To think it was my curry?!

No, not at all, it all goes in the fridge, is used for the next few days, lunches, snacks, added to other meals etc.
For example, let's say a few bowls of chicken quarters, served with chips, salad, cold cuts etc, all of that can be used the next day if any is left over. Chicken stew, soup, nothing is wasted.
To the second bit, I would never serve onto someone's plate. It all goes in the middle xx

@Twinkletoes127

but that means waste every single meal, you’re making an excess. Must be expensive no?

also when you see someone with a clean plate at the dinner table - do you ask them if they’re still hungry and would like some more or do you just assume and put some more on their plate for them?

I will answer honestly as you phrased it as a question specifically. In my house, there would absolutely, always be food left over and people generally would only take what they wanted, little by little, or portion by portion.
If in tbe event that there were "clean" plates, then I would add more food to the middle to ensure everyone is fed.
Clean plates to me means there wasn't enough food.
I hope no one thinks im arguing, im answering the question

@Twinkletoes127

eh?? They’d eaten all their meal. A full portion of curry from a takeaway is massive! Clean plates certainly doesn’t mean still hungry! In your view is someone only full if they’ve left some food on their plate??

Terrible attitude to be so wasteful and seemingly proud of it

Yes OP

And why didn’t you lie in the hallway so he could avoid putting his manly feet on the floor. 😵‍💫

You’re the one going on about it

Ah OP, why couldn’t you have just given it to him? He’s a guest in your home! And also a man - men need more calories than women. If he left any of it, then maybe you could have had that but only after double checking that he absolutely didnt want it. Poor bloke seeing and smelling a nice curry and not being able to have it.

Why though should it have been eaten separately from the guests presence? Do you think it would have made the guests sad, angry, frustrated, annoyed, miserable, upset, confused, bewildered, puzzled seeing their host finish her remaining bit of curry?

Who would have thunk an adult finishing their curry in front of other adults (who had also finished their curry) could be so triggering.

That was going to be my next post 😂

Pretty much all restaurants have cartons for you to take any remaining food home if you wish. I actually took some home a few day’s ago as I wasn’t that hungry in the restaurant. I really enjoyed it, heated up, later in the day. It would have been a terrible waste of food and money if I’d just left it. Some leftovers are unsalvageable, but those that aren’t are a very valid later snack or dinner.

Can I ask why? I mean would you really throw away food that hasn’t been touched (eg half a Lasagne remained in the baking dish).

Wait until Brenda learns about doggy bags! Mind blown 😂

having left overs doesn't mean everyone gets a bite of everything - the curry was the leftover you chose - I mean jesus he would have been taking the food out of your mouth literally after 5 days of you catering for him! He was both a greedy and cheeky fucker. As to sharing - seems it was all one way - you and dh sharing with them but it didn't much work the other way

I couldn't imagine asking to eat someone else's curry when I had all of mine the day before and they had also fed me for 5 days!

Well exactly.

They're all adults.

Not a couple of kids faced with the last sweet!

I think generally you sound like a lovely host, but on this occasion I think it was a bit weird to have kept one particular dish especially for yourself. I get your explanation, but it should have been eaten at a different time without the guests. If it couldn’t have been frozen or eaten after they’d left I think I’d have binned it this time. But the guest sounded a bit bolshy and rude too. And I would definitely have paid for my host’s takeaway (other than that I don’t think it’s unusual to provide meals and cook for guests).

Which is fine if you like doing that, we don’t!!

I know.

I couldn't imagine asking to eat someone else's curry when I had all of mine the day before and they had also fed me for 5 days!

This is why I bought a small house.

He wasn't implying the curry was better, he wanted some in addition to what op served

That is such a waste of food. We often have leftovers for lunch the next day. Last night we had bubble and squeek from Christmas dinner leftovers.

Nothing gets wasted in this house.

Jesus, and here we have yet another bloody thread where the OP asks a simple question and people pile on to pick apart her actions, character and even her marriage!
She hosted these people for 5 DAYS, ffs! And yet somehow she’s a bad host and her “behaviour” is not much better than the cheeky git who was extremely rude.
@Lolabear38YANBU and I admire your calm manner in batting away some of the ridiculous picky responses on here.
You sound like a lovely host. Please may I come and stay? (I promise not to stay for 5 days or demand the food off your plate)

Exactly. Not rocket science is it, though to some people it might as well be 🤨

Would people who say she should have let anyone of the six other people there share her left over curry think the same if it was her half eaten roast dinner, half eaten Cornish pasty or bowl of soup?

I can’t get my head round some posters.

@Happilyobtuse I don't think it's bad manners to eat half of a curry which belongs to you. The guests had the same option to save half of their curry too but they didn't which is their choice.

They can't then expect to eat all of their curry and someone else's curry too.

been a host does not mean you are a doormat to (DH)visitors. She is entitled to also eat and enjoy a leftover curry she had paid for! Especially after cooking for these visitors for 5 days- 3 meals a day with mains and deserts etc.
this was not a sleepover visit.