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To ask why people are so utterly bonkers?

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veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 16:53

Reading about the man who faked being a naval officer to attend memorial events. The lengths he went to, getting a suit altered and buying medals of the internet. Was a professional teacher as well. Madness.

Then the ten people prosecuted for saying Brigitte Macron was born a man. Again, the efforts involved and they mostly appear professional people with full lives. Just mad.

Then you get the people on here pretending with fake stories or just trying to troll people. It’s just bizarre. It’s like validating you are indeed the saddest person ever.

I don’t get it. Is it the internet age? It’s like a boundary has been removed and people in freefall.

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the80sweregreat · 05/01/2026 17:48

I’ve had chips with lasagna , but I don’t make it with potatoes. (I do need to find this thread though !)
I agree that some are bonkers, but others are just deceitful. The amount of people taken in by con men and women show how good some are at it as well as the lengths they go to too. I often wonder if they have a kink in their brains or if it was a bad childhood or just for the kicks. People and how they behave is just odd. The man with the medals was disrespectful to those who genuinely were veterans, but it’s also easy to feel a bit sorry for him too. He clearly needs some help.

LemaxObsessive · 05/01/2026 17:48

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

Just because you’ve never eaten lasagne with boiled potatoes yourself and have never known anyone else to, doesn’t make the OP a troll ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️ Lots of people have weird family food traditions! In my family we always have apple sauce on our roast and none of us eat pork! Apple sauce in the Yorkshire puddings with mash, veg & onion gravy. Weird but it’s how we’ve always done since we were kids and we loved homemade apple sauce 🤷🏼‍♀️ I suppose that makes me a troll now….!

CandlelitKitchen · 05/01/2026 17:48

I work with someone who absolutely insists that everyone in New Zealand smokes.

Hereforthecommentz · 05/01/2026 17:47

Yabu the Internet has got nothing to do with it. There's always been bonkers people.

Horrorscope · 05/01/2026 17:47

Namechangingagain999 · 05/01/2026 17:36

For a period of time i was friends and holiday companion with a group of conspiracy theorists. They were rabidly anti vax and believed that anyone who had Covid vac had been injected with a micro chip in their arm so the government could track them. Apparently if you you were vaccinated and put a mobile phone against your arm it could be held there in a magnetic field. Then they met other people from different countries who believed the same thing! They were also mad trump supporters and horrendously homophobic. I cut all contact.

A couple of people I know have gone down the conspiracy theory route. They didn’t believe Covid was real so we couldn’t really talk about the fact that we’d had it.

More bizarrely, though, there was a conspiracy theory going around that Michelle Obama had 6 fingers. They bought into that one too.

What can you say… 🤨

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 05/01/2026 17:46

Its not a new phenomenon. Source: BBC https://share.google/PrqyJj32LdWowhtBV
She did it for money and fame.
The Macron thing was vile (and there's loads of dickheads who say the same about Michelke Obama.(though dh didn't know about the huge age gap between the Macrons.

Leftsidefacing · 05/01/2026 17:46

Bigearringsbigsmile · 05/01/2026 17:05

Cheese in the bechemal for lasagne is pretty standard And maybe potatoes for a gluten free lasagne?

I think the Internet has allowed all the bonkers people to find each other easily making them more visible and vocal.

The potatoes were to go with the lasagna, the problem was she couldn’t make the lasagna because she didn’t have any lasagna sheets, but did have`other pasta, which is the really nuts thing, why not just use that and make random pasta bake instead of lasagna?

I wouldn’t eat boiled potatoes with lasagna myself but I live in Scotland, home of the macaroni pie, so I don’t think its a shocking thing to do!

To answer the thread, with the way the world is now people are stuck at home and lonely, maybe that’s why doing mad things for attention and / or ‘engagement’, especially if you can remain anonymous while doing so, is becoming very common?

NotDarkGothicMama · 05/01/2026 17:43

I think it's a bit of t'internet and a bit of nowt as queer as folk. Back in the dark ages you'd have Wulfric exaggerating about his exploits in battle to the village womenfolk and everyone would laugh at him and tell him to STFU. Now you get Bill who was in the army cadets saying he was in the SAS, and Betty making up conspiracy theories. The difference nowadays is that they share their tales online and get encouraged by other people so it blows up beyond the local peasants.

GiddyDog · 05/01/2026 17:43

I've been listening to a podcast series about the satanic panic and they talked about a women who published books about her experience as a 'satanic cult abuse victim' and appeared on chat shows and the like. When this was exposed as lies she reinvented herself with a false Holocaust survivor story. Money/attention/delusion/a combination of motives?

UnhappyHobbit · 05/01/2026 17:42

I think there’s a difference though between the odd joke thread and serious lies and allegations.

I just want to distinguish the two incase potato lasagne person is reading and worried that they are as insane.

My mother likes to make up lies. I think I she’s had incurable cancer since she was 22 and it makes a reappearance every now and then.

ChattyCatty25 · 05/01/2026 17:41

veryannoyedtbh · 05/01/2026 17:04

I do like that the Marcon people were formally prosecuted but will it stop people? It’s like a new illness. Yes, you had people who exaggerated etc but now it’s full blown wacko stuff

I don’t like that they were prosecuted. It’s like Madame Macron is a class above normal people and you can’t say silly/insulting things about her.

Who cares if people think she’s trans? Why on Earth should it be a crime? It’s not even bonkers, people said the same thing about Caprice and Lady Gaga, it’s a pretty common rumour.

In answer to your question, there have always been compulsive liars, they just have a bigger platform now. Whereas before they’d be the the local Billy Bullshitter, now the internet can see them.

Horrorscope · 05/01/2026 17:38

BarryKentPoet · 05/01/2026 16:54

Someone has made up a thread about boiled potatoes with lasagne and I just can't deal with anymore internet today.

😂

CandlelitKitchen · 05/01/2026 17:37

If you think of how most people drive (like lunatics), spend money (they don't have on shit they don't need), vote (!?!?), put up flags on lamp posts, get into relationships with the most dreadful people, eat, smoke, drink and vape things that will almost certainly damage if not kill them, regularly take their dogs through fields full of cattle, have a picnic inches from the cliff at Beachey Head and get in the sea when the RNLI have told them not to........well most people are ruddy bananas aren't they?

Namechangingagain999 · 05/01/2026 17:36

For a period of time i was friends and holiday companion with a group of conspiracy theorists. They were rabidly anti vax and believed that anyone who had Covid vac had been injected with a micro chip in their arm so the government could track them. Apparently if you you were vaccinated and put a mobile phone against your arm it could be held there in a magnetic field. Then they met other people from different countries who believed the same thing! They were also mad trump supporters and horrendously homophobic. I cut all contact.

ElephantGrey101 · 05/01/2026 17:35

I think this is not a new thing we are just more aware of it due to the internet. I read a good book by Zadie Smith ( the Fraud) which was based on a true story about this guy who pretended to be a dead Lord to inherit his estate in Victorian times there was a big legal case about it.

People also claimed to be the princes in the tower and Princess Anastasia. We know that girl wasn’t Madeline MacCan because she had a DNA test. In the past people wouldn’t have had a DNA test.

As to why people do it. I have no idea. The psychology behind it is fascinating.

StrawberrySquash · 05/01/2026 17:32

Nezukokamado · 05/01/2026 16:59

She was boiling potatoes for her lasagne and putting cheese in the bechamel. Lasagne is not a complicated dish. Had to be a wind up?!

Save us from the people who don't put cheese in the sauce! Cheese, strong and lots of it, please.

Getoutandwalk542 · 05/01/2026 17:30

NotAnotherScarf · 05/01/2026 17:01

I don't know, but I have been talking to people I know and think are intelligent level headed people and suddenly they come out with the maddest conspiracy theories:

There's a cabal of rich people who run the world or it's the masons
Planes are the main cause of global warming.
The poor lady who fell in a river a couple of years was murdered by the people who own the nearby campsite because they didn't like dogs.
Etc

I just don't understand why you would believe things like that with no proof or reason. Some are funny, some are ridiculous and some like the story that Muslim people were being murdered if they went to hospital with COVID cost lives.

The guy who dressed up as an admiral...why just why? If you want to belong then join the round table or a lions club or the masons and do good things

Well the theory about the cabal of rich people running the world is not far off if you ask me; especially all of the tech giants who own AI and the rest. They certainly seem to be above the law anyway!

For the rest, there have always been wierdy people who tell lies and make up stuff about being in the SAS, having an incurable illness, or being something they are not; it’s just now they attract more attention on-line when they do it!

Why do they do it? Who knows! Self-delusion? Attention-seeking? Inability to come to terms with the fact that most of us are pretty average and insignificant in the grand scheme of things? Insufficient love as a child or over-indulged? Inability to cope with the realities of ordinary life? Lacking in basic intelligence?

BinseyPoplars · 05/01/2026 17:28

The advert for The Salt Path in the middle of a thread about made-up rubbish is making me laugh!

Bigearringsbigsmile · 05/01/2026 17:28

CatFaceCatFace · 05/01/2026 17:25

I have come across people having chips with their lasagne so boiled potatoes wasn't a huge stretch to me. But yes op, people are mental.

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Do the same people use flannels or not?

TheatricalLife · 05/01/2026 17:25

For a myriad of reasons from mental health issues, attention seeking, loneliness, low IQ, conspiracy theorists...people have always been this way. It's just more prominent now social media and forums exists. In the 80s/90s and before you were not confronted with it as often as once you were home, you didn't have a computer in your hand 24/7.

CatFaceCatFace · 05/01/2026 17:25

I have come across people having chips with their lasagne so boiled potatoes wasn't a huge stretch to me. But yes op, people are mental.

hollytheheroic · 05/01/2026 17:24

Donald Trump, enough said.

ilovepixie · 05/01/2026 17:22

People eats chips and lasagna, but buttery boiled potatoes is a bit weird!

HornyHornersPinkyWinky · 05/01/2026 17:21

In the spirit of the thread, you should watch The Woman Who Wasn’t There - a documentary about a woman who faked being a victim of the 9/11 attacks.

The lengths she went to were incredible; she invented a whole fake fianceè who was supposedly killed, and even started a blog and a support group for other survivors. She even went to the memorial service of another victim.

She wasn’t even in the USA when it actually happened…

Some people seem to need attention and validation so much that they do batshit crazy things to get it.

bcski · 05/01/2026 17:20

I thought the potatoes and lasagna thread was trying to goad the people who are always outraged by how much other people eat. It was hoping to get responses along the lines of "No wonder we have an obesity problem", "People have lost sight of what a reasonable portion is" etc.

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