To think it was my curry?!

5 days of hospitality? They clearly see you as the hired help. Never again host these people they are cunts.

But the guests already had this "nicer food" yesterday. They all had their full servings of curry in one sitting, OP just held half of theirs back. OP didn't have anything the guests hadn't already had themselves.

I’d not have these people over again. Tight bastards!

Which the OP gets first dibs on because everyone else had a full portion the day before and she only had half.

I can only ever eat half a portion especially when there's rice, naan, sides etc and when I do, too fucking right am I having it again the next day.

But I wouldn't have spent the last 5 days doing 90% of the catering for his friends either.

I am interested to know what DH felt about the freeloading? Very rude and ungrateful in my opinion. Next time set better ground rules before any friends are invited again.

I wouldn’t have them back and I wouldn’t want to visit them.

Was the ‘I guess Lola doesn’t share food’ based on friends with Joey saying ‘Joey doesn’t share food’? I’ve heard it quoted as a joke by friends. But totally unnecessary and rude! I can’t believe they have let you pay so much and not contributed much to the all food!!

I hope they all paid for your pub lunch, as a thanks for your hospitality?

Cannot believe they didn’t offer to pay for the takeaway when you’ve hosted them and spent a fortune on food. Height of rudeness. Fair enough if he asks if the curry is to share, but when you made it clear it wasn’t, he was extremely rude saying what he did. I would not be having these people to stay again.

Oh but how awkward to not share everything out though 😅

it sounds draining to have to cater for people you do not even like for 5 days and him being insistent on having the curry was odd, but then you keeping the nicest bit of food b back for yourself was odd too

i had dinner at friends’s house (their idea) and they plated us up food, then once we had our plates they brought out a special dish just for themselves

it was so odd, yes they feed us, but to me holding back the nice food just for yourself when you are hosting and then eating at the same table is weird behaviour imo and not very hospitable. We had lots of bread and some ham in our plates, the potato salad and smoke salmon was just for them 😂😂😂

i always make sure my guests have what they like and served myself last

The friend was rude and greedy

However by being a doormat for their 5 days with you, you've set a precedent for them to treat you badly

I think that he was extremely rude for his words and for not shouting the pub meal or paying for the take away etc. I wouldn’t want them coking back.

However if I wanted the left over curry for myself I would have his it in the back of the fridge and eaten it when I was alone. It does sound a bit strange to me that you would serve different food for your guests and yourself.

We eat leftover curry as there's usually more than enough for a second meal. You were too polite to the ungrateful, greedy git. Perhaps your retort should have been "well you could have had curry if you hadn't shoved it down your greedy gob and eaten it all". Also did this person share theirs? Wouldn't invite this bunch of freeloaders again either. You're not a hotel, but a home therefore you muck in and help with the cost etc.

What a CF. Yeah they would not be getting an open house offer next year. I’d even go as far to comment when they leave… “Can’t wait for you to have us next”. I’m sorry but some people will take kindness for weakness. Thats not just an off the cuff comment.

What a CF. Yeah they would not be getting an open house offer next year. I’d even go as far to comment when they leave… “Can’t wait for you to have us next”. I’m sorry but some people will take kindness for weakness. Thats not just an off the cuff comment.

Urgh you were definitely not being unreasonable OP. This reminds me of when some of DH friends came to stay with us for several days from abroad. We provided all the food and drink for the several nights they stayed, with me cooking all of it everyday. DH’s friend then made some dig at me at the pub making out I was tight for not buying him a drink. I hit the roof having provided ALL
his food and drink, driven him around and put him up for several nights at my expense! Think he at least realised his mistake though, sounds like your DH’s friend is a bit oblivious.

Well done for standing up for yourself!

This.
Or "did you share your curry last night?"

I voted YANBU, but I do have to ask why you didn't get them to contribute more (both money and effort)? And agree with PPs that you have set a precedent for future visits of you doing all the work.

Left over takeaway I would eat myself but wouldn't give to guests. I would be a bit concerned how safe it would be to eat the next day (you never know how it was treated before you got it) so my reasons for not offering it wouldn't be because it was mine.

Otherwise I would have put all the leftovers out including 'my' leftovers. But as a guest I wouldn't have been demanding share if it wasn't offered, unless I was a bestie and desperate for a bit!

Hope they are equally generous when you visit them.

I laughed when he had a dig at you not sharing, but he had no intention of sharing it when he said "I'll have that!"

Really greedy and cheeky.

I’d have said “hmmm you have a massive plateful of MY food so I guess I do share” then stared him out

I think the friend was rude as you had already put dinner on the table and separately heated the curry while everyone else was already digging in.

As an aside why didn’t they wait for you, the host, to sit down before starting to eat? What dreadful manners are they always this inconsiderate? I know my DH would refuse to eat and would be quite verbal to others to wait, until I was seated.

I can’t imagine sharing a half curry with several people either seems like such a silly comment from that person.

I think next time you shouldn’t feel obligated to pay, cook or clean up after every meal for these people. You’ll just end up doing it for years not only for friends but family too. Put your foot down!

They didn’t offer so…

it's half a portion of leftover curry....

I’m so glad you stood up to that greedy bully and ate your curry!! If you go to stay with them remind dh his friends were really pretty greedy pigs and we won’t be offering to take them out in thanks, we’ve already pre thanked them very generously and he had the absolute nerve to have a go at me for having my own leftover curry, just because the greedy sod has never had leftovers of his own.

What a greedy pig he is. YANBU.

I'd have done the same but would've called him a fat bastard first.