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Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

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Libbykitty · 04/01/2026 17:36

Just that really.

2 friends going on holiday, should the person who earns more pay more say 75 ler cent of holiday cost, neither person wealthy, but one is part time and the other is full time so earns more.

Welcome thoughts as I am unsure.

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FrodisCapering · 04/01/2026 20:08

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Sleepasaurus · 04/01/2026 20:07

If I was saving for something and couldn’t afford to pay my way I wouldn’t be going.

They are an adult and can either budget or decline.

PennyLaneisinmyheartandmysoul · 04/01/2026 20:03

HoskinsChoice · 04/01/2026 20:00

Why on earth would someone who works full time be responsible for someone who chooses not to? Utterly batshit and cheeky fuckery at the highest level.

Is that not life now sadly, and you can’t question it without being told you are evil! You should be glad to work full time to pay for those who won’t!

HoskinsChoice · 04/01/2026 20:00

Why on earth would someone who works full time be responsible for someone who chooses not to? Utterly batshit and cheeky fuckery at the highest level.

EasternStandard · 04/01/2026 19:56

No 50/50 of course

AgingWellThankYou · 04/01/2026 19:56

No

GreyBeeplus3 · 04/01/2026 19:51

How's about you both pay for yourselves?
And if you don't like
Well don't go together on holiday!

PollyBell · 04/01/2026 19:51

No, 50/50

carly2803 · 04/01/2026 19:50

erm no!! 50/50 or they do not go!

RegularHere · 04/01/2026 19:50

Grammarnut · 04/01/2026 19:33

No, of course not. Why should the person who earns more subsidise the other person?

One practical reason is that otherwise you can only do things the poorest party can comfortably afford and that can itself become awkward.

RegularHere · 04/01/2026 19:48

The usual way to handle this is:

  1. Formal cost split is 50:50, so no one feels taken advantage of or patronised.
  2. The richer friend finds ways to fund more, so there’s no awkwardness about not being able to do stuff because the less-well-off party can’t afford it.

Eg everyone splits dinner, but the person who suggested the restaurant orders a few bottle of wine. We’ve rented a boat for Little Jimmy as he so wants to lean to sail, he’d love if it Bob could come along too if he’s free. Etc.

NoKidsSendDogs · 04/01/2026 19:45

NO. You pay what you owe.

pinkyredrose · 04/01/2026 19:45

Why can't the part timer work full time?

Christwosheds · 04/01/2026 19:44

SouthLondonMum22 · 04/01/2026 17:37

Absolutely not.

This !

user2848502016 · 04/01/2026 19:43

Libbykitty · 04/01/2026 18:14

Thanks everyone

Neither is a CF really in the friendship, part timer saving for something specific so little spare cash, full timer thinking like someone upthread said that the cost difference between 1 or 2 going on this package holiday not a huge amount but not wanting to ruin the friendship or set expectations for the future.

To be fair I’ve heard of people offering to take a friend on a cruise because of the single supplement making it cheaper to take a second person- but it was a one person pays for the cruise but second person pays their half of the food/drink package/travel/day trips etc

So I suppose person 1 could say “I’m going anyway and it’s £ cost for me but only £ amount to add a second so you just pay the extra and we’ll evenly split everything else”

But they shouldn’t feel obliged to do that just because their friend works part time

RickertyRocker · 04/01/2026 19:43

No

50.50

Dgll · 04/01/2026 19:43

Not unless the wealthier one is insisting on a pricey holiday.

Channellingsophistication · 04/01/2026 19:40

Of course not, it should be split 50-50.

TeeBee · 04/01/2026 19:36

No

user2848502016 · 04/01/2026 19:35

No, you pay halves and the price of the holiday should be affordable for both people

Grammarnut · 04/01/2026 19:33

No, of course not. Why should the person who earns more subsidise the other person?

Poutingtrout · 04/01/2026 19:32

One of the maddest things I’ve read on here, and competition is stiff.

Evergreen21 · 04/01/2026 19:31

No. I work part time and if I was going away with a friend would expect to pay halves regardless of what I am saving for. If I couldn't afford the holiday I simply wouldn't go. It isn't mandatory to go on holiday nor is it for a friend who works or earns more to pick up more of the tab. The friend in this scenario is a cf.

CheddarCheeseAndCrispSandwich · 04/01/2026 19:31

This cannot be real!!

Nevernonono · 04/01/2026 19:31

No