My son cheated on his girlfriend - Update

Well I couldn’t give my opinion on it without doing so could I? 😁

No I don’t think it does. Most people post about their own problems, their own friendship, marital and relationship issues. This endless relating of someone else’s relationship woes and everyone praising up the OP as a great mum who’s handled it beautifully to the point of requiring a 2nd “update” thread for yet more attention is pretty distasteful I think.

Anyway do you have an answer for my question? 🤔

Hi all, you may recall I posted a couple of days ago about discovering that my DS cheated on his girlfriend in my home. I won’t rehash the details but as it seemed to gain a fair bit of attention I thought I should update everyone who kindly (or not so kindly) commented.

He did tell her yesterday when she got back from seeing her family, they haven’t broken up but she has gone on the holiday alone. She told him she needed space to figure out what this means and what she wants to do about it, but as she already had cleared her schedule for the week and paid for the holiday still wanted to go, luckily snowboarding is an activity that can still be enjoyed alone.

DS has asked to stay here as he already has annual leave booked and knows her friends who are his flat mates know already and doesn’t want to face them until he knows what’s happening. I’ve told him he can stay just this week but if they break up and he doesn’t want to live with her friends then he needs to find somewhere else. He also did actually have an engagement ring, he showed me it today.
I’ve tried to ask why he did it exactly but haven’t been able to get any answers, and ultimately that’s not my business.

I’m glad he told her and didn’t continue to be deceitful and while it pains me to see him in pain, I can’t muster up much sympathy since it was entirely his own doing and I am so disappointed in the decisions he made.

I still remain shocked at those who felt he may have a good reason or thought I was being some sort of awful mother for not enabling his awful choices but rather holding him accountable.

I again just want to thank everyone who was kind and supportive.

Hasn’t stopped you from visiting the update though has it!

I don’t actually think you should be posting such personal information about your son and his girlfriend for 1000s of women to gawk at and discuss tbh. It’s their personal business. The first one was bad enough but to begin a second to “update” as though it’s some kind of soap opera…

Not sure I could forgive my Mum if I found out she’d put my very worst behaviour out there into the public domain.

No I don’t think it does. Most people post about their own problems, their own friendship, marital and relationship issues. This endless relating of someone else’s relationship woes and everyone praising up the OP as a great mum who’s handled it beautifully to the point of requiring a 2nd “update” thread for yet more attention is pretty distasteful I think.

Anyway do you have an answer for my question? 🤔

Oh save the faux outrage, your question covers most of the posts on mumsnet.

Oh I think I will stick around thanks :) Let me ask you, would you like your mum/family member/husband to go on social media and discuss your most shameful, embarrassing relationship related behaviour with thousands of people. How about one of your in laws? 🤔

Hi all, you may recall I posted a couple of days ago about discovering that my DS cheated on his girlfriend in my home. I won’t rehash the details but as it seemed to gain a fair bit of attention I thought I should update everyone who kindly (or not so kindly) commented.

He did tell her yesterday when she got back from seeing her family, they haven’t broken up but she has gone on the holiday alone. She told him she needed space to figure out what this means and what she wants to do about it, but as she already had cleared her schedule for the week and paid for the holiday still wanted to go, luckily snowboarding is an activity that can still be enjoyed alone.

DS has asked to stay here as he already has annual leave booked and knows her friends who are his flat mates know already and doesn’t want to face them until he knows what’s happening. I’ve told him he can stay just this week but if they break up and he doesn’t want to live with her friends then he needs to find somewhere else. He also did actually have an engagement ring, he showed me it today.
I’ve tried to ask why he did it exactly but haven’t been able to get any answers, and ultimately that’s not my business.

I’m glad he told her and didn’t continue to be deceitful and while it pains me to see him in pain, I can’t muster up much sympathy since it was entirely his own doing and I am so disappointed in the decisions he made.

I still remain shocked at those who felt he may have a good reason or thought I was being some sort of awful mother for not enabling his awful choices but rather holding him accountable.

I again just want to thank everyone who was kind and supportive.

It's still public. They publish the threads elsewhere, and the tabloids lift threads from here, too.

It's not in the "Public domain". MN is anonymous!

It's not in the "Public domain". MN is anonymous!

If you find this so distasteful, maybe Mumsnet isn't for you. The more posts there are, the more likely it is that a thread will start trending, so your sanctimonious post will contribute to this.