To get ds to do after school clubs when I’m at home?

Don't feel guilty. Back in the day when most mum's stayed at home we made our own way to Brownies and sports clubs after school and Saturday mornings. We also played together around town. Half the time our parents couldn't tell you where we were.
We came home at designated tea time.
There was even a big group of us that were sent to Sunday school even though none of our homes were religious.
Your son will enjoy himself and with so many parents at work it's harder for children to play together after school at their own homes.

My DS used to love after school club. He went 4/5 days a week. It was just me & DS & he was such a social, sporty, active kid. In summer he’d play football & sports & in winter they’d game play sports/games inside. He loved going - particularly as we had such a small family.

Quite the opposite.

The poster is saying "that is just my choice" or "that is my opinion" . I infer from that implication that the poster is pointing out that not only are our dc all different, but we, as parents are all different, as well as external circumstances (like how far you are from school).

I think it sounds a bit daft taking issue with a poster writing that, in truth.

I would a couple of times a week. If it's something that interests him

I don’t see why not. DD used to love after school club at that age (more than coming home sometimes!) all this “it’s such a long day for young children” is nonsense.

I thought you were speaking of the ‘after school club’, so wraparound care used by working parents. Sorry, if this wasn’t the case.

Absolutely use the other clubs the school is offering, they are provided to enhance your DC’s development and overall school experience.

Go for it, its only an extra hour and he will benefit from playing with other kids. At our school clubs are not limited for working parents - they are there for pupils benefit

I'm not sure how to keep saying you've misunderstood me. "That's just me" is literally that, like, "but don't take my opinion as advice". I think your worry that you're being judged on this thread is clouding your interpretation.

Just to say that my son has always been insanely high energy. It benefits no one - particularly him - to give him down time. He just doesn’t enjoy it and gets very jumpy. My daughter was different at the same age and needed some quieter times.

My son does football 3 times a week, taekwando twice a week, swimming lessons, after school club 3x a week, and has play dates or plays out with neighbours any other time he can find. He is very, very bouncy so if your child is the same he will thrive on a busy schedule.

If it is in his interests and benefits you, then yes

Okay? I'm not sure why you've chosen me to have a go at. I was genuinely trying to share my view in an open minded way (which I thought was the point of this thread). See ya!

Why not try it, see if he loves it or if he gets knackered? Nothing to lose by trying.

It wasn't meant to come across as superior sounding, I'm saying every parent feels differently and makes different choices.

I think it's in a 4-5 year old's nature to be a bit bored and restless at home at the end of the day! I wouldn't think to solve it with keeping my child in school. But that's just me

In primary 1 (our version of reception) dd did all the clubs - cheer, gymnastics, multi sports, swimming They weren’t childcare in that I had to take and collect her but i was only in brief contact with her as I moved her from one location to the next. Would have been ideal if they’d just collected her from the class. We’d usually stop off at the park on the way home too. You aren’t really in a position to do all that and your school offers a better alternative where you don’t have to come out only to sit in a waiting area for an hour anyway so seems a no brainer to me. I don’t remember any tiredness issues. She’s more tired now af 16 😆

I personally wouldn't, but then I strongly believe children in the UK start school far too young as is. I was a primary teaxher for 21 years and didn't put my August-born in until he legally had to be in - did him the world of good 😀

It's fine to do that OP

Can't he just chill at home? Or have the odd play date plus maybe one day in ASC and see how it goes?

I think it depends on what the club is like - if it's a good one where kids can choose what to do/ run about play etc then that is one thing but I have seen so many where the kids (especially at 5 years old) are just exhausted and want to go home

Remember the day is very tiring for them at that age - a lot of instruction/ following what teachers are saying, behaving, holding in emotions.

Maybe do a couple of the activity type ones that end at 4.30. They’re fun and educational. It’s a long day but better than sitting in a tablet from 3.30pm and it’s not the same as sitting at a table learning. I totally have felt weird this year about what we do after school - basically nothing since the weather turned cooler so I get what you mean. I try to play board games etc but it’s not easy on top of cooking / cleaning / childcare. Your mental health is important too.

Edit: Deleted text as wasn’t meant to be a reply to you! Sorry.