DUMB SHIT People say

I’ve got a huge gap between my front teeth (not fixable) and I hate it. I hear comments about other people’s teeth and it makes me wince as I wonder what people are saying about mine! That said at 46 they aren’t changing any time soon so 🤷🏽‍♀️

I have one objectively stunning child and one still good looking but not as stunning child. The amount of times people comment on it in front of them BOTH is incredible. ‘Oh wow child a, you’re stunning aren’t you? You wouldn’t think she was your sister would you child b?’ Or ‘isn’t child an amazing looking Pisco?’ When child b is standing next to me. It’s affected them both very badly in different ways. People have no tact at all.

When I was a teenager I wore natural looking make up most days. One day I went make up free and went to the local shop, the kind older woman at the till gasped and asked me if I was ok, she thought I looked really unwell 😂 this was genuine concern though I really don’t think she’d noticed it was make-up vs no make-up.

you have my sympathy with adult cystic acne, I had it for years. I tried everything (but roacutane), just seemed to get worse. The thing that fixed it for me was stopping almost every treatment. I only wash my face every other day in the shower, gentle exfoliate with a flannel, hyloronic acid, basic moisturiser, otherwise I just don’t touch it. Sorry for more unsolicited advice, I often want to give unsolicited advice to strangers but of course bite my tongue because it’s incredibly rude, only doing so here because it’s all anon and hopefully not embarrassing like it would be in public. I had been reading about products damaging the skin barrier and skin microbiome, but some exfoliating helps remove dead skin cells. Been clear for about 6 years and recently tried to drop the hyloronic acid and the cysts were back after few weeks 🙄

Yeah, the older I get, the more I realise it's just better not to say anything about people's appearance. The person who's lost weight might have cancer, for example. If you want to say something nice and give someone a boost, it's best to compliment their clothes or accessories or say how such-and-such a colour looks good on them.

People do look better with makeup, that’s the point of it but yes rude to say. So many of these have no bad intentions but are clumsy compliments. It’s just better to not say anything!
I told someone they look amazing last year, she is the type who posts her photo lots and likes getting likes. I was told later she has an ED and I felt bad I’d conplimented her when she was in the thick of it. I just avoid it now

Oh that made me laugh out loud.

You wonder sometimes if people hear themselves.

A bloke once told me that he ‘understands statistics’ and there are only 3 million single fathers in America versus 12 million single mums which means single mums are the problem as they are basically all sleeping with the same men.

They probably mean't they thought they would be dead before then!

Not as serious as many posts but it did somewhat upset me. A friend said I wasn't smiling on a photo she took "because of your teeth". I have got crooked teeth but I tend not to give a fuck. It really made me wonder if my teeth are more ugly than I realise. Yeah they probably are but at least I'm not a thoughtless, shallow cow who would say something like that.

After being diagnosed with breast cancer, my SIL told me to be careful because people die from that. Thanks SIL,that hadn't occurred to me at all!

Agree - ginger hair is absolutely beautiful. I wish I had flame-coloured hair! I'd grow it down to my bum if I did.

No way! Omg!!!

You obviously don't suffer from uncontrollable worry but some people do. You, of course, could choose to understand that not everybody is the same as you, but for some reason, you chose not to.

Ha ha! My neighbour's grandson asked if my other cat was 'a spare one'. But he was only four.

He's ugly in both, isn't he!? Some people get attractive when they lose weight. He ain't one of them!

I don't know about that bull I do know is if shes being called out for her weight and she knows how it makes her feel. Why do it to someone else.

This is just so RUDE ! I can’t believe this happened to you.
As someone who has had severe acne - have you been to a Dermatologist for Roaccutane treatment ? Really changed my life.

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The irony of Chris Moyles saying Nicola Roberts is ugly! 😂 Look at him! (And look at her!)

Why do such unnattractive and repugnant men always make such derogatory remarks about clearly attractive women? You never get very good looking men saying such things... I saw something like this yesteday on Facebook. A female comedian in her 30s, had been trolled by a fat ugly man in his 50s. He'd posted pics saying 'Look at the sate of you!' He looked like Jabba The Hutt. 😆

My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly 2 years ago I was 41, my dad told me to have a great day less than a week later and I was told by numerous people in the first few months that I'm young I will meet someone else
fuck off

I've struggled with alopecia on and off over the years, and it often leaves me with large, circular bald spots on my otherwise thick head of curly hair. For the first few years I would be devastated everytime a new spot would appear, and I would be so embarrassed i would wear my hair up when in public so it was not so noticeable. In time, I made my peace with it, and would actually forget about the various landing pads atop my crown. Sitting with a friend outside a pub one spring time, an older gentleman in head- to- toe tweed, and on the spicy end of one too many lunchtime sherries, saunters over and loudly proclaims to the garden "dear GOD, I've never seen a woman with male pattern baldness!! Are you diseased? It looks like a bloody crop circle!"

Luckily I had developed a thick skin by then and was able to find amusement in the shamelessness of it all- my friend and I will often still ask each other "are you diseased?" instead of " how are you?" -but it made me distinctly aware of how thoughtless and tactless people can be. Whilst the older gentleman was rather amusing, the group of women nudging each other and whispering as I stood in line for coffee, or the well meaning holistic therapist who approached me in the street to ask if I had considered rubbing unpasterised butter on my bald spots, can unexpectedly sting.

You have my sympathy, OP. If you feel inclined, I find a simple "what a strange thing to say out loud" often shuts down unnecessary comments, but perhaps it is worth branching out to less familiar environments for a while, so that you can eat in peace.. I often found that annonyminity gives me a sense of peace when feeling vulnerable.
Sending support and good thoughts to you ❤️

How horrible of her. She probably feels bad about her weight and is being mean to build herself up.

How rude and ignorant of that tutor. In the Renaissance, red hair was considered the height of beauty. Also, when I think of really stunning celebrities, (at least the women) a LOT have red hair. Think Rita Hayworth, Emma Stone, Jessica Chastain, Karen Gillan. Plus Nicola Roberts from GA, who has really grown into her beauty. I still remember asshole Chris Moyles making rude remarks about her and calling her the 'ugly one'. I think she is now the most beautiful and youngest looking of them!

Idiotic in the extreme

Obviously not a good relationship. Needs work!