To lie to the kids' school?

I dont want my child to lie at school so I dont lie

Don’t need to lie, you won’t be fined for 3 days. It starts at 5 days.

Don't lie. If anything, we need to teach children not to lie!
If you really want the children to go, just go.

I am not clear on the rules and process.

Would that not be the place to start? The “rules” differ country to country and school to school, so how can anyone here advise?

I just tell the truth and we have to fill in a form. DD would spill the beans and I’d rather not raise a liar.

Don't lie. You won't get a fine for 3 days.

It will go down as unauthorised but you won’t get a fine for 3 days. IMO it’s a much better option than lying and the teachers knowing and having to make your children lie.

She’s right that teachers won’t care but wrong to say to lie. Just tell the school the truth, accept it as unauthorised and have a good time.

I would never lie to gain something by deception. The children would also have to lie and it teaches them that if you can't get permission for something you can do it anyway but lie.
Just tell the school the truth and if you are fined so be it. You probably won't be.

Your 6 year old will tell her friends and teachers everything the second she gets back to school. Don’t lie. School may not care much but they will think less of you.

Why ask permission? Tell the school your children will be absent.

I lied once and I felt icky about it as soon as I’d done it. I realised it was the wrong thing when I started telling my kids to lie to their teachers so I gave up and phoned in to tell the truth. No good comes from telling children to lie.

im in Scotland so no fines but I think 3 days is below what you’d be fined for anyway.

It will be an unauthorised absence very probably, but not long enough to trigger a fine. What bothers me most about all these queries regarding term time absences that aren’t illness, is the recommendation from some people that you should lie about it. The school staff know you are lying and it does nothing for your relationship, aside from the fact that, teaching your children that lying is acceptable is wrong.

Schools don’t have policies to annoy parents or make things difficult. They don’t set the targets for attendance. They’re just doing what they’ve been told they must do.

they shouldn't fine you for 3 days unless there's a history of missing school.
don't lie. you know the kids will come back looking fresh and healthy and totally blab about everything, or else you're putting pressure on them to lie to their peers and teachers. either way you'll end up feeling silly / crappy

just be honest.

I know it can't be approved but I'm notifying you they'll be out for 3 days. we have an important family wedding and due to childcare they need to be with me. school will presumably already be aware of their parenting situation so should get it even if they can't approve it.

I suspect most of the people who take their kids out of school during term time don’t give a shit and just lie. Teachers know though, because the children can’t help telling them that they’ve been on holiday. I would rather face a fine than be known as a liar.

Tell the truth and accept any fine if there is one.

It’s not about teachers caring whether you lie/go away for a few days. We have nothing to do with the fines!

In my experience, parents who tell their children to lie forget that their children are children and they tell their friends who actually are terrible at keeping it quiet!

Just be honest - it’s so unfair on your child to
ask them to lie. It’s also hypocritical to teach your children to lie. You’d be cross if your child lied to you so don’t teach them it’s okay to lie.

Why would she need to lie knowing the absence would be unauthorised any way?
OP, tell the truth, accept that it may not be authorised, then go and enjoy the wedding. Don’t forget, if you do lie, you’re also expecting your DC lie to their teachers. Not great parenting eh?

Tell the truth. If you get fined, so be it.

If you lie, your kids will have to lie as well which is setting them up to think that’s ok.

Do you then tell your children to lie? Just tell the school, but they won’t approve it. If it is just 3 days then you should not be fined.

Your DC will likely tell the teacher before the trip never mind afterwards

I don't know what actually happens, but I know it is recorded at our school when it is discovered that a child has been off 'ill' but comes back talking of being on holiday. I don't work in admin so don't know whether they follow this up and let the LA know or if the school simply records it for their own records and to note any patterns in absence or if there are any other safeguarding concerns.

You need to factor the cost of the fine into your plans. Your children will get anxious and confused about a lie, not worth it.

Don’t lie, it’s so obvious