Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

All those saying No - the scenario outlined is the higher earner considering a solo holiday. You pay a big premium for single packages. The difference is often just 10% less than the price for two.

Imo, it's unfair to insist on 50/50 if you were going to pay 90 anyway and the other person's hard up. I have done this a couple of times - paid for two instead of just me - and the friend got a free trip, on condition they bought us a good dinner or something. I felt like having company, they felt like a holiday, all good.

No! If one party can’t afford the holiday, they should make that clear and withdraw from the holiday before booking.

No. Although if budgets were wildly different but I really wanted to them to come on an expensive holiday of my choice and they were pushing for a cheaper one I might offer. But more likely I'd go with the cheaper option instead.

Wtf no

No. If you aren't life-partners you should pay the same, unless you are renting a self-catering house with one master en-suite bedroom and the 2nd bedroom is small with a single bed, in whic case the person with the bigger bedroom could pay a little more (no bigger than a 47.5%:52.5% split) but the cost of the holiday must then be budgeted to the affordability level of the less-wealthy friend and the wealthier friend must not pressure the other person into spending more than they can afford. They may choose to fully fund (for both) some kind of "upgrade" if there's some aspect that they want which their friend can't afford, but they shouldn't be expected or pressured to do so.

Ha! Absolutely not!!! Unless the friend who pays more is getting a better room away from the other one...

Some men maybe but certainly not all in my experience.

Earnings aren't relevant. Two adults going on holiday together pay half each. If one can't afford their half you look at cheaper holidays.

If it’s got 2 bedrooms and one is a lovely en suite room and the other is a kids bunk bed room the one with more money could pay more to get the good room but otherwise I can’t think why it wouldn’t be even.

It shouldn't be expected, but there are situations when it makes sense.

Person A has budget A and suggests holiday they can afford.
Person B has higher budget B and wants a higher standard.

If person B can get their preferred holiday for themselves as solo traveler for budget B, and than add person A for budget A, why not? In a good friendship they can communicate and enjoy a nice holiday.

That’s one solution of course, but it’s a shame.

50-50. Why unequal?

No. Among men it would be thought insulting if someone tried to show off their greater wealth in that way.

No, but occasionally wealthier friend might pick up a coffee tab and expect nothing in return.

You need to grow a pair.
And stand up for yourself.

Don't pay for them.

No. Not between friends. (But in a marriage/long-term serious relationship, then I say yes.)

No way, definitely 50/50 if this is a holiday with a friend. Otherwise its simply not fair and resentments will develop.

I knew one like that. Often ‘forgot’ her purse, took drinks off of otters then went home before it was her round, had to be chased on numerous occasions to pay for her share of a bill somebody had put on their card or for gig:event tickets. Constantly pleading poverty - and now she’s the first person who’s taken early retirement at 58!

I did read an article or possibly a Mumsnet thread recently which was a bit of a salutary tale covering this issue. Group of friends who always ended up subsidising one of the friends because she ‘couldn’t afford’ the things they wanted to do. On occasion they would also down grade their plans because ‘it was too expensive’. Then a few years later the ‘poor’ friend upgraded their house to a bigger one and bought a top of the range car car and it just turned out she was actually putting her disposable income into savings. Obviously that’s fine but if you want to do that don’t accept money off friends to subsidise your social life.

So don't go on holiday together.

No, you each pay 50/50. Unless someone offers to contribute more.

If that's how you frame it to the friend, then yes, pay more. I've occasionally paid for a friend to come on a holiday I planned to do solo, as the price differential was negligible.

If you approach it from the view that the higher earner should pay more, it's all kinds of wrong and will cause problems.

You don’t pay more for cornflakes because you earn more! Of course you should pay 50/50. Hope no-one gives this idea to the Labour government.

Not a chance. I used to holiday with my friends, all with different incomes and if we couldn't afford to pay our share then we stayed home.

I'm a high earner and like to travel. Sometimes in the past if I wanted a friend or partner to come with me who couldn't afford it I paid for some of the costs like accommodation myself or do things like use my avios to subsidise both of our flights. But that wasn't 'calculated' based on income, I just offered and then would see if the other person could afford to come. I'd be a bit pissed off if the other person expected me to do it.

I've put this in past tense as I'm now a single parent so I've got less disposable income.

Funnily enough nobody has ever offered to subsidise me apart from my own parents, even when I've been out of work.

I voted YABU because it sounds like an expectation and as a PP said you choose to work less and possibly a less stressful job.