Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

Is the low earner thick, or just greedy?

If a holiday costs £3k per person, and two friends want to go, then they each pay £3k. Who is struggling with this concept?

On what planet does someone say, well, I can only be arsed to work part time, and that means, I only get paid £2k. Because you work harder to get more money, oh dearest friend, you need to fund £1k of the holiday I want but can't afford.

Two options for the freeloading tit here.

A) Work harder like your friend so you've got enough money to pay both bills and leisure time.

B) Accept you are too poor for this holiday and pick what your lifestyle can afford.

I'd bin off any friend who tried to pull this shit. Partly because being so entitled is an ugly quality and I don't want to be associated with that, and partly because I can't believe anyone would be that much of a moron not to understand why it's an absolute joke to even suggest it.

In the same logic you could argue the part timer should pay more as the full timer needs a break more!

No!

Well this is a shame.

I work full time, in part to be able to pay for nice holidays.
I thought I'd seen an opportunity to work fewer hours and just get friends to pay more instead.

Sadly, it seems that most of MN does not agree this is a viable plan.
Guess I just have to keep paying for myself :)

As the higher earner on holiday with a cherished, long time, uni friend, I quietly subsidised. We sort of alternated but she'd buy tickets for a museum and I'd pay for dinner so I did the heavier lifting. Splitting 50/50 was not important to me aside from not trampling her pride.

Ultimately, the holiday cost her dearly: she tested positive for COVID so couldn't fly and had to stay in France until she achieved a negative test which meant extra accomodation and time off work even though she did a lot remotely. This irritated her DH b/c she was gone much longer and spent much more than they planned. Plus ... he had told her not to go and was annoyed that we had a jolly without him or my DH.

I think it depends on what the holiday is. If it’s a cheap and cheerful one that is well within both friends’ budgets then it should be 50/50. If the friend who is better off is insisting on going somewhere more expensive then I think they should put more towards it or accept that you might need/want to stay somewhere cheaper.

I had a similar thing years ago with a friend. There were plenty of nice hotels we could have gone to but my friend wanted a specific one that was out of my budget (and to be honest I didn’t think looked like it was worth the extra). She was really keen though so she suggested I pay what I would have paid if we’d have gone with one of the cheaper options (ie half) and she would pay the rest. It was a couple of hundred £ more for her I think but she could easily afford it so was happy to do it to stay in the place she wanted. I did feel a bit guilty and did treat her to a nice meal out when we were there (we were all incl so majority of other expenses already covered) but we were close friends and she insisted that it really wasn’t an issue for her so we just forgot about it and enjoyed the holiday. It may not work for everyone but it worked well for us.

Agree, wonder if was expecting “OF COURSE they should pay more!! If they truly valued your friendship they’d pay!!”…🙄

No.

If someone choose to work part time they will have less money. And may not be able to afford a holiday.

Working full time is also a choice. But who’d do it with the expectation they’d have to sub all their friends?

No. If the person who earns less can't afford to go then they don't go. They could suggest a cheaper holiday but higher earner could refuse this and go on the expensive trip with someone else. It would be different if it were partners.

No

nice try 🤣

No, I think the only time a friend would pay more would be if they wanted to go to a specific place with their friend and offered to pay as friend couldn’t afford it. Otherwise it’s choosing somewhere which fits the budget of both and each pay 50/50.

No what world are you from?

Of course not. That would be crazy.

A friendship is completely different to a romantic relationship.

Absolutely 100% NOT. Both parties should agree to a holiday that they both can afford.

No

Definitely not as a rule. But if you have spare cash and want to treat your friend, say they wouldn't be able to go otherwise, then that's up to you.

Are you the cheeky fucker from the £170 birthday meal thread?

There should never be an obligation on anyone to pay more just by virtue of earning more in this kind of relationship. Different if it’s a couple and living together.

I suppose there might be a difference if the trip was solely for the benefit of the higher earner and the lower earner was being encouraged to go as a support etc.

Absolutely not.

Apportionment of costs by earning % is only appropriate when you’re looking household income.

but - the higher earner needs to work to the lower earner’s budget and they should go on a holiday they can both afford.

No. Not even a shred of doubt about this.

No. Cut your coat according to the cloth so if you can’t afford a holiday, don’t go!

No way.

In a relationship where finances are joint then splits other than 50/50 may be appropriate, for anyone else then everyone pays there own way. Budget should be suitable for the lower earner.

No. They are not responsible for paying for their friends portion in any way shape or form. If the friend can’t afford to pay 50% they should come up with a holiday they can all
afford equally.