DUMB SHIT People say

The restaurant owner's wife was thoughtless at (a poor) best. There's no need to comment on your appearance at all.

Making health suggestions to you was absurd given a) It's NOT her business and b) She has no real idea about what has caused your acne and no idea about what treatment you've already sought.

Can't you say to them that you'll go on antidepressants?

Customer at work: Oooh, congratulations! (Whilst rubbing my belly
Me: Thanks, but I’m not pregnant
Customer: Of course you are, look at the size of you!
I was not pregnant.

Sisters. Honestly, what are they like. 😂

This ⬆️ 🤣🤣🤣

I love Bernese Mountain Dogs

'Oh you're properly glowing and look how lovely and thick your hair is! Even the hair on your arms is so thick now!' my very lovely sister who totally lacks a filter upon seeing my pregnant self over xmas 😂

In the staffroom at work, a mature start in her 50s heard me discussing my diet with another member of the department. (I was 40 at the time.)

"So...that's 4 stones now and I'm happy with that."

New start: "You lost FOUR stone?"

"Yes..."

"Wow. You must have a lot of slack skin!"

[I didn't.]

In reference to me opening up to someone about how horribly unattractive I looked I was told with no hint of irony 'never mind, you have a great personality'.

Job done. I felt so much better. 🙄

Sartre was right, hell is other people.

@OneDearFawn Roaccutane doesn’t always cause depression. Most people aren’t affected in that way by it and it is revolutionary. You could try it and monitor mood?

What on earth? Since when is "Dumb shit" American? You realise not everything you haven't heard of before is American, by default, right?

That is gross!

I think a lot of the time, people either want to help (so list all the things that helped them, or their cousin, or neighbour, which is frustrating if you've already tried it all), or in the case of the doctor/specialist who assessed you, she might have been thinking in problem solving mode and just offering all the treatments they can give to make you feel better about yourself (not helpful when you didn't ask!)

Sounds like they both put their bloody foot in it though. How rude, and awkward for them! Because the embarrassment should be entirely theirs, not yours.

I have a mother who occasionally says things like, 'gosh, your face is looking haggard, you're too thin!' followed up by, 'but you've got chunky upper arms, don't you' 🫣 I'm a perfectly proportional size 10/12 with a thin face, but she has a way of inadvertently making me feel like a Frankenstein's monster. And the weird thing is, she'd sing my praises to anyone else! But to me? It's so often a backhanded compliment or an insult. Sometimes people just don't know what they're saying.

During a safety briefing at work I was
told by the male speaker that I would “never be raped” because I was “too confident”. He was from the Suzy Lamplugh trust, so I would have thought he would have known that it doesn’t work like that.

You really should come here more often to do your eyebrows - plucking them isn’t good

you have a gap in your eyebrows

take more vitamins, do more exercise, clean your face with X to improve your acne

try and exercise more and eat cleaner to lose weight and get healthy

your heels are really rough - you really should do more pedicures

your cuticles are so hard - just dab some cuticle oil on every day - no big deal

really - it’s so easy just to cook a home made meal every day - your body will thank you for it

you should read more and watch less tv - good for your brain

no shit Sherlock and
f@ck off - I’m a busy professional and a mum of 2. I have no time (and even when I do, I’d rather just do other things ok)

I've told this one before.

When I was still using my foreign maiden name at work, I was approached by a middle-aged SEN teacher who originally came from the south of England. (This is relevant, I guess.)

He needed to liaise with me because I was responsible for junior English at the school. (English was one of my minors at uni.)

I was teaching in a school 6 miles from the town where I was brought up and maybe 12 miles from my birthplace in East Central Scotland. At work, I spoke Standard English but with a local accent.

Southern English SEN teacher: "So when did you first come to this country?"

I gave him my date and time of birth, about 35 years previously at that point.

"You even remember the time? It must have made quite an impression on you!"

"No, but it made a helluva impression on my mum!"

How so? She's not referring to people with a speech impediment.

That's not 'dumb'. It's good that women are looking out for our sex and querying if a male is in there. I've read of several women being queried, and they don't whinge about it, they're thankful other women ask to safeguard our spaces. Butch lesbians in FWR have said they're asked and it doesn't bother them at all. It seems to me that it's a you problem if you get that offended.

Going to the doctor with a persistent medical issue over 30 years that needs antibiotics and being told basic preventative information. Thanks.

Yes, I agree there are better and worse ways to say things. You could also consider that in the way that you decided to educate the OP.