DD’s ear piercings aren’t seeming to heal-AIBU to take them out?

This.

I think the common mistake with piercings is thinking they'll be fully healed in six weeks and taking them out.

In many cases, healing does take a lot longer and it's wise to keep them in for as long as possible.

I had two failed goes at having my lobes pierced when younger, then tried again a few years ago. I was meticulous with cleaning them (just using salt water), not touching them and then, perhaps a bit overboard, but I left the original earrings on for a year.

Not had a single issue this time.

(Also had my tragus pierced a few months after the lobes - which I had also previously had pierced and had to have taken out - used the same process and again, no issues with it).

I had this problem my whole life then I bought ardant earrings
They are ridiculously expensive for what they are but I've been wearing them every single day since I got them

Given they were only pierced in September and you say that you’ve tried all kinds of ones, I wonder if you haven’t really allowed her ears to properly heal and are then irritating them with all the different earrings.

I would find the ones used for piercing (should be implant grade titanium or possibly if lower quality, surgical steel) and go back to the studio. Speak to a professional there and I suspect your daughter needs titanium earrings in for a long time now to let them heal.

Titanium or surgical steel is probably best. Gold can be hit & miss and silver or any other metal that tends to corrode isn't suitable.

Get a hypoallergenic, flat back stud (a labret) like this and keep them in, bathe at least once a day with a saline solution made of boiled water and salt and stop taking them out/buggering about with them.

I've had my second earlobe piercings for 20 years now, and they still play up.
I can go months and months with no issue, and then all of a sudden they throw a temper tantrum and get really sore and itchy out of nowhere.
The only thing that seems to sort it is to have a week or so completely earring-free, and then put brand new "never worn before" earrings in. They tend to do better with small hoops than studs. I imagine because that's less metal in direct contact with the skin.

How old is she ? Is she maybe twiddling with them a lot with not just washed hands and reintroducing infection .

This happened to my piercings when I first had them done when I was 11. They were very painful and a mess. My mum took them out and I had them redone when I was about 15 and no problems at all second time.

Before you do anything I would talk to a reputable piercer. They will give you the best advice about what to do next, whether that’s taking them out or trying a different metal.

I can only tolerate gold.

Take out current earrings, give a good clean and put in gold studs (actual gold, not plated). Leave them in and aside from cleaning around, leave them alone.

Gold is the only thing that doesnt make my ears sore and they were pierced over 40 years ago! Also hoop settings (with a bar type fixing)as well otherwise they swell up.(9 carat is fine)

Swapping them is good and then dip the new ones in sudacrem and also put a splodge on the back as well.

Like PPs, I'd echo that she might be allergic to the metal. I can only wear gold (though I haven't tried hypoallergenic) as silver or some white golds leaves my skin with bright red marks and the immediate area itches like anything! I seem to remember my ears getting crusty around the piercing holes. Mine is genetic, as my mother is the same.

Try swapping the earrings for different ones.

I have to have solid gold OP. Even sterling causes mine to go red and crack and then weep.

It'll be an allergy to the metal used in her ears. I was allergic to Gold would you believe? So something hypoallergenic might help - or you can try at least 14 carat gold if she hasn't tried gold before? Mine were still bleeding a bit for about a year. They healed within days when I tried silver instead. We are all different.

Took my daughters ears about 6 month to heal and now they are fine. Did exactly as you described one was really thick. It was a build up of blood that i had to squeeze out and then the swelling would go down (was only one ear) we did salt water on a cotton pad and cleaned it. I also think she was sensitive to certain materials (she has eczema) so thats why it took longer.

Try titanium, then leave them alone!

It is possible to irritate by over cleaning. Just rinse in the shower daily without any soap or chemicals and wipe away any crusting with a clean piece of tissue.

Healing advice has changed a lot from what it once was.

Also once they’re calmed down a bit you may need the posts downsized if you’ve not done that already - your piercer can do that for you.

I’d go back to piercing place and see what they advise.

What are you using to clean?

Boiled water, add a teaspoon or two of salt and use cottonwool.

Has always worked wonders. No need to all the expensive stuff they sell you.

Some weird advice on here. If in doubt you could contact your piercer. Some of the advice you’ll get on forums is not good. It’s normal for lobe piercings to take longer to heal than the 6 weeks people talk about, but it sounds like these ones are quite irritated. You really don’t want to be using sterling silver. Surgical grade titanium is the only thing you should have in healing piercings.

How are you cleaning them? It may be that you’re actually doing too much and it’s making them angry. My piercer recommends just giving them a gentle rinse in the shower, using the shower head to wash off the crusty bits once they’ve had a chance to soften up from the water. At a push you could use the spray saline without touching and prodding. Don’t use cotton wool or poke them with cotton buds or anything like that - less is more! And maybe most importantly, make sure you get them fully dry afterwards - use a hairdryer on the cool setting. Good luck!

Titanium or stainless steel. I have sensitive ears and cannot wear anything else.

Solace Jewellery have a good selection.

I think I mean surgical steel not stainless - but I think I'll get DD2 some titanium ones as don't think tried those yet and not had them suggested to us.

I would say try 14ct gold.
Every piercing I have I have to have this.
I'm one of few whose allergic to everything else.
My last piercing the piercer didn't believe me so we tried titanium, 2 months later he agreed to swap for 14ct gold and within 2 days it was healing really well, 2 months later and it is completely healed.

try titanium. drying is more important than cleaning...