If anything it's more likely to be abelist because it's being used to suggest some mental health issue or physical disability

I suspect in this case it was going hand in hand with feral to mean "acting like animals"

It wasn't like she was standing on a stage making a speech about the pupils to an audience. If you eavesdrop you never hear anything good. Just having a bad day and a moan, she didn't actually mean any of it literally, just letting off steam. Would you prefer 'the little darlings were all having a a mental health crisis today possibly mass hysteria, we must get another psychologist on the team.'

I don't get why Feral is ok but PP are getting so worked up over Inbred

And I think you'll find most people who work with children will have called them feral, bastards, little shits etc at some point

It wasn't said TO the children. Let it go

But saying inbred in wrong when in some schools/areas it is an accurate representation of the cohort?

Not when you’re being uppity it isn’t

"YANBU, I cannot fucking stand uppity non-teaching staff."

Uppity is also an unpleasant word to use.

Yes I agree, the same here. It is used as a jokey insult about people from a town that is smaller and perceived as being a bit more backward than your own.

In the town where I have lived for the last 40 years the target of this joke is a neighbouring town. I worked in that town for several years and discovered they make the same joke about an even smaller town a few miles away.

Where I originally came from the butt of this joke was, well, the village I came from! TBF I did have a lot of cousins in the area! Our village was so small and remote that we didn't have many places we could look down on but there was a little hamlet of about twenty house that sometimes got mentioned in that context. Actually I think I had ancestors from there....

Was that in Nuneaton lol

Not in front of visitors I haven’t, And never ever about children.

She may be a colleague in another school in which case she’s in an even better place to report a fellow staff member and hold them to higher standards. School staff are consistently encouraged to report alarming behaviour from colleagues.