Report this staff member at school?

I work in the North West, not far from Manchester in a town that has been linked to grooming etc
In the maternity department we have to have a consanguineous midwife - or a close relative midwife due to sheer number families who are all related who then go on to marry/have children

I'm from the NW, not the town that you are referring to Ithink but has a similar demographic. When I worked with children with disabilities quite a few moons ago I was shocked to find many of the parents were very closey related. It definitely is a 'thing '
There was a lot of serious disability and early deaths with the children

You were eavesdropping on a private conversation that you were not involved in and was nothing to do with you. Don't be silly.

I dont think it was meant literally.

Just sounds like it came from an exasperated, worn out worker.

Personally I wouldnt report it. I visit a minimum of 3 primary schools a week as well as work with alternative education schools. Some schools are amazing and have poilte, well mannered children others have pupils whose behaviour is truly obnoxious. I have seen teachers been told to fuck off my y2 pupils, another teacher was kicked
Before the end of term a child throw a chair across the class room. This is not in an SEND school but regularly mainstream. Feral behaviour really does happen in a lot of schools and the kids doing it are getting younger and younger

So to me the comment sounds like a vent.

Most people here can turn a blind eye to feral. But I can’t believe those excusing the word ‘inbred’ as an insult. If a nurse or doctor referred to one of our patients as ‘inbred’ I would challenge that usage immediately. Yet people are saying it’s fine for school staff in a professional setting to describe children that way whilst at work.

Feral part on its own wouldn't bother me but to call them "inbred" is totally unacceptable. I wouldn't want someone with that attitude/views being in a position of power over my kids or anyone else's. Report them.

I work in the North West, not far from Manchester in a town that has been linked to grooming etc.
In the maternity department we have to have a consanguineous midwife - or a close relative midwife due to sheer number families who are all related who then go on to marry/have children

I agree. Different if she had said it to the children.

DH calls our own kids his little shits

Dont be so uptight

a lot of kids round where i live ARE feral and when you have to put up with the little shits every day then yes, i believe she has every right to think that, its not like shes saying it to their face

I think she has a point 😂😂😂

In my area they’d be speaking the truth. I’d leave it

I hate the use of feral when describing children, it’s horrible. However, I would not report it because who honestly has the time or mental energy to embroil themselves in this kind of shite

She's probably right

😂

Pretty sure I’ve said similar about my own kids! Would you really report this? Get a grip.

I wouldn't either.

Geez, it was a joke...let it go. I call my osn kids feral on occasion. Not in bred obviously, but lighten up... I doubt it was meant genuinely.

We were having this conversation at the weekend. The first week back would be a challenge. The children have eaten lots of sugar, had late nights, Santa came.

My grandchildren were definitely wired. On Saturday. Then school was cancelled on Monday because of the snow.

I don't see there being any difference between feral, Little shits or bastards 🤷‍♀️

My point is that anyone working with children will have said something similar and you claimed you never had but you have called them feral

Which makes my point

OP, YADNBU! What if one of the children had heard it? One who understands what ‘inbred’ means. Nope, I’m sorry but she/he needs reporting. Now.

What makes it throwaway? Would it be throwaway if he/she had said something racist? No? That’s different is it, how so? Please explain

I have worked in the nhs for 30y. I have heard every kind of insult and challenging interaction from patients and their families. I have never spoken to a colleague about patients using offensive language like this and would take a dim view if I heard colleagues using words like ‘inbred’. It’s extremely unprofessional, esp when describing vulnerable groups. Stress and high workload do not excuse language like this. Nope.

Feral technically means an animal living wild which is either domesticated, or the descendant of a domesticated animal.

(Well that's my limited understanding).

Honestly a lunch time supervisor is a tough poorly paid job. Not sure it's worth getting someone in trouble over one comment on what might have been a very bad day as they are back after the hols.

Feral = wild.

It's nothing like calling them inbred/little shits/bastards which you think is perfectly fine.

Im over 40 and still remember the dinner ladies as they were called then being absolutely horrible, they'd be busy bodies who had favourites. Id report.