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To dislike my mil despite not wanting to dislike her?

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retun · 04/01/2026 12:10

It’s exhausting. I don’t want to dislike her, but I’m prone to rumination and after she’s said something stupid for the hundredth time I end up thinking about it nonstop.

I’d really like to be able to ignore her existence entirely, except for the times when I actually have to socialise with her.

Her latest comment was regarding my tipple of choice and how I ‘can put it away’. I do tend to drink more when in her company, funny that!

OP posts:
DierdreDaphne · 04/01/2026 13:03

I don't like your MiL OP. Don't bother trying to like her, she's rude and judgemental. Just chuckle inwardly and take the pressure off yourself.

outerspacepotato · 04/01/2026 13:02

DierdreDaphne · 04/01/2026 13:00

Which is very rude of her!!

No, saying out loud what someone is actually doing isn't rude.

DierdreDaphne · 04/01/2026 13:01

JLou08 · 04/01/2026 13:00

Saying you can put if away isn't really a horrible comment. Are you sure she is making horrible comments and it's not just you looking for something to be annoyed about?

Yes it is

outerspacepotato · 04/01/2026 13:01

Maybe you've just hit your bitch eating crackers point where her just eating crackers would annoy you.

DierdreDaphne · 04/01/2026 13:00

outerspacepotato · 04/01/2026 12:59

You drink more alcohol than usual around her, you say so yourself.

She's just stating the obvious.

Which is very rude of her!!

JLou08 · 04/01/2026 13:00

Saying you can put if away isn't really a horrible comment. Are you sure she is making horrible comments and it's not just you looking for something to be annoyed about?

outerspacepotato · 04/01/2026 12:59

You drink more alcohol than usual around her, you say so yourself.

She's just stating the obvious.

TwattyMcFuckFace · 04/01/2026 12:56

Can you give an example of her horrible comments because you haven't really so far?

retun · 04/01/2026 12:53

She’s the main catalyst for sure. Always making horrible comments.

OP posts:
Catza · 04/01/2026 12:12

You know your issue is with rumination. That's on you to fix. She just happend to be a catalyst

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