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To choose aeroplane seats that a family might need?

111 replies

IamGrout · 06/01/2026 14:06

I have a number of hidden disabilities that can make long flights painful and distressing and after a particularly bad long haul night flight a few years ago I have since made sure to book extra legroom aisle seats so I have a little more space and room to move around to alleviate pain in my joints. It is still uncomfortable and I cannot sleep but it is more bearable.

I have booked a holiday to DisneyWorld in Florida this summer for me, DH and DS15. I have spoken to British Airways and they have arranged extra legroom seats for me which is great and I am very grateful to them for this. On the way out they have allocated bulkhead seats which are the ones where a baby bassinet can be used. I queried it as I was worried that it will be a flight full of families and someone with a baby might need those seats. The Customer Service Assistant said it was fine as those seats are meant for disabled passengers or those with babies. On the return flight which is a night flight, they have allocated an extra legroom seat (31C on the attached picture) which has no seat directly in front. I think this is brilliant as I will have so much more space to move about without disturbing anyone but will I feel too exposed to be able to sleep? And from experience people will walk into me/kick my legs/stand in that space. Also DH is 6'4" with long legs and as he would be in a standard seat I am sure he would end up encroaching on my space or I would feel bad for him and offer to swap (then really regret it). Seats 31D/E/F, which are bulkhead with space for a bassinet, are currently available. I don't know which will be best. Has anyone here experience of these seats and can offer advice? What would do choose?

For the poll
I am unreasonable = stay in 31A/B/C
I am not unreasonable = swap to 31D/E/F

To choose aeroplane seats that a family might need?
OP posts:
ComtesseDeSpair · 06/01/2026 14:17

My experience was that being seated next to passengers who were using the baby bassinets possibly wouldn’t be conducive to sleep. I was allocated one as a stand-by passenger and fortunately the air steward found somebody with a baby who hadn’t booked one to swap me with after takeoff. But I certainly wouldn’t worry at all about booking a seat you feel you need for health and height reasons just in case somebody else might also want it, you’re as able to book it as anyone else.

HugglesAndSnuggles · 06/01/2026 14:17

You can’t go worrying about the needs of other people OP. You’ve got your needs and got in there first to reserve the seats 🤷‍♀️ Yes, it might inconvenience someone else but they should have called BA sooner. They can always change their flight if there’s no bassinet available.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 06/01/2026 14:16

Sorry, I found the voting tricky so changed to YABU - I think you should stay with A-C

The seating arrangements have been agreed FOR YOU not for your DH. Therefore he does not get to encroach on your space or ask you to swap. The airlines don’t arrange special seats free of charge for those who happen to be tall, they’ve been arranged for your disability. If you view it as a kind of fraud to let him have that seat instead, would that help you?

FcukBreastCancer · 06/01/2026 14:15

You dont want to be in the bit people stand in. Worst seats on the plane I think.

2024TN · 06/01/2026 14:14

They have already accommodated your disability. It would be unreasonable to ask them to change the accommodation to take DH’s height into account, particularly when, as you say, the bassinet seats could then be utilised by a party with a lap infant

I do feel for him though, I’m tall with longer legs and economy flights are hell.

HundredMilesAnHour · 06/01/2026 14:14

You’re overthinking this. Stay where you are - and do not give your seat to your husband! Although I’d actually suggest swapping to the other side of the plane if possible (so move from 31C to 31H) as there’s usually a bit less foot traffic on that side so less chance of you being disturbed overnight.

TheNightingalesStarling · 06/01/2026 14:13

Book the seats you need

Lmnop22 · 06/01/2026 14:13

Stay where you are and your DH can stretch out a leg to your area if needed or simply use some of the extra room in front to stand/stretch same as you. I would take up the baby bassinet seats when the only reason to make the adjustment is your tall husband rather than your own needs.

Also, if you cannot sleep, you surely won’t be too exposed to sleep!

IamGrout · 06/01/2026 14:12

Mistletoeiggi · 06/01/2026 14:09

What are the grey areas in front of the seats?
You don't want the space in front of you to be used as a crossing point by people going to the toilet, for example

Just bulkhead walls for service pipes/wiring. Toilets are further back.

OP posts:
Gettoachiro · 06/01/2026 14:09

Just book what you need. First come, first served.

Mistletoeiggi · 06/01/2026 14:09

What are the grey areas in front of the seats?
You don't want the space in front of you to be used as a crossing point by people going to the toilet, for example