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Would you tell your ex that you are pregnant?

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emilytr · 05/01/2026 05:00

2 weeks ago I ended things. Dated for 2 years married for 4 Today I found out I’m pregnant . We talk but only about our son. I do not want to get back with him and I also don’t want to say anything to him. The only reason why it’s being considered is because I have really bad nausea. I work 2 jobs moved away from family years ago. I have friends that I’m positive would help if I needed it. Am I going about this the wrong way?

the reason why I left was because of the constant arguing, him putting everything before us and I got tired.

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Zanatdy · 05/01/2026 05:12

If you are going to terminate the pregnancy then no, I wouldn’t tell him. No reason for him to know and he may try and influence your decision. Do what’s right for you OP.

Eviebeans · 05/01/2026 05:10

If you don’t intend to continue then I wouldn’t tell him
There is a possibility that he would want to give the relationship another try if he knew
Why do you think you should tell him

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emilytr · 05/01/2026 05:08

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emilytr · 05/01/2026 05:06

Eviebeans · 05/01/2026 05:04

This is probably the most important factor in whether to tell him or not
Is he likely to want to get back together if you tell him

No..We are done. At least I am.

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emilytr · 05/01/2026 05:04

Babyitscoldoutsideinmyoffice · 05/01/2026 05:01

Are you going to continue the pregnancy?

I’m sorry if this makes any readers upset, but right now I’m leaning towards not going through with the pregnancy. I’m not sure how I’d manage.

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Eviebeans · 05/01/2026 05:04

This is probably the most important factor in whether to tell him or not
Is he likely to want to get back together if you tell him

Babyitscoldoutsideinmyoffice · 05/01/2026 05:01

Are you going to continue the pregnancy?

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