Report this staff member at school?

So you have called them feral

I rest my case

I think I would, actually. I don't think that it should occur to anyone working with children to speak about them in that way, directly or indirectly.

I don't think there is actually a grey area here or any excuse ('bad day' etc.). It's not 'banter' and it's highly inappropriate.

I think I would either speak to the person directly and tell them that I had overheard the comment - or yes, report it but I might consider not giving the name or a description of the supervisor so the school can have a general word to all staff about how they speak about the young children in their care.

I have referred to all the children in general as 'being feral' on days where lots of them are a bit wild and not behaving very well, but no I don't refer to them as little shits or bastards. Nor have I referred to any individual as feral. That's just unnecessary and nasty. Would you find it acceptable if nurses referred to patients in this way? Your elderly parents carers?

You believe?
What do you hope to achieve?

She didn't say it to them!

You cant prove they said it though, so I'd leave it. If you suspect this person really does have a bad attitude though, I'm sure other more substantial evidence will present itself eventually, and then you might have more of a case.

This sounds interesting! Can you explain more ?

If it's a joke, then why have a problem with OP sharing what she heard? If it's ok to say disrespectful things about children you work with and it's just ...uh..'banter'

It's problematic because it reveals a 'looks down on' attitude via what was said and is inappropriate

@itstheteaThat doesn’t excuse a lack of basic respect for the children.

It is called Freedom of Speech! What action should be taken? Should the person loose their job, receive a warning or some sort of training?

They were letting off steam.

Now if the person had said this to the (I liked this from a PP@TalulahJP),
“…..little bast, er i mean darlings…..” that would be different!

I have used both terms, in reference to some of the youth and their behaviour, in some areas where I live, in the past!

Whereas a lot of staff are tired of rude children and unsupportive parents

Is this primary or secondary out of interest?

From my DC's description of what the lunch hall at their school is like, lunchtime supervisors have to put up with absolutely horrendous behaviour. When you put hundreds of children together with minimal adults to supervise, most of whom don't have the authority in the children's eyes that a teacher has, then you get situations where the children egg each other on and some start doing unacceptable things. You couldn't pay me enough to do that job.

It's not an ideal thing to say, but I wouldn't report someone for letting off a bit of steam by making a private remark to a colleague. If I witnessed them speaking inappropriately to a child, that would be different, but a conversation between adults is not something I would report. What are you hoping will happen - the lunchtime supervisor to get fired and then there are even fewer adults supervising? Did you witness the behaviour that led the adult to make this comment?

I am curious what she meant by that. Some comments suggest that people in different regions interpret it a little bit differently.

To me, that means she was focusing on the kids who have some sort of developmental/ physical issues as a problem. So not on at all. I’d email the headteacher because I’m tired of rude, thoughtless people around our children.

I wouldn't have been particularly happy to overhear that and think it's wrong, but seeing it written on here made me laugh....sorry

Truth hurts. Half the kids i witness these days could easily come under the same tags. It sounds like you overheard an overworked, under appreciated member of staff talking to a workmate. Having to deal with all the issues and problems children who lack any real parenting are thrust upon these schools.

Time to stop pussy footing around them. They are dragging children who know how to behave down.

I guess it's just me then.

We are animals. Wildness varies between people. Most children are not especially domesticated.

It's really hard to get lunchtime supervisors. It's poorly paid, stressful and rubbish hours.

This week of term is generally awful, and even worse because of the snow.

She made a jokey throwaway comment to a colleague about it. Move on with your life.

Yes email the school and if you can provide details of who said it. Inbred and feral - nope.

Omg

having a rant with a trusted friend and colleague is a great way to protect your mental health / are you so uptight that you have a problem with yours?

faux concern

I’d let it go.

Ffs just leave it. People are allowed to off load. They are even allowed to be offensive. What is your aim? Get someone fired and have a vacancy?

Have you worked with children recently?

Animals, not well bred, ill mannered etc are all fairly accurate at times

All the people I know who work with children definitely have

And I bet you have really