Asked to give up my seat on bus

Yep she did and still sat down while me and others looked on aghast . I was embarrassed for her .

You weren't in the wrong, OP. I'd be put out if I was asked to stand when there were much younger people around. Early 60s isn't old but when you've fallen over it does remind you that your balance isn't quite so good any more. Did no one get up for her at all?

You want respect cos you had a shag without contraception and think you're more important than someone who wobbles when they stand?
The entitlement is staggering.

No it's actually more younger women that tend to stand up on buses, trains and tubes in London. I lived there for 15 years. Often on commuter trains people have their heads buried down. Followed by teenagers of all genders.

When I was heavily pregnant myself I found middle aged women the least likely to offer me a seat. Probably reflected in the attitudes on this thread.

It was fine for her to ask and it was also fine for you to say no. Also no is a complete sentence and you don’t owe her an explanation. I have a hidden disability and cannot stand on public transport and I never feel like I have to say anything more than no.

F off. Hope you've never been pregnant and had to commute an hour on the tube 🙄. I'm glad women DO wear them so I can offer them my seat, which I do every time.

Why wouldn't just ask someone who occupies a priority seat?
There are marked, people sitting on them should know that they will need to give them up when asked.

Well, I'd rather be nearly 26 than nearly 66 - I didn't have the sore feet and legs 40 years ago. I'm doing my best to keep up some level of fitness, but it's much more of a challenge these days - I'm trying to fight the loss of muscle mass, but... I'm shocked at how difficult it is for me to lift heavier weights these days.

I've seen medics about various ailments and have been told that it's simply "age-related degeneration". I've been advised that the most important thing for someone of my age is to try to build up thigh strength.

I'm finding myself amused at the description earlier of someone in their 60s being "middle-aged". I'm not really expecting to make it to 120.

What about them? Clearly required based on the comments on here 🙄

Actual wow.

No. I'm not. Nice try but no. I'm saying people of 60 are MORE LIKELY to have mobility issues and health problems and issues with balance and hearing and eyesight.

Than someone 30 years younger.

I'm embarrassed for you that you don't get this.

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Come off it! - you're acting like 60 is infirm and elderly - whilst accusing others of being agist!

Rubbish. And ageist. The pregnant woman could have asked someone who is 30-40 years younger that the OP for their seat, but nooooo, she picks on the 60 year old. And no, 60 is NOT young. As someone who is pissing distance away from that age, I'm telling you it's bloody not.

Anyone (pregnant or not) who is asking a woman in her 60s to give up her seat instead of asking someone 30-40 years younger is incredibly thoughtless ... Unless the person is disabled, and struggling of course. Then again, even THEY should be asking the people in the accessible seats to move. And if they won't (or are disabled themselves) they should start by asking younger people.

The woman in question was pregnant. Not ill, not disabled. Pregnant. If she was so desperate for a seat she should have asked a few other people. And it was NOT for the OP to ask around for her as one poster laughably suggested!

Can't wait for YOU to get to 60! Your attitude will be a bit different then, I can tell you!

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Same here 🤣

All the LOLz. 😂

Do they really?! Anyone expecting that of me will be very bitterly disappointed!

Same, I commuted into London and used the tubes, and I was constantly offered seats. I didn’t actually need them in 2nd trimester, so often said thanks so much that’s really kind but I’m feeling good today so you keep the seat. Later third trimester I was really grateful as I wasn’t feeling quite as good. My pregnancies were more recent, I was really pleasantly surprised by how kind people were

YANBU. I think that people just expect an older I.e. invisible woman to be safe, motherly and accommodating.

That (pregnant) woman who asked the OP for her seat sounds like such a person.

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I am heavily pregnant myself. I would not ask anybody who was not sitting in a priority seat or anyone slightly elderly. She should have asked those in priority seats first.

YANBU. I don't think she was necessarily unreasonable to ask (although it sounds like she could have picked someone more suitable) but you certainly weren't unreasonable to refuse when you need a seat too.

Well done for holding your ground. That rude woman ishould have asked someone younger. Exactly like your aptly suggested.

As I said earlier, as an older person I find the opposite. The typical seat offerer in my experience, is a guy in his 20s or 30s. I'd say that's the case 90% of the time.

I'm embarrassed to say that women of all ages tend do the opposite, and have their bags on a second seat, making it unavailable, despite multiple people having to stand. I've now taken to pointedly, yet pleasantly, asking them to pick up their bag so that I can sit. At which they refuse to make eye contact and huff a bit.
It's really disappointing, but in this scenario, it's the men that come out ahead.

I remember an older lady angrily trying to give me her seat on a bus when I was visibly pregnant but young and fit. I told her I was fine and happy to stand as I was only going a short journey.

She told me if the bus slammed on its brakes suddenly and I fell over, my baby might die. I mean, I hadn’t thought of it like that before but now do try to offer my seat to pregnant women when I see them.