To be upset partner going on holiday without me?

You probably feel a bit like this because it's optional and he's choosing to go. My DH travels a fair bit and sees some fabulous places, always staying in 5 star hotels. He does get to see a little of the areas, but mostly it's work and I have to remember that.
Make some nice plans with friends for while he is away and try to stay positive, looking forward to your upcoming trip together.
It's not unreasonable to feel a bit sad, but it's probably unreasonable to have expected him not to go.
Sorry you are feeling the loss of your Mum, I hope you feel better soon. Remember, these two weeks will come and go, faster than you think.

Have also read your previous posts and this is not a healthy relationship. Use the time to assess whether you’d be better in your own permanently.

You really are unreasonable. It's not a holiday. I'd be pissed off if a boyfriend made an issue of this. You can still go with him another time. For an actual holiday.

He wants to go and it is his dream -- why on earth wouldn't he go?

You say that you will be 'stuck here' but, surely you will be in the home that you normally live in etc etc, it just seems like an odd term of phrase.

You’re being very silly - it’s a work trip!

You shouldn’t stop him. If you were heavily pregnant I would say think about it but otherwise don’t stifle him, live your lives. It’s good for his career too

I’m going to NYC with my work for 6 days this year. I could have declined. But it’s a free trip to NYC! I’d be an idiot to turn it down. I’d think DP was an idiot if he turned down a free trip to somewhere interesting.

And we have a DD under 2! It will be hard to leave her but I do need to do things independently from time to time.

Me and DP have an agreement: one solo trip each pet year, for up to a week. This is only because of childcare, though.

Blows my mind that people actually think like this

I usually slate men who go off on stag dos and holidays with their pals. And those who selfishly leave their partners at home when they are vulnerable to go off and enjoy leisure trips and hobbies.

But in this case OP I totally agree with your DP that he should go on what is essentially a business trip. He would be mad to turn it down. And I feel you are being selfish in objecting.

Totally unreasonable. Both me and partner travel for work. Sure, work trips abroad usually involve a bit of sightseeing, some nice restaurants for client meals and fun but also they are work, you can't relax properly and you are bound by their schedules. He should go, it's just two weeks of a whole life.

YABU, DH has been on several "fancy business trips" to locations such as Hong Kong, mainland China and Sweden. The reality is, they are very boring, meeting suppliers, being polite, mixing with people you would rather not, eating local food and seeing industrial estates and factories.

You are missing nothing other than a Chinese Visa in your passport.

It’s a business trip and you sound like a petulant child.
China is a nightmare for visas. Be glad his work will be sorting that for him.
YABVU

I would be pleased for my partner that he has this opportunity.

It's a business trip. Probably around factories. Hopefully nice meals out and some sightseeing.

Sounds like a great opportunity.

My DP has gone to various countries on business trips and each has been a great experience.

You're being wildly ridiculous unless there's some back story that you've got newborn twins or triplets or something and a toddler and you can't cope without him.
It's a business trip not a holiday. Get over yourself.

Yeah, I was going to say this. He's not going to be doing business things for 2 weeks solid, and while he's at meetings etc you'd be able to explore.

But if this isn't possible, then yes YABU. Why should he turn down an amazing free trip? You can either go with him this time, or still go when you'd planned, together.

Either he will have free time and you can go with him, or he won't have free time so he won't have seen enough of China to spoil your joint trip.

I'm sorry, but holiday =/= traipsing around industrial bits of China looking at kitchen manufacturing facilities.

Do you work @lulu55xxx ?

I missed the bit where he's going on holiday where is that bit?

You say you will be stuck there.

Why will you be stuck ?
Is there some reason you can’t function or get around without him?
Why so reliant on him.

Be pleased that he’s motivated enough to get ahead in his career. That can only be a good thing surely.

Make plans for yourself while he’s away with family and friends or do home improvement or use the time to benefit your own life/career somehow.

Your world shouldn’t stop just because your DP goes on a business trip.
Support him a bit OP.

I said “most of” my friends. Some (usually the one’s who’s partners do their heads in) are more than happy!

YABTAUU (totally and utterly 😀)
Freebie two weeks in China? He'd be mad not to go!

Oh I agree. I still wouldn’t be happy with him
going on a two week trip though unless it was for some essential reason. I wouldn’t stop
him if it was something he really wanted to do but I’d be a bit hurt.

Vv u reasonable and honestly if he was my friend I'd be advising him to think hard about the relationship. Life is hopefully long and you will both need a life outside the couple. Different if you have kids because you need to make sure the other person is supported during the travel but two adults should be able to survive and thrive alone

I would hate it too, DH and I over 48 years together have only been apart when we’ve each been in hospital.