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To ask why people are so utterly bonkers?

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veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

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Namechangingagain999 · 05/01/2026 18:58

strugglingwithlife · 05/01/2026 17:54

🙄

are you rolling your eyes at them or me :-)

TheMerryJoker · 05/01/2026 18:48

Thirdtimeunlucky2025 · 05/01/2026 18:39

My dad has potatoes with lasagne. He has potatoes with everything 😂

hes a good person for it

Thirdtimeunlucky2025 · 05/01/2026 18:39

My dad has potatoes with lasagne. He has potatoes with everything 😂

StrawberrySquash · 05/01/2026 18:21

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 05/01/2026 18:20

But it isn’t Béchamel sauce if you put cheese in, putting cheese in it makes it cheese sauce Grin Though to be honest, I can’t think why you would use Béchamel sauce on its own, except as a base for another flavouring, as otherwise it’s extremely bland, to my mind.

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Yes, you add cheese to the béchemal to make cheese sause.

FuckOffWithYourFlannelNonsense · 05/01/2026 18:21

LemaxObsessive · 05/01/2026 17:51

Yes I have and I didn’t get that impression at all. She’s just asking for recipe ideas. If you think someone is a troll then report to MNHQ don’t troll hunt and ruin threads for everyone else

You must have read a different thread. The OP has no idea how you would warm up potatoes (even though she has cooked them hours in advance of the meal), doesn't understand what "leafy greens" are and thinks that pasta and potato is weird when she was actually planning to make a pasta and potato dish herself. It's definitely a goady thread, but it is very funny at the same time.

@Bigearringsbigsmile You've beaten me to it with the flannel derailment comment. Good work!

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · 05/01/2026 18:20

StrawberrySquash · 05/01/2026 17:32

Save us from the people who don't put cheese in the sauce! Cheese, strong and lots of it, please.

But it isn’t Béchamel sauce if you put cheese in, putting cheese in it makes it cheese sauce Grin Though to be honest, I can’t think why you would use Béchamel sauce on its own, except as a base for another flavouring, as otherwise it’s extremely bland, to my mind.

outerspacepotato · 05/01/2026 18:20

🥔 Bolognese, not today.

Tadpolesinponds · 05/01/2026 18:20

It isn't all about being "bonkers" though. A lot of people make up things to scam money. And I'm surprised no-one is mentioning the fact that a lot of people are currently demanding that everyone else accepts them as being the opposite of their actual sex, or as being neither male nor female, and our governments in England, Scotland and Wales are strongly supportive of those people and their claims.

Isthisreasonable · 05/01/2026 18:17

A friend of mine, on a long waiting list for hospital treatment, has been told (by Reform?) that a third of all NHS appointments are reserved for illegal immigrants. She is very depressed as a result but will not accept that this is complete BS.

Charlize43 · 05/01/2026 18:17

HornyHornersPinkyWinky · 05/01/2026 17:21

In the spirit of the thread, you should watch The Woman Who Wasn’t There - a documentary about a woman who faked being a victim of the 9/11 attacks.

The lengths she went to were incredible; she invented a whole fake fianceè who was supposedly killed, and even started a blog and a support group for other survivors. She even went to the memorial service of another victim.

She wasn’t even in the USA when it actually happened…

Some people seem to need attention and validation so much that they do batshit crazy things to get it.

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That reminded me of the Ellie Williams, that woman who beat herself up and then lied about being trafficked and raped by an Asian grooming gang. Very interesting BBC documentary on her:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001vfd7

I mean. why, WTF?

BBC Three - Liar: The Fake Grooming Scandal

Ellie Williams claimed she’d been trafficked and raped. Now, the truth is laid open.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001vfd7

WearyAuldWumman · 05/01/2026 18:14

WearyAuldWumman · 05/01/2026 17:58

The "Walt" phenomenon isn't knew - it's just that we're more aware because of the internet.

I had one at my work some years ago - a young teacher who claimed to have been a lieutenant in a certain cavalry regiment.

Unfortunately for him, my husband had been an actual tank gunner in that precise regiment...

Aaaaargh!

*new

Too late to edit.

begonia27 · 05/01/2026 18:13

I don’t think it’s new. I’ve been a Samaritans listening volunteer in the past and plenty of people are clearly just making up stuff when they call. It’s like they need the sympathy or attention so it seems reasonable to them to create a pretext for the call?

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 05/01/2026 18:12

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

😂

Itiswhysofew · 05/01/2026 18:12

I'd say the Internet has just highlighted the bonkers people!Grin

Frugalgal · 05/01/2026 18:10

Namechangingagain999 · 05/01/2026 17:36

For a period of time i was friends and holiday companion with a group of conspiracy theorists. They were rabidly anti vax and believed that anyone who had Covid vac had been injected with a micro chip in their arm so the government could track them. Apparently if you you were vaccinated and put a mobile phone against your arm it could be held there in a magnetic field. Then they met other people from different countries who believed the same thing! They were also mad trump supporters and horrendously homophobic. I cut all contact.

If you believe in one batshit conspiracy theory it's understandable of de rigeur to believe them all.

When I was growing up there was a bonkers old lady in the town who wrote mad letters in green ink and sellotaped them to her front door, in an attempt to communicate them to the rest of the world. If she were alive today she'd have ths internet to connect her to like-minded souls and spread her batty conspiracies.

There will always be a proportion of the population who are hardwired to believe Covid was a hoax or the work of all the world leaders acting in cahoots to introduce a new world order or an evil spell cast by the devil or some such.

Mostly, it's people who lack the mental wherewithal to process the random and brutal nature of life and who take comfort in denialism or attributing random catastrophes to the agency of bad actors.

There will always have been fantasists parading about in medals they didn't earn.

The Macron/Michelle Obama are really men stuff is a way to punish/take down women who have taken an uppity stance in life -Macron for having a much younger husband and Obama for being a black woman First Lady.

I think the world seems more bonkers because all the bonkers people are in contact with each other and their voices are louder than they would have been when isolated in the past.

Biscuitsneeded · 05/01/2026 18:04

Was on a train the other day. Not many people on it. A woman got on with a big suitcase, found an empty table for 4 and put her suitcase on one of the seats. Not really the done thing, but as I said, the train was pretty empty. She then opened the suitcase and got out a tupperware box containing some smelly fish and various bits of fruit. She cut up the fish and the fruit on the table (juice everywhere) and then put the small pieces of fish and fruit into smaller tupperware pots. Then she got her laptop out, looked vaguely normal for a while as if doing some work EXCEPT she was nibbling on bits of fruit/fish from her various pots. Then she got out a big plastic wallet full of loads of crumpled bits of paper, and a flask which I assume contained tea or coffee, AND a plastic bottle of milk AND a nice mug, and proceeded to prepare her beverage. I can kind of understand not wanting to buy a cup of tea in a disposable cup, but why not add the milk to the flask beforehand and drink out of the flask lid like you're meant to? She was clearly enjoying her picnic - of which I would say she was definitely a few sandwiches short.
I've had quite a few weird train encounters in my life. There are so many bonkers but (hopefully) harmless people out there.

EchoesOfOurDreams · 05/01/2026 18:02

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 17:49

Have you read all the OPs replies? Totally trying to get a rise out of people 😂

Yes the replies made it obvious it was a wind up. Especially saying that it was "weird" to have the boiled potatoes with a pasta bake but not a lasagne when it amounts to exactly the same thing. If it is not a wind up then the OP must be some special kind of stupid.

FerriswheelsKissesandLilacs · 05/01/2026 18:01

There's a vocal (but thankfully small) lobby on the internet trying to tell us that Taylor Swift, who even most of her strongest critics can agree is a very beautiful woman, is actually a man. People are just mad.

WearyAuldWumman · 05/01/2026 17:58

The "Walt" phenomenon isn't knew - it's just that we're more aware because of the internet.

I had one at my work some years ago - a young teacher who claimed to have been a lieutenant in a certain cavalry regiment.

Unfortunately for him, my husband had been an actual tank gunner in that precise regiment...

Pedallleur · 05/01/2026 17:58

Octavia64 · 05/01/2026 16:55

Nah people have always been bonkers.

This. But the internet gave them a world wide platform instead of just being the village oddball.

zanahoria · 05/01/2026 17:58

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

and now it is taking over other threads

the whole of the internet will be talking about lasagne and potatoes soon

civil war by the end of the week

strugglingwithlife · 05/01/2026 17:54

Namechangingagain999 · 05/01/2026 17:36

For a period of time i was friends and holiday companion with a group of conspiracy theorists. They were rabidly anti vax and believed that anyone who had Covid vac had been injected with a micro chip in their arm so the government could track them. Apparently if you you were vaccinated and put a mobile phone against your arm it could be held there in a magnetic field. Then they met other people from different countries who believed the same thing! They were also mad trump supporters and horrendously homophobic. I cut all contact.

🙄

LemaxObsessive · 05/01/2026 17:51

Yes I have and I didn’t get that impression at all. She’s just asking for recipe ideas. If you think someone is a troll then report to MNHQ don’t troll hunt and ruin threads for everyone else

GarlicSound · 05/01/2026 17:50

Octavia64 · 05/01/2026 16:55

Nah people have always been bonkers.

YANBU, OP, and also this! Humanity's bonkersness is what makes it so interesting!

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 17:49

LemaxObsessive · 05/01/2026 17:48

Just because you’ve never eaten lasagne with boiled potatoes yourself and have never known anyone else to, doesn’t make the OP a troll ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️ Lots of people have weird family food traditions! In my family we always have apple sauce on our roast and none of us eat pork! Apple sauce in the Yorkshire puddings with mash, veg & onion gravy. Weird but it’s how we’ve always done since we were kids and we loved homemade apple sauce 🤷🏼‍♀️ I suppose that makes me a troll now….!

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Have you read all the OPs replies? Totally trying to get a rise out of people 😂

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