Dd17 holiday been turned down from work

Yes you don't want to be booking flights this close as they'll likely be very expensive too

It wouldn't work like that in reality because you aren't going to recruit and train somebody to provide that cover just for a week or two. You can't just magic that cover from somewhere. For me the annual leave calendars should only open on 1st Jan and only for that year. It's a nightmare where I work because people are snapping up summer dates years ahead.

Carry on with the holiday. This was going to happen at some stage soon, there's no point getting worked up about it.

All the people saying to go Feb instead are being unreasonable given it’s only a few weeks away so harder to find something suitable

Lots of go away in Feb, I go away at the end of this month to Sri Lanka, it's a perfect time of year to head off to the tropics for some sunshine and warmth, my friend always goes to Tenerife in January.

Most people are missing something.

Her employer cannot just flat out refuse annual leave especially if ample notice is given as per her contract. They simply can't. It's on them to find cover if understaffed. The contract will mention the notice period, they have to honour it.

Sorry my mistake, employer rejected all but one request. Although this isn’t unreasonable. You just go back with different dates. If holidays away are already booked then that’s taking it for granted that you’re gonna be allowed that time off. You get the time off before booking a holiday

It doesn’t sound like a very flexible job if they rejected all her holidays, are there lots of parents in her job requesting the same weeks?

I imagine she needs the job and experience but I would consider looking for something else later on.

Seems rubbish she cant get any time off during any school holiday!
How is leave decided? Is it first come first served or on a sort of rota.
I would be upset too.
It does seem unreasonable to turn down pretty much all her leave requests.
Your choice is either sneaking younger DC out of school with tummy bug for a week in June ( assuming no exams)
Or going without her and just you and her go on a weelend away together before new baby is born.
Next time make sure she puts in her leave request asap and remind manager all first choices of leave were all refused this year

Statutory holidays is 4 weeks and the employer has only rejected the one with the family

Getting time off work is never guaranteed , TBH when I was that age there was no suggestion you could take time off- you would just have to leave. None of the jobs I did as a teenager gave paid or unpaid time off. Teenagers are usually vert PT so taking time off is not really a thing.
Unexpected change is always a part of life, nothing can be done about that.

It’s not like she’s not going on holiday. She’s going with a friend. She is nearly 18 and an adult who will probably want to go on holiday with her friends in future anyway. You’ve made this about you. Enjoy your time with the other kids because you’ll probably be saying this again in a few years. I’ve now got 6 grandchildren and we now take them on holidays. It will come around again for you

I don't think her employer sounds reasonable rejecting so many requests. She should query this. By law they have to allow her to take her statutory holiday (5.6 weeks)... is there actually any time when she CAN take leave?!

I bet she’s over the moon. Gets a week without the parents . Wit woo. And a holiday with her friend.

My DD had this issue when she was 17 and we were going away for xmas. Told them 3 months in advance, they said no. She said well I wont be here, simple and refused to change her availability online. They tried to give her a warning but HR stepped in as she was U18.

If possible and if she wants to, could she try to do a long weekend in Cornwall? Or if you’re in London area get the sleeper train down Friday night and back on Sunday night? I’d fly to and from newquay?
you could also do a closer family holiday in a location closer to her so she can easily come at the weekend? Eg if you live in London there are lovely hotels or air bnb with pools in surrey Sussex and Kent

Exactly. It was a ludicrous comment.

I think that’s really poor. I’d suggest she speaks with her manager and asks how leave is allocated. TBH if I were her I’d consider looking for other jobs and giving holiday dates upfront.

she applied for holidays at the same time as others but has been turned down for nearly all because other workers want them because they have kids. This seems very unfair that they get priority every single time. In her shoes I’d leave the
m all in the shit and get a better job

Hi op I get why you want her there just because she’s 18 doesn’t mean you toss her to one side I hope you keep looking at options and get something sorted. Then next year maybe you can try fit around her holidays.

I’m sorry but as a line manager, I feel that the declines are unreasonable. Sounds like the business are prioritizing leave for those with kids. How can there be nothing over the summer or half term. Personally I would call in sick if I were her on the week you want to go away.

How does she feel about it, did she suggest going a different date?

Maybe she doesn't fancy a family holiday this year and can't face telling her mom because she'll react badly, so just said that those dates are not available unfortunately, but the dates coinciding with the friend's family holiday she's invited on are available. Teenagers like to start exploring doing things independently around that age, in my experience.

How does DD feel about missing the holiday?

I’m sorry this has upset you . I work for a large organisation that informs you when you will be on holiday and if you want to change you have to do it mutually with another member of staff . All the staff with school age kids want the school holiday time and the rotate means you only have Christmas off ever 5 years because no one wants to swap. I think if she stays in the job you will all get used to that and maybe do some short breaks over the weekends of when you can juggle it . It’s good that she’s holidaying independently as it shows you have instilled confidence and adventure in her !