To lie to the kids' school?

im a attendance officer you wont get fined anyway so may as well just tell the truth, schools generally will allow 3 days authorised for a overseas wedding 1 day to get there, 1 day for wedding and 1 day to get back

My understanding is they won't fine you unless you miss an entire week. Even if they decline your request to take them out of school, they understand you are going to go anyway, so I would just put in the absence request and be honest.

You don’t get a fine unless they miss more than 5 days in a certain period. 3 days just be honest and no fine

For all those saying it’s 5 consecutive days, the rules changed and it’s 10 absences am\pm in a rolling 10 week period.

You need to read the new rules that came into effect. It’s not 5 consecutive days anymore but 10 unauthorised absence in a rolling block of 10 weeks. Quite concerning you don’t know the rules.

You can check your local authority website for the policy on fines. In my area it has to be 5 consecutive days missed before they can issue a fine. Anything less will be marked as unauthorised but no further action taken. If your area is the same I'd ask permission but if they said no I'd go anyway. Unauthorized is basically a letter U on the register and nothing more

Don’t lie, tell them what’s happening and take your kids to the wedding.

what if someone asks your DC “ah Freddie - are you feeling better?’ Don’t make your child lie.

Hmmmmm, I wonder ... 🤔

'don‘t encourage your children to lie'
Why not?

1. don‘t encourage your children to lie.
2. you won’t get fined for a few days
3. with it being a wedding it might get approved

You 100% won't get a fine for 3 days, its 5 days before you get a fine. I would advise not to lie and just ring up and tell them, they will find out anyway we always do. I work in a school office and the amount of parents telling the children to lie is awful, we always know whether its a tan, the children tell us when the teacher says are you feeling better now and the kids like i was on holiday or someone knows someone so just be truthful.

I’d just tell the school, they can’t authorise it but you won’t get fined for 3 days either. My understanding is it’s 10 session that you get fined for (morning & afternoon register so 5 days). We took ours out for 10 sessions last year, told the school where we were going and that they’d be missing some school, received the standard you could get find if it happens again letter which actually was quite scarily worded but as it was a one off it was fine & no fine. I think fines accumulate over the number of times they are off with unauthorised absences. Have a fab time!!

They won’t approve the holiday as the school didn’t for a close family wedding which wasn’t destination wedding but the home country of new in-law. Take the kids out Tuesday and spend a few days there if you want, they can only fine for more than 4.5 days per term. Or just lie… sickness is 48 hours from last episode. The school will find out but they don’t care! I told one of my children’s teacher that my child would be sick on xx days

I lied when I took my kids to Alton towers on a school day, we decided to take them mid week so that it would be quieter. We usually are quite strict so it was a one off. The next day it came out where she had been and I got a call from the school office questioning her absence. It was so embarrassing and even they said I should of just been honest so it ended up being more than it should. I doubt you’ll get fined for the leave anyway because it’s usually more than a week

You shouldn't lie, the children will just tell the truth anyway.
One day might be authorised for the actual wedding. I'd take them for 3 or 4 days, inform the school. It will be unauthorised but shouldn't get a fine (unless they've already had lots of absences and/or constantly late).

I just told the school the truth, It wasn't approved, but no one cared as kids have good attendance.
4 days, so no fine either.
Kids always drop you in it, so may as well be honest.

School will deny the request but take them anyway. Theyre your kids. Also they have to authorise 3 days for a wedding. One day to travel there, one day for the wedding and one to travel back even if its abroad. So as long as theyre not out of school for more then 7 days (3 authorised then 4 unauthorised) you wont be fined. Fines only apply to 5 days or more. We have done this ourselves

Just tell the truth you won’t get fined for 3 days but it will go down as unauthorised.

Call your children in sick. It’s less paperwork for the teachers, they won’t thank you for telling them. The teachers will also be sure to get selective hearing when the kids talk about it at school later. It’s a shame it’s come to this but it has.

Just ensure you and the kids stay off social media completely during those days.

Don't lie kids can't keep secrets and shouldn't be encouraged to lie.
Before you ho make sure their attendance is as close to 100% as possible.
5 days or more which equals 10 marks 1 in a morning 1 in an afternoon triggers a fine anything less doesn't.
If youre going away for longer book 2-3 days before a term time break it will still be cheaper but wont trigger a fine.

You won’t get fined for three days. Tell the school will be unauthorised absence. No need to lie

My dc only have one person who will babysit for them. They love a good wedding though, and funerals.

Just tell the school. The children always tell us anyways! 😂

Impossible to get someone to sit with my DC and take them to school, they are ND and have additional needs.

Are they really going to enjoy or appreciate a wedding?

I wouldn’t lie, because I think it would be too stressful for the children. One of mine was very rule-abiding (autistic) and would have been on the ceiling with anxiety at being expected to maintain a fallacy. I would just tell the school it was happening and ignore any resultant histrionics. They’re your children.