Dd17 holiday been turned down from work

Have already clarified. I didn’t know there was an age threshold.

I guess she must be an apprentice.

If she’s a teaching assistant she’d obviously have the whole summer off! Also, she’s only 17, so too young for that.

OP it might be the leave hasn't been turned down, she might not have asked for it.
Your daughter is 18, she is an adult and I say this with kindness you might find she wants her independence.
Try and enjoy your holiday without your daughter, sadly she won't be going on holiday with you forever.

Up to your daughter really. If she likes and needs her job then so be it. If she isnt bothered about the work Id tell them to stuff it and find another job. But its her choice and you musnt put pressure on her.

I’m not sure how she can have a full time job at 17… legally she should be in full time education until 18.

But if she is really doesn’t like it, she can look for a job elsewhere…

THIS!!!! Discrimination!!! Someone is being a greedy bastard here and snagging all the holidays

That's not a school holiday though.

Go last week in June?

Is the job worth it? My sister missed a family
trip to France when she was that age because River Island wouldn’t let her have the time off.
She’s 45 now and I’m quite sure she would like to travel back in time, give herself a slap, and tell RiverFuckingIsland to do one.

I'd personally look for another job if that many applications for leave have been refused.

It kind of sounds like families are getting their requests in as soon as dates are available to book OR parents with children are being prioritised for those dates. If it's the latter, I think she needs to ask that at least one of her requests be reconsidered as that's not fair. People have lives outside of having small children of their own.

This. Especially if she requested it within an hour of the window opening up. What on earth sort of industry does she work in?

Realistically it may not be possible for this year but I would suggest that she goes to her line manager to politely express her deep disappointment and to understand what is the actual basis under which holidays are approved.

Did she need to submit at 00.01 on the dot; will parents with kids always get priority [she can choose to vote with her feet] or some other rationale? It's not unusual in some industries to not allow any leave or very little over peak trading whether it's Christmas or summer depending on the industry.

While you are disappointed understandably, perhaps encourage her to spread her wings a little this year.

Her employer seems awful if she really can't get any of that time off! Does she need this job? Be tempted to quit if it was me, I need holidays!

She obviously just wants to do her own thing now OP, leave her be, don't guilt her or dramatize it

Agreed. This is clearly NOT first come first served so there must be some other "rule" at play. To refuse any AL during the entire summer is unreasonable.
I don't care what people think about an 18 year old going on holiday with parents, most at that age are at uni and would be going on at least some family holidays.

Well it’s really shit that there is no time off at all in the summer holidays. Is it a place where people can book really far in advance?

All she can do is talk to her manager - I would frame it that while she doesn't expect all her dates to be authorised, it seems unreasonable to get none of her preferred dates at all and would it be possible for at least one holiday period to be authorised.

Men don’t have periods, pregnancies or menopause so that might be the answer to why they don’t complain of being hormonal.

Some women are more affected by hormones than others. Maybe you should stop continuing the gaslighting of women over how their own bodies work. 🙄

When you are autistic changes can be hard but when it is something that is big like this that has been same routine for years, it can shake you to the core.

Big hugs @AmusedLemonFatball from an AuDHD mama ❤️
I’ve found when it is my children/family dynamic changes it can create a grieving period for me. Be kind to yourself and allow the emotions.

That’s sad @AmusedLemonFatball

Could she try to get the May half term off ( last week of May the weather is often nice)?

Or have a chat with her line manager and explain the problem that she keeps getting rejected for leave in school holidays but wants a holiday with her siblings who are school aged. Her employer may be assuming wrongly that she has no need for an occasional week off in school holidays.

These are popular dates but it still seems odd to get so many blanket nos. Are there lots of parents on the team? Just wondered if they booked them all super early

Otherwise maybe she is trying to be kind - seems a coincidence that the date with the friend was free.

What does your daughter do?

While on one hand I agree with comments saying she’s an adult now and has responsibilities, I think she does have to have a conversation with her employer regarding how the summer leave works. It’s completely unfair to say someone cannot take any leave July to September. What if she has children herself is she never to take leave during school holidays? She needs to understand what their leave policy is and how it works. There’s a possibility it’s indirect discrimination if she cannot take any leave during certain months in favour of parents etc.

Different option as well. Any chance you and her could just do a trip together. Mother daughter trip. A small consolation.

It is so frustrating when people don’t read the thread. And chime in with helpful comments like, can’t you all go at another time of year?!