Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

I'd say friends planning a joint holiday should expect to split the cost. On that basis they should agree a budget and find something they can both afford.

If the person with more money wanted to, perhaps they could sensitively suggest that they could pay to "upgrade" the agreed trip a bit - a nicer hotel, a suite instead of a shared hotel room, etc. But I don't think it would ever be reasonable for the person with less money to start suggesting or hinting that this might be expected!

ETA: having read a bit more of the thread, if one person was planning to take a trip alone and would have more fun if the other person came along, they should feel free to invite them. How much the second person should contribute would depend on the circumstances. Say one person costs £3000 and adding a second person bumps the cost up to £4500, reasonable arguments could be made for splitting the cost equally (because both will get the same holiday) or 2:1 (because one person was paying out 2/3 of the cost anyway).

The first person could even offer to treat the other person if they wanted to, but that would depend on the relationship and would need to be done very carefully to avoid someone feeling either patronised/insulted or setting up an expectation. Perhaps they could present it along the lines of "I'm paying for the room anyway, but I'd have much more fun if you were there too. You'd be welcome to share the room if you cover the cost of your flights/meals out/spending money/whatever"?

There you go sweetie, just a gentle reminder, as it seems you are a tad forgetful 😉

Actually, you replied to me first on the 11th, saying, "I'm assuming that you realise that OP is the higher earner, right?" Gosh maybe you really do need a holiday, huh 🙄

Because you replied to me 😂😂😂

Well, I can't be the only one to assume that, judging by all the comments, so I have no idea why you're homing in just on my comment!

Why would you assume that?
OP talks about the motives behind the higher earners logic, which they wouldn't know if it wasn't them.

No, but then the better-off one has to accept that the less-well-off one sets the budget... they can't expect the other person to pay more than they can afford.

The Op never stated they were the higher earner, so obviously not, like nearly every other person on this thread who has commented, I assumed they were the lesser earner

I'm assuming that you realise that OP is the higher earner, right?

This is surely a joke? If you can’t afford to pay for your own holiday, you don’t go. It’s not your mate’s responsibility to pay for your holiday, regardless of how much money they have. I recommend your friend finds someone else to go on holiday with!!

If the person who earns the higher wage wants to do things that are more expensive then there may be a case for them paying more. Lets say the part timer wants to save by going to a 4 star but the full timer insists on a 5 star. Full timer wants to experience fine dining and the ballet. Part timer does not have the budget for that.

I was once in this position where a companion (an HEO in the civil service while I was a student) wanted to go in a more classy hotel. I was quite happy with a 4 star. I just told her outright that I didnt have the budget for that. I didnt suggest she paid the difference but I put my foot down about the class of hotel we were staying in. In the end I travelled alone as we could not agree.

No it should be equal

"Should"? No
"Would I"? Absolutely.
I wouldn't blame anyone for not paying more, but I'd prefer my friends to have a holiday, than not have a holiday, so I'd absolutely fork out for it.

"Should"? No
"Would I"? Absolutely.
I wouldn't blame anyone for not paying more, but I'd prefer my friends to have a holiday, than not have a holiday, so I'd absolutely fork out for it.

Going on holiday with my friend. Have booked a holiday we can both afford. She is much wealthier than me. The cost is split 50/50. When away I will stick to my budget and my friend will run any extras by me before we decide to do something. She doesn't expect me to do anything I can't afford.

No

Each person pays their half but the budget is set at what is affordable for the lower income friend.

Where is the OP?.
She still has not clearly confirmed who is who.
Which leads me to believe that she is the scrounger.
Am I wrong OP?
Her silence will provide the answer. 😃

I think the OP is the higher earner in the query

Seriously? How stingy and selfish can you be! so just because they work full time and a bit more money they should pay 75% and you 25%??? They get more money because they work for it! If you can't afford to go on holiday with your friend and pay your fair share, then you shouldn't be going at all. You sound like an awful friend

No.
Why would you think that?

It depends- has the higher earner offered this because they want to go away with this particular friend and are happy to pay more or is the p/t lower earner expecting it and the higher earner doesn't want to?

I am assuming the OP was the friend wanting to pay less as they haven't returned to say either way?

You are each getting an equal holiday, same flight, hotel etc so you both pay an equal amount which is half/50:50.

Haven't RTFT but just from the first post.... no, unless they want to.
Otherwise it's cheeky fuckery of the part time person to expect the other to pay more