9yo and social media

I hope this isn’t true or else he’s going to grow up with even more issues than he already has!

And this is exactly why he went behind your back and set up the account. You've done the right thing in deleting it. Stand firm, otherwise you'll be in for a rough ride when he's a teenager.

Sounds suspiciously like you are telling us off for giving you good advice.

He will sulk until he forgets why he's sulking and he'll eat when he's hungry.

You need to realise he's not in charge and his wellbeing is in your hands.

You are falling into exactly the trap that sm sets for children!

Must keep the streak or there'll be hell to pay

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Its so unhealthy at any age but especially so at your son's age.

Read the book The Anxious Generation, for his sake.

You can't see her face but it's child content so clearly a child. No identifying features on it and she doesn't have access to it so I don't see the problem.

My son was a child TV actor where you saw his face and my daughter has also been on a kids tv show, no one has an issue with that so I'm not sure why it's an issue to not see my childs face on an account that no one can contract her on.

And this boy is meant to be sensible??

Well clearly he’s proved he can’t be trusted so why on earth are you even considering it? He’s shown you how irresponsible he is and how temptation made him go behind your back. I can’t believe you’re even describing him as sensible too!

Refusing the eat, that’s very drastic.

Have you had conversations with your son about the internet and the dangers of it and the long term knock on effects of what we upload and share etc?

This is so grim. Why are you ok with letting your daughter put herself out there online when you clearly know disgusting creeps are viewing her videos and doing God knows what with them 🤢🤢

When will parents just start putting their foot down and say no and that social media and uploading and uploading of yourself on to the internet for the whole world to see isn’t what kids do.

Absolutely delete the account and change the settings on his IPad so he can’t do stuff like that, he shouldn’t have had the means to do it anyway. Why does he need to share his builds with strangers?

If you have family who are interested I’d download a family photo app and let him share them on there just to close family.

My 10 year old wants an account to be able to look at social media. I said no because she’s 10 and I’m a parent. She’s too young for social media whether it upsets her or not.

Can you not just log into the account through your phone and delete it on his?

My 10 year old wanted an account to post videos, so I created one on my phone. She does not have access to it so really it's mine, but with her videos and I just show her the likes or whatever.

I have had a middle aged man messaging the account clearly believing she had access to it. I blocked and reported but also told her about it and explained that's why she isn't allowed her own because of safety issues.

Before that she had complained because some of her friends were allowed on their own phones, but it naturally frightened her that strangers could potentially contact her and now understands why I won't let her have her own and is happy with it.

This is contradictory.

It doesn’t matter if it’s his account or his friends, you’re letting him put himself out there on the internet when his brain isn’t fully developed and he doesn’t understand the dangers that come with the internet.

Stop time toeing around your son and be a parent. Explain that social media and sharing yourself online isn’t for children and he can do that when he’s older if he so chooses to.

The answer is his is closed down and you operate one for him on your phone. He never posts directly- he has to go though you. He never reads the messages directly and he only views it when you are with him. You make it clear that the lego is made by 'jeffloveslego' (made up name) and in the bio you note the account is run by adults.

If he doesn't stick to these rules, no more lego posting. I would get something like Family Link loaded onto your devices asap.

Or how about he stays away from social media altogether until he is a.) Old enough to legitimately have an account and b.) has earned back your trust. Passing the responsibility for monitoring this onto your DS's friends Mum doesn't solve the problem.

He’s far far too young for sm. Be the parent.

At 9??? How is your child even unsupervised online??? Appalling.

Why? He’s disobeyed you, put himself at risk and now you are leaving the supervision to another parent for something he had proven he can’t be trusted with? He’s a young child. You’re a parent so act like one.

I’ve voted you are being unreasonable because you should have more control over what content your child is seeing and he shouldn’t have been able to sign up for an account in the first place.

There was no need to ring his friends mum, he’s your son and what you say goes.

You should have parental controls on to the max, be checking what your son is accessing and educating him on social media and the internet.

Look at the NSPCC and other websites like they for age appropriate videos that he can watch about the subject.