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To be upset partner going on holiday without me?

209 replies

lulu55xxx · 06/01/2026 08:46

We live together,been a couple 7 years and are getting married next year.
Anyway he works as a manager for a kitchen company and they have branches all through the UK.
The company is taking the top 15 shops China to look at where there products are made etc and have been asked if they want to go.
Everyone in our area has declined but partner said yes as it’s his dream destination…we were planning on going together in a couple of years.
Now look I know I’m probably being ridiculous
It’s a free trip etc etc but I’m sad he’s going without me for two weeks.
Il be stuck here.
Now il be wishing him a nice time and hoping he has a good time but I’m still sad inside he’s going without me.
The assistant manager has declined as he doesn’t want to live his wife for that long but my partner had zero issues saying he would go.

Aibu ?

OP posts:
throwawayimplantchat · 06/01/2026 08:50

It’s a business trip, not a holiday. And you’ve used some really needlessly identifying information if what you’ve shared about his job role is true!

DaisyChain505 · 06/01/2026 08:50

You’re being completely unreasonable. If I was offered this opportunity by my work and my partner was being negative and not wanting me to go I’d see this as a huge issue.

Sequinsoneverythingplease · 06/01/2026 08:49

I’d be absolutely gutted, but not resentful. What a great opportunity for him. One good thing OP is he will get an idea of what the two of you can do when you go there on your trip.

PollyBell · 06/01/2026 08:49

How is it a holiday? But even still are you not able to cope with doing things separately?

Stompingupthemountain · 06/01/2026 08:49

This is a business trip, not a holiday. YABU. 2 weeks is hardly anything, I voluntarily left my partner at home for a 6-week solo travel last year as he didn’t have enough time off work. He also goes away with friends without me. Being in a couple doesn’t mean doing everything together, having individual lives and interests is important

princesspadam · 06/01/2026 08:49

I would be upset if my partner didn’t take that opportunity

china is a big place, you can do it together still

YABU

Evaka · 06/01/2026 08:48

You're being wildly unreasonable

ThirdStorm · 06/01/2026 08:48

Its a business trip not a holiday! Hopefully he'll get the chance to do some sightseeing but I'm sure that won't be guaranteed. Sounds like he'll gain some useful product knowledge so I think you need to support him!

TrustedTheWrongFart · 06/01/2026 08:47

So he’s going on a business trip, not a holiday?