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To choose aeroplane seats that a family might need?

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IamGrout · 06/01/2026 14:06

I have a number of hidden disabilities that can make long flights painful and distressing and after a particularly bad long haul night flight a few years ago I have since made sure to book extra legroom aisle seats so I have a little more space and room to move around to alleviate pain in my joints. It is still uncomfortable and I cannot sleep but it is more bearable.

I have booked a holiday to DisneyWorld in Florida this summer for me, DH and DS15. I have spoken to British Airways and they have arranged extra legroom seats for me which is great and I am very grateful to them for this. On the way out they have allocated bulkhead seats which are the ones where a baby bassinet can be used. I queried it as I was worried that it will be a flight full of families and someone with a baby might need those seats. The Customer Service Assistant said it was fine as those seats are meant for disabled passengers or those with babies. On the return flight which is a night flight, they have allocated an extra legroom seat (31C on the attached picture) which has no seat directly in front. I think this is brilliant as I will have so much more space to move about without disturbing anyone but will I feel too exposed to be able to sleep? And from experience people will walk into me/kick my legs/stand in that space. Also DH is 6'4" with long legs and as he would be in a standard seat I am sure he would end up encroaching on my space or I would feel bad for him and offer to swap (then really regret it). Seats 31D/E/F, which are bulkhead with space for a bassinet, are currently available. I don't know which will be best. Has anyone here experience of these seats and can offer advice? What would do choose?

For the poll
I am unreasonable = stay in 31A/B/C
I am not unreasonable = swap to 31D/E/F

To choose aeroplane seats that a family might need?
OP posts:
canklesmctacotits · 06/01/2026 15:53

notimagain · 06/01/2026 15:42

Orlando - London is about 8 hours...

If there's only a 3.5 hour gap between the main meal service and breakfast somethings gone a bit wrong..

I live on the east coast and fly to LHR many times a year. By the time all is said and done, these days flying east with the breakfast service starting 1.5 hours before landing and the dinner service and faffing ending 1.5-2hours after take off, there's really not long while the lights are off. 3.5-4 hours is normal.

Tiswa · 06/01/2026 15:53

@IamGrout they definitely will expedite you if you prearrange - it is a weird one though collecting luggage first

Yes Universal has as well following the tragic death on stardust racers and very much involves needing to be able to independently get onto rides by yourself - it is quite controversial from what I have read.

And yes DAS pass has also changed

tinyspiny · 06/01/2026 15:53

Just go Premium economy , it’s much better .

Witcherwitcher · 06/01/2026 15:49

Happyjoe · 06/01/2026 15:44

And you have children. One of the worst things you can do for the environment and consumption is have children.

Oh dear.

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You have no way of knowing how my DC came into this world. Regardless, what an awful way to view motherhood and the birth of new life.

Boomer55 · 06/01/2026 15:48

If you need the seat then use it. No need to feel anything about other people and their children. 🤷‍♀️

IamGrout · 06/01/2026 15:45

Tiswa · 06/01/2026 15:11

If it is BA2036 literally just back on that flight and not sure for what you are worried about the bulkhead seats will offer anymore protection there will be footfall down that aisle (both sides) as the toilets are at the end and each side sticks to it

Have you sorted out immigration - Orlando Terminal C has a long walk to get to baggage claim - you get luggage first then go through immigration and the queues can be rough - we did 2 hours!

Disney DAS passes have changed now as well - have you looked into that process

I used to struggle on but now I wear my sunflower lanyard and book airport assistance.

My last flight away in autumn I was in a really bad way and I couldn't walk much so I really appreciated the porter taking me in a wheelchair through it all. Most airports will buggy you from the plane and expedite you through immigration but I will research what happens at Orlando Airport.

Thank you for the advice. I shall also look into the DAS pass changes as this was a game changer last time.

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Happyjoe · 06/01/2026 15:44

Witcherwitcher · 06/01/2026 14:57

I don’t do long haul flights. I would never choose to go to Disney World either! The disregard for the environment and the rampant consumerism is not something we as parents want to promote.

And you have children. One of the worst things you can do for the environment and consumption is have children.

Oh dear.

JudgeJ · 06/01/2026 15:44

FcukBreastCancer · 06/01/2026 14:15

You dont want to be in the bit people stand in. Worst seats on the plane I think.

This happened to us when Delta 'upgraded' us but only to seats in the main cabin next to the emergency exits where there was no space in front to store 'stuff', the table stowed in the arm and didn't offer much flexibility but wort of all, people tended to gather in 'our space' for long chats and expected us to pull our stretched legs in. Not my idea of an upgrade.

notimagain · 06/01/2026 15:42

canklesmctacotits · 06/01/2026 15:30

It's not a long flight from Orlando to anywhere in the UK. Between the dinner service and the breakfast service you'll be lucky to get 3.5 hours of darkness. I wouldn't put this much effort into it, personally.

Orlando - London is about 8 hours...

If there's only a 3.5 hour gap between the main meal service and breakfast somethings gone a bit wrong..

HundredMilesAnHour · 06/01/2026 15:42

Changename12 · 06/01/2026 15:24

Sorry but the map didn’t show the door. Yes some people would be that stupid to book people into seats they are not allowed in. A couple of years ago, when we were sitting in the exit row seat, a man who had got his boarding pass at the check in, turned up with a walking stick and had to be moved. The flight attendant said that it happened all the time.

Yes, because there isn’t a door where the OP is sitting. That’s the whole point!

This is the more detailed seat map that confirms what I’m saying:

To choose aeroplane seats that a family might need?
godmum56 · 06/01/2026 15:41

Choose and book the seats you want because for sure everyone else will except for the entitled CF's

InterIgnis · 06/01/2026 15:30

Just book the seats you want and need. That’s it.

canklesmctacotits · 06/01/2026 15:30

It's not a long flight from Orlando to anywhere in the UK. Between the dinner service and the breakfast service you'll be lucky to get 3.5 hours of darkness. I wouldn't put this much effort into it, personally.

Changename12 · 06/01/2026 15:24

HundredMilesAnHour · 06/01/2026 15:10

She’s not in the exit row nor is she near the toilets. That’s very clear from the seat map. And BA are hardly going to book someone that they know has a disability in an exit row. 🙄

Sorry but the map didn’t show the door. Yes some people would be that stupid to book people into seats they are not allowed in. A couple of years ago, when we were sitting in the exit row seat, a man who had got his boarding pass at the check in, turned up with a walking stick and had to be moved. The flight attendant said that it happened all the time.

Justploddingonandon · 06/01/2026 15:20

You're overthinking it, you've as much right as them, although when I flew three with three adults and a baby BA wouldn't let us book both bassinet seats and the third adult had to sit behind, so if that hasn't changed you may not all be together. Also can't remember what plane type it was (it was a while ago) but their was barely any more legroom, and as someone previously mentioned it can seem less as you can't stretch your legs out. I do remember when I had the bassinet down I literally had to climb over the armrest to get out, but that won't be an issue for you.
Nowadays I prefer to travel less often so I can go business class or at least economy plus for long haul, but appreciate this isn't an option for everyone.

BerryTwister · 06/01/2026 15:19

Is a bassinet the same as a Moses basket?

IamGrout · 06/01/2026 15:17

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I know, it is completely overwhelming. We have been before and the first day we went to Disney was a complete disaster. However, the staff at Disney and Universal were wonderful once I spoke to them. They put accommodations in place for DS and he ended up having the best time. I find it exhausting but we go slow and build in plenty of rest time when needed.

It's a crazy place but they are really geared up to help those that need it.

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TeenagersAngst · 06/01/2026 15:15

TheFairyCaravan · 06/01/2026 15:01

It’s as if wheelchairs and mobility scooters haven’t been invented yet. 🙄

We were in Disney in Florida a few years ago and the number of mobility scooters (mainly with morbidly obese people using them) was astonishing.

However, the heat and humidity were quite bad and at times I thought I was the fool for walking around on foot.

myglowupera · 06/01/2026 15:11

Yanbu to book those seats or any other seats. If you’re there first booking it then you get the seats first.

And guess what, you’re a family too. Just because your DS is 15 it doesn’t mean you’re any less of a family than parents flying with say, a 5 year old. You’re literally going as mum, dad and son - a family! So if you think those seats are geared towards families then book them because as I said you’re a family and you shouldn’t feel any guilt.

Tiswa · 06/01/2026 15:11

If it is BA2036 literally just back on that flight and not sure for what you are worried about the bulkhead seats will offer anymore protection there will be footfall down that aisle (both sides) as the toilets are at the end and each side sticks to it

Have you sorted out immigration - Orlando Terminal C has a long walk to get to baggage claim - you get luggage first then go through immigration and the queues can be rough - we did 2 hours!

Disney DAS passes have changed now as well - have you looked into that process

Happyjoe · 06/01/2026 15:11

I had one of those seats with nothing in front on a flight to Australia. It was great.

HundredMilesAnHour · 06/01/2026 15:10

Changename12 · 06/01/2026 14:59

I would just make sure that you are OK and not overthink it.
There are a few concerns with 31C, although the bulkhead seat should be OK.
Are you sure you do not have an exit row seat ( door over the wing)? You are not allowed in there if you are disabled. This is in the event of emergency landing.
Are you sure you are not near the toilet? It won’t be very restful if you are.
If there is an empty space there children will gather there. I had this on a flight to Florida, years ago. I was wearing sandals and one child kept treading on my toes.
Unless you are the most laid back person in the world, don’t bank on getting much sleep.

She’s not in the exit row nor is she near the toilets. That’s very clear from the seat map. And BA are hardly going to book someone that they know has a disability in an exit row. 🙄

Topseyt123 · 06/01/2026 15:10

Witcherwitcher · 06/01/2026 14:57

I don’t do long haul flights. I would never choose to go to Disney World either! The disregard for the environment and the rampant consumerism is not something we as parents want to promote.

Nobody asked your opinion on this. You do you.

notimagain · 06/01/2026 15:07

@Changename12

There are a few concerns with 31C, although the bulkhead seat should be OK.
Are you sure you do not have an exit row seat

Looks to me as if 30A/B and 30J/K are the one's that might count as exit row..as you say not sure the centre of row 30 count as such because they are inboard of both aisles but don't quote me on it...

( door over the wing)

The emergency exits aren't always there on Long Haul aircraft, it depends, so TBH we'd need to see the full seat plan to work that out.

daisychicken · 06/01/2026 15:07

newornotnew · 06/01/2026 15:03

The Customer Service Assistant said it was fine as those seats are meant for disabled passengers or those with babies.

plus

I have a number of hidden disabilities

equals

Get on with it without a further thought

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THIS!

I too have invisible disabilities with similar issues to you and I know exactly what you mean about people not seeing that you are struggling and need the support. But, you are worth it. You've paid for those seats so don't give it any more thought!

Perhaps get a sunflower lanyard to show a visible sign to the staff on board - it's just another way to show that you have some invisible condition and might need extra support.