We are in Ireland so don't have the NHS. We have the HSE but you'd never get into a rehab on it, so will be private.
There is an enormous back story. I will try to very briefly summarise, but sorry I am sure I will miss lots.
Basically my mother has had a terrible relationship for over 30 years now. My father left when I was a baby, she gave me to her parents, lived with a man in London. Had a well paid professional job. Move me in with them aged 12. I saw the crazy extent of the drinking. Moved back to GPs at 16. She followed a year later - bringing the bottle.
She has never taken any responsibility what so ever for anything in her life. Nothing is ever her fault. She has had 2 life changing health impacts caused directly by excessive alcohol. But she was still in denial.
That is until very recently. I had to put in new boundaries 2 months ago. That ramped her drinking up. She spent Christmas in hospital, where she has admitted she thinks she has an issue with alcohol. Came out and went back drinking within 2 days. We are trying to find a rehab. I really thought we had one but were told that her existing health issues along with the current blood results meant they couldn't facilitate her. But they will review again in 3 weeks.
She told her me that she wants to tell her boss the truth today. That her boss is a nice person and deserves the truth. I know she can't get fired for going to rehab but I think it is an absolutely terrible idea!! I think she needs to call in sick. Going by how much she drank over the weekend and possibly this morning, she won't be going to work. Then when she gets into rehab just sent a sick cert from the GP. She can explain it all to the companies doctor too who can advise HR that she has meet what ever criteria they have.
AIBU to think she needs to limit what she tells her boss?