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To ask why people are so utterly bonkers?

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veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

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DBSFstupid · 06/01/2026 20:54

EnglishGirlApproximately · 06/01/2026 20:23

I was on a train a few months ago and the woman next to me got an entire Battenburg loaf cake out and just ate it like an apple 🤣 I have to admit I was on envy of that much ability to not give a fuck.

This is hilarious!! We used to get a tiny smidgen when I was growing up😂

FlyingApple · 06/01/2026 20:54

I think many lack empathy more than society is willing to admit at this time.

keffie12 · 06/01/2026 20:53

I think the meme sums it up

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To ask why people are so utterly bonkers?
Lilylolamillie · 06/01/2026 20:42

I had a colleague who had stage 4 cancer and sadly died a few years ago, When she was diagnosed at stage 4 another colleague asked (thankfully not to her but a group of us) why the doctors didn’t just give her a blood transfusion and replace all her blood so it was healthy. She said she’d read online it would cure cancer. She wouldn’t have it that her cancer was in her organs having spread from the primary site via her lymphatic system and so of course this wouldn’t work. And that if this online cure she’d found was real didn’t appear to understand how people would be lining up to give blood so everyone with cancer could be cured. I’m so glad she didn’t spout the bullshit to my unwell colleague.

The same colleague also insisted that a very famous Hollywood actor was contacting her on instagram expressing his love. I can’t remember the name he used but it was a play on words of the famous actor. When we said it wasn’t him that was madly in love with her (& that she’d turned down as she was happily married) she was really offended. She insisted he was real and we were jealous that he’d fallen for her after seeing her photo. Hopefully she didn’t part with any money.

Just to add this person had a good degree, was very intelligent in other ways and well read which made these stories all the more strange.

covilha · 06/01/2026 20:39

I used to live in a rural place- just about everyone was bonkers one way or another, myself included. Very little reported violence though, no break ins and the police said they generally visited the village for crime about twice in 5 years.
I moved to a built up area, people much more apparently sane but violence and crime and daily arrests.
I think in close quarters peoples bonker tendencies become emphasised whereas in wider spaces their eccentricity can be socially tolerated and given space to decompress and diffuse so it doesn’t become pathological
sorry, I am not expressing this well, just people were not less mad in the country but somehow it was more tolerated and the truly barmy were afforded the accolade of local character

Zov · 06/01/2026 20:37

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

Totally agree. The fake naval officer story made me like Shock

Like just why.............?

Must have a very empty life. I can't imagine making up such shite.

He got into trouble for it too didn't he? But the humiliation, and everyone knowing what a liar and a fraud he is, is far worse than his fine and suspended sentence.

And the young woman pretending to be Maddie McCann. Just why?

Again, must have an empty life.....

NormasArse · 06/01/2026 20:33

Isthisreasonable · 06/01/2026 19:44

The friend mentioned earlier in the thread was saying today (she's childless and semi-retired btw) that the reason for the rise in ADHD, dyslexia etc is because parents get more child benefit if their child has a diagnosis of this type...

I have ADHD. The only thing I’ve ever had because of it is stress!

EnglishGirlApproximately · 06/01/2026 20:23

Beachtastic · 06/01/2026 10:10

All she's missing is a Trangia stove, so she can rustle up a stir-fry next time!

I was on a train a few months ago and the woman next to me got an entire Battenburg loaf cake out and just ate it like an apple 🤣 I have to admit I was on envy of that much ability to not give a fuck.

NotAnotherScarf · 06/01/2026 20:23

Frugalfashionista87 · 06/01/2026 19:06

Some of them are true though. Maybe listen to your intelligent friends more 😆

Ok what ones are true...and don't tell me orange smarties don't taste of orange and it's because of the colour I taste it...I blindfolded myself

Crikeyalmighty · 06/01/2026 20:18

You only have to watch the documentary of the Shannon Matthew’s case ( poor girl) to realise the sheer extent some people will go to for attention or imagined rewards/go funds etc . The fact it was her mother was just so truly awful .

Sharpzebra · 06/01/2026 20:13

Mumsnet is full of it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

LadeOde · 06/01/2026 19:48

I'm completely stumped at why the people who have claimed to know Madeline McCaan's whereabouts have done so? or the utterly crazed woman claiming to be her has said so, knowing fully well, she knows ziltch about the girl. What's more disturbing is these people hold down normal jobs and live and walk amongst us like normal people. There's nothing normal about them.

ShiftingSand · 06/01/2026 19:47

CandlelitKitchen · 05/01/2026 17:37

If you think of how most people drive (like lunatics), spend money (they don't have on shit they don't need), vote (!?!?), put up flags on lamp posts, get into relationships with the most dreadful people, eat, smoke, drink and vape things that will almost certainly damage if not kill them, regularly take their dogs through fields full of cattle, have a picnic inches from the cliff at Beachey Head and get in the sea when the RNLI have told them not to........well most people are ruddy bananas aren't they?

Also people who climb mountains in flip flops because it’s all sunny and warm at the bottom and then it changes when they get near the summit. The same ones that walk close to the sea shore in stormy weather and then get swept out to sea etc etc

Isthisreasonable · 06/01/2026 19:44

The friend mentioned earlier in the thread was saying today (she's childless and semi-retired btw) that the reason for the rise in ADHD, dyslexia etc is because parents get more child benefit if their child has a diagnosis of this type...

Carla786 · 06/01/2026 19:40

ElephantGrey101 · 05/01/2026 17:35

I think this is not a new thing we are just more aware of it due to the internet. I read a good book by Zadie Smith ( the Fraud) which was based on a true story about this guy who pretended to be a dead Lord to inherit his estate in Victorian times there was a big legal case about it.

People also claimed to be the princes in the tower and Princess Anastasia. We know that girl wasn’t Madeline MacCan because she had a DNA test. In the past people wouldn’t have had a DNA test.

As to why people do it. I have no idea. The psychology behind it is fascinating.

I loved The Fraud.

Anastasia had so many impersonators but tbf at least some were mentally unwell.

Carla786 · 06/01/2026 19:39

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

Tbf fake officers were a thing before the Internet.

SereneGoose · 06/01/2026 19:35

We interviewed a guy who told us he was SAS and I was like yeah right...gave him the job anyway as he was best candidate .turned out he absolutely was SAS...on the WDW show in first couple of series...I was mortified.

lifeonmars100 · 06/01/2026 19:35

MyPetLampshade · 05/01/2026 16:56

I don't think that thread's made up.
But in answer to the OP, folk have always been mad. Nowt as queer as folk. The internet just gives new outlets for it!

people have always been bonkers but pre-internet it was much more time consuming to do things like poison pen letters and the reach was very small. If you wanted to compose a missive made from letters of the alaphabet cut out from a newspaper you would have to go to a lot of of time and trouble and it must have take ages. These days you just go online, say stuff and potentially reach millions.

pinkdelight · 06/01/2026 19:26

BunnyLake · 06/01/2026 19:22

Oh is that one fake? Strange thing to do. But I find it odd how people start threads on the most inane things sometimes, like every minor situation has to be turned into a thread.

I don't think it was fake, I think @BarryKentPoet was being witty about the realms of madness spanning from the macro(n) level in the OP to the micro level of the spuds thread.

DBSFstupid · 06/01/2026 19:26

pinkdelight · 06/01/2026 19:24

Nah, it's not new at all. Think of that ye olde woman who pretended she'd given birth to rabbits and a bunch of scientists believed her. Or the folk who put a cockerel on trial for witchcraft. Humans have been and always will be crackers.

😂😂😂You got me on the Cockerel story!💜

Favouritefruits · 06/01/2026 19:24

My fil claims to have cancer and had an only a few years to live, 15years later he’s still here fit and healthy. Nobody has said they don’t believe him and even I’ve gone along with it because I don’t want to be the twat who says someone has lied about having cancer! I can easily see how people are believed!

pinkdelight · 06/01/2026 19:24

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 17:04

I do like that the Marcon people were formally prosecuted but will it stop people? It’s like a new illness. Yes, you had people who exaggerated etc but now it’s full blown wacko stuff

Nah, it's not new at all. Think of that ye olde woman who pretended she'd given birth to rabbits and a bunch of scientists believed her. Or the folk who put a cockerel on trial for witchcraft. Humans have been and always will be crackers.

BunnyLake · 06/01/2026 19:22

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

Oh is that one fake? Strange thing to do. But I find it odd how people start threads on the most inane things sometimes, like every minor situation has to be turned into a thread.

Frugalfashionista87 · 06/01/2026 19:06

NotAnotherScarf · 05/01/2026 17:01

I don't know, but I have been talking to people I know and think are intelligent level headed people and suddenly they come out with the maddest conspiracy theories:

There's a cabal of rich people who run the world or it's the masons
Planes are the main cause of global warming.
The poor lady who fell in a river a couple of years was murdered by the people who own the nearby campsite because they didn't like dogs.
Etc

I just don't understand why you would believe things like that with no proof or reason. Some are funny, some are ridiculous and some like the story that Muslim people were being murdered if they went to hospital with COVID cost lives.

The guy who dressed up as an admiral...why just why? If you want to belong then join the round table or a lions club or the masons and do good things

Some of them are true though. Maybe listen to your intelligent friends more 😆

Surgz · 06/01/2026 19:05

Isn't that a shepherds pie you cant be arsed to mash. Discuss...I'm off too🤣