Dd17 holiday been turned down from work

I agree, What if you're married to a teacher and that's the only time they can get off? It's very unfair to give first dibs to parents. Personally I can go any time of the year so go out of school hols, but would be peed off if I could only go during school hols.

her employers are being really unreasonable.

She needs a new job.
Constant holiday denial is not a company you wish to work for. Se has asked for multiple periods off and none are good enough for them.

I love a February holiday. Cheaper, lifts the gloom from the UK winter and often quieter.

Sorry @AmusedLemonFatball but this is life. Yes it is sad when it happens the first time, but equally there are plenty of parents out there that would love to have children who are working and independent and would be proud as punch that their DC was being so mature about it. Not everyone has the opportunity your DD has at this age - either down to luck, disability or ill health. Embrace it for what it is - she is growing up and it is hugely mature of her (and credit to you) that she finds herself in this position.

By all means feel a wee bit sad, but move on an count your blessings. What a wonderful DD you have.

If she booked 1:30am on the day bookings open I'd encourage her to speak to her manager tbh about how leave is allocated when multiple people want the week. Something doesn't sound right there. Depends how bothered she is of course.

I think it's pretty obvious that she is disappointing her mum so what's so strange?That doesn't mean she's doing anything wrong. Part of being an adult is realising that your decisions and behaviour will impact others but accepting that this doesn't mean that other people's feelings are always our responsibility and that we can still prioritise our own feelings and wellbeing

They’re on shaky ground if the give parents priority over some dates and refuse other people a chance.
Disability discrimination - a lot of people cannot have children, and would not be able to adopt.
Age discrimination - too young/too old to reasonable have young children.

I'm afraid that's exactly what I thought.

Only the holiday that she doesn't have with the family, the one where she's going away with her friend is approved?

I mean she's practically an adult. Let her live.

Why would she not have enough annual leave?

Probably during the school terms. I imagine that in her workplace, parents get first dibs on school holidays because they’ve no choice. Although her siblings are still in school, she’s got a much weaker case to claim AL during school holidays than parents have because she’s not responsible for her siblings.

Some employers have parental leave policies. Plus, some have a hierarchy depending on length of service.

Nothing wrong with Feb half term. Just make sure to book somewhere you know it'd be warm then. OR skiing (I appreciate skiing may not be your thing, it isn't mine either).

Are you sure she has enough A/L to go on "holidays" she might not have enough days to go away, or she might actually want to keep some days back.

Presumably in the other 9 months of the year

Agree re Feb and May half term holidays?

Did she start this job recently? It’s possible it’s a case of first come, first served. She needs to find out how far in advance she can book holiday.

I also agree with PP that it might be nice if you did a holiday just with her?

If it’s likely to be an ongoing problem and it’s a dealbreaker for her then she should probably start looking for a different job.

The DD isn’t letting anyone down. What a strange thing to say.

If that’s the case, then maybe she should speak with her manager and ask why she has been refused because it sounds like they’re not doing first come first served and are actually only giving it to parents, which would be age discrimination as she is very unlikely to be a parent at 17 which means she’ll never get time off during school holidays.

It’s worth speaking to management to ask how it’s possible that all those dates got booked up before 1.30am on January 1st.

Loads of people.

There are countries that are warm in February - if sun is the reason?

I went to Devon in February!

Agree with you re this is life - DS1 is on a gap year and working in retail, he only had Christmas Day and NYD off and he was peeved, but that's working life for you.

Your comment about autism and ADHD is totally unnecessary though, why the need to be so bitchy?

It could very well be that colleagues with school children take priority during school holidays and siblings don't count.

I think you need to accept that things change and you need to find another time where she can take time off, Easter, May, October, to go away with all of you.

I'm interested to know when she's going to be able to take her annual leave given all the rejections.

Plenty of people do, obviously! So has she not applied for may half term?

who
goes away in Febuary away?

Someone who really wanted to holiday with their daughter if it was the only time she could get off?