Should the person who earns more pay more for joint holiday friends not partners

No absolutely not. You both pay an equal share if you want to go.

Absolutely not.both paying 50/50 going together means that you're both saving money compared to paying for two individuals to go separately. One earning more doesn't mean they have to fork out more for both to get the same holiday whilst the other benefits from paying a lot less and further saving

Its not how holidays are sold but a if its a package holiday the single person ends up paying an under occupancy fee.

If Op wants to have her friends company on a holiday the friend can't afford the Op does have the option to say me going alone will cost say £600, two together will be £1000.

She could offer to pay however much of the £400 she wants. Or accept its £600 for Op alone.

that's not how holidays are sold. The price is per person. The travel agent doesn't have a sliding scale of charges according to your income. You're petrol pump doesn't charge according to.ypur tax bracket, a pint of milk.costs the same from the supermarket if you are a millionaire or on a zero hours contract, or without an income. Grow up.

What are you talking about? 😂 you keep replying to me, trying to justify the fact that you were really awful to the OP based on your poor reading and comprehension skills.

Do you mean give them a completely free holiday? I think you are mad.

But if you want company on holiday and its beyond your friends budget then why not?

Only you can decide if you want company or not or how much they can afford to chip in for it.

If you want to, do it, but if this extra is less than half the holiday cost then I feel you shouldn’t have to. What’s your friend going to pay? Will they expect you to pay for meals and drinks on the holiday? Spending money? Unless the holiday won’t be enjoyable for you without your friend, I suspect this will end up being difficult for you.

If it’s a question of the friend paying the difference in price between one person and two people going on the holiday, that’s different because no more is added to your cost- it’s a good deal for them but less subsidy from you. But I would be uneasy if they pay nothing at all, it feels off and I fear you might be used or that things might get murky between you and your friend, which would be a shame.

Well, obviously it wasn't if 90% of people commenting thought the same, the op didn't state she was the higher earner when I first responded to her post. I wasn't the only one who commented, saying she was out of order. You just decided to home in on my comment, obviously, because you get off on drama. No doubt you'll reply to this comment because you have nothing better to do..repeating the same things like a broken record and overusing the same emojis. But I, for one, have better things to do than carry on replying to a Troll, so I am going to be the better person and let you get on with trolling the next person on the next thread.

Quite.

OP you need to read this until it sinks in

Some of the responses to this are a little weird TBH.

If you worry you'll resent it for some reason then don't make the offer.

But if you're wanting to go on a trip and think "hey, I would probably enjoy this even more with my friend and it would only cost X more for them to come along" then it's also completely fine for you to just ask them to pay that extra cost and their personal expenses. There's nothing wrong with valuing sharing time and experiences with someone over being even-stevens financially. I have people in my life that I do pay most or all expenses when we go out or travel together because at the end of the day I'm far happier doing that than having them say "Ah sorry, that isn't in my budget so I'll have to pass." The key is that I don't resent it and I still feel like they're a net positive in my life and they value me (not my money but me) equally.

Op are you thinking along the line of you are going to x place, friend is welcome to come and pay the difference between single occupancy and double plus transport?

So they can afford the holiday, as they are regularly saving money, but they choose to spend it on home improvements, not a holiday. If they want a holiday, they need to release some that money, and delay when they are going to start the home improvements.

Maybe on holiday treat your friend to a meal out or excursion, but the basic cost of the holiday should be 50:50.

😂😂😂 you're hilarious. The OP is the higher earners. It was obvious from the earlier posts. You made an incorrect assumption, and vilified her for it, and cant even own up to your mistake 😂😂😂

They may well want to do home improvements but that's no reason for you to sub their holidays.

Most, if the money won't stretch to paying for both have to chose one or the other.

If you are feeling resentful then don’t do it. Not sure why you want to make yourself stressed and miserable for something that is not a necessity.

it’s actually even worse now you had said the friend is saving for home improvements if it was general low wage poverty I could ( and even then it’s still cheeky) maybe say ok, but home improvements suggests something like a new bathroom or kitchen or even re carpeting, if so then you make your sacrifice, stay your carcass at home, continue to save and don’t burden anyone with your ridiculous entitlement

Hi Op did the person suggest they pay less? I think if they were the one who thought of that idea I’d say no. If the idea came from you and you want to offer that arrangement to them kind of be clear that you’re treating them and subtly get across it’s a once off.

I had a friend who worked part time that I used to help out for years because she had kids and I didn’t plus I worked full-time.

But when she started expecting me to pick up the bill at dinner or send her kids birthday money etc I stopped doing it as I felt taken for granted and subsidising her life choices.

Either way it’s best not to do it if it will leave you feeling resentful.

I’m saving for home improvements too. That means that I don’t go on holiday. Not that I do go on holiday AND expect some other mug to foot the bill.

I’d be rethinking this friendship in your position.

If you had already decided to go away and had a certain destination/hotel/budget in
mind you need to approach your friend in a way of saying “I’m thinking of going away to X and staying in Y, it’s looking at costing roughly £X amount, would you be interested in coming.”

Or if you don’t have a destination in mind you say “Im looking at going away, how much would your budget be to join me and I’ll see if I can find anything suitable in that price region.”

Lmao Pot kettle springs to mind, You clearly stated the op WAS the higher earner when truth be told you haven't got a clue either. I personally think I've been rather polite compared to you.

part timer is an absolute cheeky fucker to think they should pay less because they’re saving for something. If you’re saving for something don’t go on holiday.

If I was booking a holiday with a friend I would ask their budget/tell them mine and book accordingly. No way would I expect either one of us to pay more than the other.

I’ve got a holiday booked, thanks for your concern. I’m not frustrated in the least, I find it highly amusing that you’re so invested in trying to argue that you weren’t “wrong” when it’s patently obvious that you were. 😂😂

Actually, you said they were the higher earner (not that you assumed they were) when you also had no idea if that was the case. Now go and book that holiday you so desperately need. You sound a bit frustrated,

What are you blethering on about?
You said that OP was the lower earners. I simply pointed out that its a reasonable assumption that they are in fact the higher earning and didn't deserve your snide comment. Now you cant let it go, just because you don't want to admit that you were wrong 😂😂😂