To be upset partner going on holiday without me?

It sounds like you’re sad that he’s happy to be without you for two weeks when the other manager didn’t want to leave his wife.
that is understandable.Try to reassure yourself that you’re loved. And hopefully he can reassure you too.

You've got a very need bunch of friends if they can't even go a weekend without their DHs.

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I lost my mum while engaged to my now DH and experienced a period of deep anxiety around his safety afterwards. He cycled to work in London and we actually added tracking to each other’s phone in this period because if he forgot to text me when he got to work I’d have a panic attack. So I 100% completely understand where you’re coming from and I do recommend seeking therapy for your grief. I would also have found him taking a two week trip abroad very challenging at that time, but objectively if you don’t have children then what he’s doing is not unreasonable.

I would talk to him about what your worries really are and see what steps you can take as a couple to make it easier. Do you track his location so you feel connected? Do you sit and work out what times will be suitable to talk based on work schedule and time zones? Does he send you a picture every day?

Also, I hope you have friends around you who can support you too. Could you plan things to do with them while he’s away so you aren’t feeling lonely?

I can’t promise you grief will go away, but it changing and you learn to manage it better. It’s been 9 years now for me and DH still cycles to the office and now travels often for work. Worrying about him doesn’t consume me anymore. I really wish you the best.

Oh, so you're lying about you and all your friends? Or are you the only person on Mumsnet telling the truth?

DH went on business trips to Jamaica, Barbados, Thailand, Dubai, Austria and Malta and others. I was working and could not take time off. He was working but abroad. In a healthy relationship people are allowed to grow. Don’t deny him this opportunity..

It's a work trip, probably to the arse end of nowhere in the industrial depths of a gigantic country. Yabvu - would you feel the same if he was going to <insert random shitty industrial part of the UK>?

My DP changed his return flights once on a work trip and I flew out to join him once he'd finished the working part - could you do this?

I read your other threads.

Your fiance is not nice to you.

You've posted a number of threads over the last month which reveal his unkindness and, on occasion, his hostility towards you.

You mentioned that you lost your Mum which I see happened when you were still a child. I suspect that this trip has brought back some worries about abandonment/loneliness.

I think it would be a good idea to have some counselling now if you didnt have the opportunity when you were younger. It really is never too late (I speak from experience). It may cast a light on things now.

The trip is neither here nor there. You will be okay.

From your update OP it sounds as if you're grieving for your Mum, and it's made you anxious about being on your own, as well as losing your partner. Have you had any grief counselling? You might find it beneficial to talk through your emotions. You can't be with your partner all the time, and you know that. It's not healthy to be together all the time either. Your partner has been given a fantastic opportunity, and he'd be crazy to turn it down. He's going on a business trip, that may give him some down time, so he can sightsee. It isn't a holiday.

My DD works in the soft furnishings industry and regularly goes to China for 2 to 5 weeks at a time. She says its exhausting as they work 12 hour days whilst there, 6 days a week, visiting factories and overseeing various processes and machinery. Its no holiday.

Why is it an issue if it's a reward rather than a formal work trip?

Not being able to spend 2 weeks away from your partner is not healthy. We're not talking about caring requirements, or anything affecting OP's work or personal time. It's purely 2 adults spending 14 days apart, it should not be such a big deal.

I don't understand this comment - it seems quite sour and as if you are unable to make the most of opportunities when they arise

In the real world, people travel for work alone all the time -and go on holiday alone all the time too,

but their partners are confident and independent enough.

I wouldn't be happy with this nor would anyone I know be happy with this.
Maybe you need to broaden your horizons a bit? 😂

If you genuinely think the real world does not exist, it's a bit of a worry.

If you don't have children then I don't see the problem really.

It seems extreme to me to be that codependent on your partner TBH.

It is a good thing for a couple to take trips separately as well as together.

As this is for work rather than a holiday, he can take the opportunity to do a bit of research whilst there for your own trip together, which will be a holiday.

Sounds like a great opportunity for him. You could always take it as an opportunity for a week long girls trip or solo adventure at the same time. Maybe somewhere you've always wanted to go to but he's not as keen. I did a solo trip to Venice once when my OH was away and I think I had an even better time than he did!

Sounds like an amazing opportunity! My partner has the chance to go to Texas for three weeks with his work last year and initially said no (we had a 9 month old). I insisted he went - he might never get another chance.
He also has weeks/fortnight's in Germany and Spain and although working does get to go out and do nice things. It's part of his job and one of the perks.
Each year he has a week long proper holiday, skiing with his university friends. Again, I insisted he continued to do this even after we had a child. It's important he maintains those friendships (lives in a different country to them now) and how selfish would I be to stop him? It's healthy to have time apart.

What a wonderful experience for your husband. How could he possibly turn it down? I wouldn't! And how lovely that he trusts and respects you enough to be confident you'll be fine on your own for two weeks.

Mumsnet is a fictional place where everyone portrays a version of themselves that in reality does not exist.

Truer a word was never spoken.

Even if it was a holiday, I would say you were BU. 2 weeks to a place that he's always wanted to visit ! I'm actually surprised that so many managers turned it down because they don't want to leave their wives for 2 whole weeks - sounds a little far-fetched to me.

Of course it exists. Work trips for many are completely normal, exists, don’t cause partners to even have an opinion on them and yes can be 2 weeks. I’ve plenty of friends who travel a lot for work, often 2 weeks if it’s factory visits. My husband did a week to 2 weeks every 6 weeks or so and it’s just life

Then you have weird friends. I don’t know anyone who is bothered by either a work trip or a lads weekend

True. My trips are often 10 days minimum due to the distance.

All of this. seems like the holiday has brought other issues to the forefront. Don't ignore your own feelings.

And so what if it’s a reward?
And in reality lots of people don’t have an issue with this sort of trip. Your reality is not representative of everyone.