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To ask why people are so utterly bonkers?

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veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

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DialSquare · 07/01/2026 11:45

HornyHornersPinkyWinky · 05/01/2026 17:21

In the spirit of the thread, you should watch The Woman Who Wasn’t There - a documentary about a woman who faked being a victim of the 9/11 attacks.

The lengths she went to were incredible; she invented a whole fake fianceè who was supposedly killed, and even started a blog and a support group for other survivors. She even went to the memorial service of another victim.

She wasn’t even in the USA when it actually happened…

Some people seem to need attention and validation so much that they do batshit crazy things to get it.

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Sadly, the man she claimed was her fiancé, was a real person who died, which made it even more despicable. She also told real victims that they hadn’t suffered as much as her. Disgusting person that she is.

Getoutandwalk542 · 07/01/2026 10:59

I don’t know how to say this without sounding patronising but some people are either not blessed with huge intelligence, or they didn’t have stable, consistently loving parents who pointed out life’s realities and dangers to them, and/or they cannot or choose not to, distinguish between delusions in their own head and reality, or they have a weak spot that makes them vulnerable.

For example, there is a middle-aged lady in my village who is extremely competent and impressive in many ways (think self employed hairdresser, care-giver or dog groomer type job) who drives around visiting people in their homes and is successful and popular with her clients. So by definition, she is trained and competent in her trade, she can drive, do accounts, interact and be personable on a professional basis.

BUT she also fell for a scam whereby a young man from the Congo, twenty-four years her junior, apparently fell in love with her on-line and wanted to marry her. Unfortunately, she sent him enormous amounts of money over two years. We tried to kindly warn her to be careful, and that he may not be who says he is, but she wanted to believe it so much that she wouldn’t hear it.

And to an extent I think it is the same with all of these delusions. Some like the Macron one are obviously politically motivated, but many are just people latching on to a certain theory because it makes them feel safe or gives them an ego boost in a very complicated, rather brutal and unsettling world

DBSFstupid · 07/01/2026 10:26

FOJN · 07/01/2026 09:50

His name is Xavier Poussard the book was called Becoming Brigitte. When I first heard the claims I thought it was batshit but then the Macrons decided to sue Candace Owens and the Streisand effect kicked in so I watched the series CO did based on the book. The evidence is quite compelling but it's easy to make a compelling case if you only present information which supports your claim. What's more interesting for me is that none of the court cases have ever dealt with the substance of the claims, they always deal with something else, a small inaccuracy, hurt feelings etc and if course Xavier Poussard has never been sued.

I don't know what the truth is but the reaction to something most people would have assumed is crazy makes me wonder.

@FOJN very interesting, thanks!

MusicMakesItAllBetter · 07/01/2026 10:24

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

Lol 🤣

FOJN · 07/01/2026 09:50

DBSFstupid · 06/01/2026 10:31

An earlier poster said that the actual writer of the book about Brigitte has not been sued. That is interesting.

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His name is Xavier Poussard the book was called Becoming Brigitte. When I first heard the claims I thought it was batshit but then the Macrons decided to sue Candace Owens and the Streisand effect kicked in so I watched the series CO did based on the book. The evidence is quite compelling but it's easy to make a compelling case if you only present information which supports your claim. What's more interesting for me is that none of the court cases have ever dealt with the substance of the claims, they always deal with something else, a small inaccuracy, hurt feelings etc and if course Xavier Poussard has never been sued.

I don't know what the truth is but the reaction to something most people would have assumed is crazy makes me wonder.

Miraclemuma03 · 07/01/2026 01:11

I think im a pretty logical person, I am high in common sense, im laid back, happy to go along with things and I think im a pretty well rounded person not much upsets me but I can't stand stupid people or people lacking in common sense. But i am also bonkers to the outside world because of my family size. To me its normal, I love it, I do it all well. But ask those around us that I must have a mental health illness for wanting to keep adding to my family. Though I wouldnt every hurt anyone else or make someone's business my business. I definitely wouldnt go around posting fake things for likes or airing out my dirty laundry online.

ErinBell01 · 07/01/2026 00:39

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

And all the men pretending to be women and poncing about on videos with scary makeup, cheap wigs, and lifting their leg behind them as if this is the most female thing ever.

Babygirl166 · 07/01/2026 00:18

the80sweregreat · 05/01/2026 17:48

I’ve had chips with lasagna , but I don’t make it with potatoes. (I do need to find this thread though !)
I agree that some are bonkers, but others are just deceitful. The amount of people taken in by con men and women show how good some are at it as well as the lengths they go to too. I often wonder if they have a kink in their brains or if it was a bad childhood or just for the kicks. People and how they behave is just odd. The man with the medals was disrespectful to those who genuinely were veterans, but it’s also easy to feel a bit sorry for him too. He clearly needs some help.

Search for 'I've made lasagna without the lasagne.

Babygirl166 · 07/01/2026 00:13

60andcounting · 05/01/2026 16:58

I was thinking the same thing.

Me too! I didn't get to the end but most of what was suggested was a no, that's weird 🤷🏻‍♀️

putini · 06/01/2026 23:27

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Bikergran · 06/01/2026 23:08

CrikeyNumpty · 05/01/2026 17:06

That man who went to the Remembrance Service said he wanted a sense of belonging. He had no armed service at all. He has been spotted at other services too. He had a uniform altered to suit high rank in the Navy (posed as a Rear Admiral no less, no lowly rank for him) and bought medals which were his downfall because he was wearing two that had never been awarded to one person before. He also just went up to the Mayoral party and placed himself dead centre in the photos. He was caught by an organisation called The Walter Mitty Something or other - they look out for these types and grass them up. So there are others doing it. Rightfully so, he had zero rights to be there in an official capacity- he could have just turned up in the crowd like any other punter. He wanted the attention. Idiot. It’s like those guys who say they were in the SAS, this is usually said to reel in women. The SAS must have the biggest military squad in the world, the amount of men who have claimed to be ex SAS.

There must be some mental illness at play. Or severe boredom with their real lives.

I am also baffled by the Macron story.

Also, that girl from Netherlands who claimed to be Madeleine McCann had an accomplice in UK, baffling.

I do know people who really were in the SAS. Basically anyone who openly says they were in the SAS..........wasn't.

JudgeJ · 06/01/2026 23:02

tamade · 06/01/2026 06:36

Is it possible that she also had a tea bag or some instant coffee in her kit. She may be an only ever hot water in the flask person. DH is one also.

That would explain the milk and then, y'know why not a nice cup too.

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Milk in drinks from a flask tastes horrible, it's the reason that in th'olden days a lot of flasks had a little bottle in the screwed on base for carrying milk.

BackToBlack2025 · 06/01/2026 22:36

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

It's very odd. I suspect most (on here) do it for attention as they can't get it any other way.

Thepossibility · 06/01/2026 22:15

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BeddieLife · 06/01/2026 22:00

Fulmine · 06/01/2026 21:58

Take a look at at the current thread about lockdown. There's an extraordinary number of people seriously claiming it was totally ineffective.

And on the other side of the coin, remember how insane people were being on here during lockdown? My favourite was posters telling others to put cheese in their coffee because they’d be murdering people if they went and bought milk, but there was tons of even more batshit posts, too.

Namechangerage · 06/01/2026 22:00

Bigearringsbigsmile · 05/01/2026 17:28

Y
Do the same people use flannels or not?

Now that’s a venn diagram I’d like to see!

Fulmine · 06/01/2026 21:58

Take a look at at the current thread about lockdown. There's an extraordinary number of people seriously claiming it was totally ineffective.

Fulmine · 06/01/2026 21:54

I worked once with someone who was convinced the Royal Family were conspiring against her and her family. She used to write to the Queen asking her to stop. When we asked her why on earth they would bother, she'd hint mysteriously that that was all part of the conspiracy.

I was around 19 at the time, so were most of my colleagues, and we used to giggle about it. However, we came to realise that it was all really rather sad, because this lady's life was taken up by this belief and she must have spent all her time feeling scared to a greater or lesser degree.

DreamTheMoors · 06/01/2026 21:48

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 17:04

I do like that the Marcon people were formally prosecuted but will it stop people? It’s like a new illness. Yes, you had people who exaggerated etc but now it’s full blown wacko stuff

I’m disappointed that Candace Owens didn’t get shut down.
She’s the #1 Macron shit-disturber from what I understand.
She’s got a large following here in the US - but I can’t imagine who that would be, or why they follow such a hateful, divisive person. Oh - maybe they’re all hateful.
Australia refused her entry as did New Zealand - which we found very humorous in this household.

PurpleDisco · 06/01/2026 21:43

I read a thread here a few days ago from a Mum who was worried about her child vomiting black liquid and being itchy and they were snowed in on a mountain. It sounded like a dire situation so when I looked for an update earlier the thread seems to have disappeared. Don’t tell me thst was made up…

EmeraldShamrock000 · 06/01/2026 21:24

I vaguely recall a poster getting caught out in a show me your bedroom thread, using google images. Cringe.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 06/01/2026 21:21

The amount of scammers out there, romance and business, people who have a gift for talking their way around things have made millions.
Some don’t even get any financial rewards for their disgusting cat fishing and fake identities, they just cause pain.
Many faking their way into psychology or medical roles caring for the vulnerable.

climbintheback · 06/01/2026 21:17

If men can become women why not - beam me up as they say!

Hellohelga · 06/01/2026 21:13

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

Not to mention the PP who wants to divorce the DH she still loves because he’s going to inherit some money. Possibly same bonkers person.

Fulmine · 06/01/2026 21:04

The worst are the "false flag" conspiracy theorists who won't accept that things like the Sandy Hook mass shooting actually happened, even in the teeth of absolutely conclusive evidence that that they did. Our own home-grown version was Richard Hall who wouldn't accept that the Manchester bombings happened, and made life hell for people who had been seriously injured claiming that they were making it all up -https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c86q0ypq7q0o. I wonder whether he's ever paid out the damages ordered against him?

Richard Hall wears a brown blazer and blue shirt and tie outside court. He has medium length brown hair and a brown moustache and beard.

Manchester Arena attack conspiracist ordered to pay £45k in damages

Richard Hall claimed the Manchester Arena attack, which killed 22 people, was fake.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c86q0ypq7q0o